.....always hear that to love is to give everything, hold on to nothing. On the other hand, I do get advises from people who are in a relationship who tell me to love, you need to be selfished sometimes.
...For example;
You saw that your bf/gf's family members are taking advantages of him/her. You try to protect her by asking her not to be too nice, too giving or have less contact with them. These seem to be selfished acts, all round relationship may be strained, but you love your girlfriend, you don't want to see her get hurt......
Yr example given doesn't sound selfish le...
In fact, sounds more like concern and helping her.
L is for the way you look at me
O is for the only one I see
V is very very extraordinary
E is even more than everyone that you adore
& that's LOVE~
Love was and is never selfish. People are, people who assume that they have it in them - but in actuality beggarly, miserly - hence they become selfish. Insecurity needs security of another or .. so one tends to cling, to hoard, to own to feel secure.
This is certainly not love - something else masquerading as love - a bargain, a compromise.
Love is selfish man
You want your girlfriend to be happy because it makes you happy Because you value her more than what it cost you to make her happy. That is selfish.
If you call that a selfless act you are saying that you don't gain in any way when she is happy, that you have sacrificed; made a net loss whatever you did to make her happy. I.e. whatever you did to make her happy was not worth what it cost.
Which one makes more sense?
Originally posted by ulquiorra87:Love is selfish man
You want your girlfriend to be happy because it makes you happy Because you value her more than what it cost you to make her happy. That is selfish.
If you call that a selfless act you are saying that you don't gain in any way when she is happy, that you have sacrificed; made a net loss whatever you did to make her happy. I.e. whatever you did to make her happy was not worth what it cost.
Which one makes more sense?
....quite confusing, when you make your girlfriend happy, you also happy what? what's there to sacrifice? This is true love, not selfish...
i gave up on love. loving someone seriously will just cause you to get hurt. esp with insensitive, useless guys arnd nowadays, which acts like girls when i play the role of the guy.
Originally posted by Mybluemoon:i gave up on love. loving someone seriously will just cause you to get hurt. esp with insensitive, useless guys arnd nowadays, which acts like girls when i play the role of the guy.
..... I believed there're good ones around, don't give up so easily
love no selfish. market selfish.
you can't really meddle in your bf/gf's family affairs. It's better for she/he to solve it herself/himself.
love u have to be selfish..e.g. got 1 guy after ur gal... den u not selfish enough to snatch or kick tt person far far hih chance ur gal will be gone if u heck care...
so will u have to be selfish if u are confident enough u wll giv him or her love and happiness no1 can... on the other side if u cant... u have to let go.. although love is selfish.. but wad matter most is how he or she live...
Originally posted by dangerboi:you can't really meddle in your bf/gf's family affairs. It's better for she/he to solve it herself/himself.
Agree...maybe advise me gonna say is selfish but its true...
Its safer not to get involved with his/her family's affairs...cos it will strain your relationship with him/her...
Being concern is one thing...sticking your head into something that you can't handle is another...
Love..
What is Love ? Dont all good things associate with love ? Or does love become a form of evil if you love wrongly and blindly.
i pangseh my friends for love.
that's called selfishness.
Yes.. but if u bring ur love out with ur friends..
its called.. balance liaw. LOL!
But its easier said than done. lol