Life is depressing
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My frens of my age already had careers and children. This is what any normal people would have - work and family. Even my brothers are already attached, are working, have friends - normal lifestyle.
For me, my future is very empty. I am already 30 yrs old, I don't have any savings cos I am not working most times. I dare not even think of looking for a bf.
I don't feel like going to work yet very boring staying at home. If I don't work, I'll have no $$ to spend. Not hungry for shark fin or birdnest. Maggie mee and biscuit are already enuff for my basic needs.
On seeing that my frens can afford to buy a condominium. I can only say she work hard for it. No point comparing or feeling sour.
I know if I don't do anything about my Life now, my future will be forever depressing. But I just don't feel like doing anything at all. I am rotting at home now. I have upset my parents due to problem with my brother.
By the way, I haven't been eating for 2 days already. Drink water only yet don't feel hungry at all. Whenever I am depressed, I couldn't eat at all.
Problem now is I've upsetted my parents. I am so old already yet still make them worry about me.
And yes, I have a small request. I need someone to talk to, perhaps in IRC or thru phone. Anyone? Thank you very much.
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Hello raingal,
Yes life can be depressing at times, I been through that stage, and seriously its no joke. I might be a few yrs younger than u, but i can frankly tell you that i been through much more depressing stage as well. Maybe sharing of life experiences helps. Btw, you already took the 1st step out, that is to let others help u. I just hope my advise do helps a little.
Since you already realise yr problem, that is you dun do anything now, yr future will be forever miserable or depressing. Also, i see taht u realise that you should get a job too, but mind if i ask why don't you do so? I mean, at least a job provides you with the basic needs, it takes up most of yr times so you don't have much time pondering over other things. And yes, no nee dto envy yr friends, they work for it, you can too. Just start now, maybe you'll be some1 also in 5 yrs times, no1 knows what gonna happen. Its never too late unless u dun try. May i know what's yr reason for not wanting to work? Do you know that there are actually many pple ard who wants a job now but can't get cos of economy downfall. So 1st of all, I believe you should get a job as it will take a part of yr depression away.
Yup, its natural that yr parents will be upset. I mean, who wouldn't, when they see their own children can't get alone. Dunnoe if u see the point, if you start working, the immediate benefits u get is as below:
1)you will spend less time at home, then less time for conflict with brother (i presume u all live together)
2)your parent will worry one thing less for you.
3)maybe you will meet yr Mr. Right at yr new workplace
who knows? even if no mr. right, sure will make some more friends who can listen to u, live!
4)your current lifestyle will make a U-turn for sure
And yah, actually do u realise u know yr own problems well but u r just grumbling abt them and not doing anything. If you dunnoe yr problem, then its very hard to tackle it, but since you know yr problems quite well, i guess u can start taking some actions.
Oh yah, also, dun just drink water, you will only end up getting gastrics!!! then will have to spend more money to see doctor only or buy medicines. At least have yr basic meals or at least grab a bite! Then u wun end up so miserable. i dun have gastric but seen b4 friends who have....... ermmmmm very jia lat one i must say.
I wished i can help more, but guess all i can do is advise you. Yes, you are down, but you are not out yet. U took the 1st step forward, now is the time for 2nd. Oh yah, just in case u really start looking for a job, ermmmm dun be disheartened if got reject cos now not easy to find one, but at least try
Really wishing you all the best! Do update us how r u getting on every now and then okie?
Regards
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nOthiNg iS ImpOsSibLE In tHiS wOrLd
EvEn tHe wOrD ImPoSsiBLe SaYs "i'M pOsSiBLe" -
raingal...? So long since I last heard from you? HOW have you been doing lately...? Still doing ok?
If you want someone to talk to over the phone you can always e-mail me and ask for my number? I certainly do wish to have a talk with you...? And just in case you've lost my e-mail address it's [email protected]... Who knows? We might even meet up one day for a cup of coffee...? 
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Hello Raingal,
You're a little rattie than. 1972.
I'm not about to dispense long advice but stop feeling depressed. Get out of the house. Do something, find a job and stick to it.
Don't shortchange yourself. Go seek your own happiness. -
hmm... have you ever ask yourself.
Is there anything in the world that you like to do.. or make you happy?
Regards,
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Originally posted by Klactovak:Hello Raingal,
You're a little rattie than. 1972.
I'm not about to dispense long advice but stop feeling depressed. Get out of the house. Do something, find a job and stick to it.
Don't shortchange yourself. Go seek your own happiness. Listen to Kalactovak, he've got a POINT....? Not something very fanciful or might not even be one which you would like to hear.... But he's got a POINT which is STRONG enough to hold in a certain sense? -
i totally agree that life is depressing and bored sometimes...
when u step out and work u 'll know...but wat to do?
we'r humans...then hor life is cruel... at the morment we r born, we are actually awaiting for death to come and recieve us...
just like me now awaiting to knock off work hahaha... "sang ban den sia ban"
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its time for mi to do a lil of self reflection too
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I think you need to find a job at least... maybe ask yourself where your interests lie and find a related job.
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Thank you all.
I just went to see doctor this morning and is feeling better now.
Devil, I've been trying to call you last night but you can't be reached.
Bigdeal - Life is cruel and meaningless. I don't want to commit suicide, so I am awaiting death now. All of us have to die anyway, so why I am born in the first place?
Atti, the main reason why I don't feel like working is I always enountered colleagues problems at work but I know I'll have to learn to overcome it.
Yes, you all are right. All I had to do now is to get a job. Crysania - I know what kind of job I want to do. And it's all about stepping out the house and go for interviews.
And I think tortus has ask a very good qn. I am so depressing till it's like I couldn't see my future at all. I don't know what can made me happy, what I want, what to do etc. No friends to go out with, nevermind, I prefer alone and staying at home anyway. No $$, nevermind, eat bread and drink water lor. Got $$ then eat pork chop and drink coke lor. Something like this, I duuno you all understand how I feel or not bcos I've depression.
Which is why when klactovak said: don't shortchange myself, go seek my own happiness. How? -
Oh my gosh, raingal, you been drinking water only? Better don't be so depressed anymore, life is full of chances and opportunities and best of all, life is full of good friends and nice people, it's just tt you havn't met some of them, perhaps. Although life is very realistic, you shouldn't worry about not having an income now, it's economic crisis, you aren't the only one suffering now, try to look on the bright side, if you need someone to talk to, you can also approach me, that is, if you want, then I can giv you my contacts, ok?Originally posted by raingal:My frens of my age already had careers and children. This is what any normal people would have - work and family. Even my brothers are already attached, are working, have friends - normal lifestyle.
For me, my future is very empty. I am already 30 yrs old, I don't have any savings cos I am not working most times. I dare not even think of looking for a bf.
I don't feel like going to work yet very boring staying at home. If I don't work, I'll have no $$ to spend. Not hungry for shark fin or birdnest. Maggie mee and biscuit are already enuff for my basic needs.
On seeing that my frens can afford to buy a condominium. I can only say she work hard for it. No point comparing or feeling sour.
I know if I don't do anything about my Life now, my future will be forever depressing. But I just don't feel like doing anything at all. I am rotting at home now. I have upset my parents due to problem with my brother.
By the way, I haven't been eating for 2 days already. Drink water only yet don't feel hungry at all. Whenever I am depressed, I couldn't eat at all.
Problem now is I've upsetted my parents. I am so old already yet still make them worry about me.
And yes, I have a small request. I need someone to talk to, perhaps in IRC or thru phone. Anyone? Thank you very much.
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
if too many frends like me oso very stressful 1.. must here entertain abit there entertain abit.. some times really cannot make it then si beh jia lat 1... not all are understanding leh... i oso like u rather stay at home no need watse money... go cheong go eat or watever la .. all need money leh...Originally posted by raingal:Thank you all.
I just went to see doctor this morning and is feeling better now.
Devil, I've been trying to call you last night but you can't be reached.
Bigdeal - Life is cruel and meaningless. I don't want to commit suicide, so I am awaiting death now. All of us have to die anyway, so why I am born in the first place?
Atti, the main reason why I don't feel like working is I always enountered colleagues problems at work but I know I'll have to learn to overcome it.
Yes, you all are right. All I had to do now is to get a job. Crysania - I know what kind of job I want to do. And it's all about stepping out the house and go for interviews.
And I think tortus has ask a very good qn. I am so depressing till it's like I couldn't see my future at all. I don't know what can made me happy, what I want, what to do etc. No friends to go out with, nevermind, I prefer alone and staying at home anyway. No $$, nevermind, eat bread and drink water lor. Got $$ then eat pork chop and drink coke lor. Something like this, I duuno you all understand how I feel or not bcos I've depression.
Which is why when klactovak said: don't shortchange myself, go seek my own happiness. How?
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Originally posted by raingal:
Devil, I've been trying to call you last night but you can't be reached.
Sorry. have been changing Contact No. quite often lately. The one you're having now might not be valid? Please try to e-mail me at [email protected] and I'll furnish you with my new contact. Please do not call me during office hours (8-5) because I'm not allow to use my HP at work. I apologise once again for the inconvenience caused. Please also do leave behind your contact no. if it's convenient as it'll facilitate our communication. Thanks.
Bigdeal - Life is cruel and meaningless. I don't want to commit suicide, so I am awaiting death now. All of us have to die anyway, so why I am born in the first place?
Why you're born? That's one of the MOST INTERESTING for you to find out?
Atti, the main reason why I don't feel like working is I always enountered colleagues problems at work but I know I'll have to learn to overcome it.
Hmm... Change your environment or change yourself? These are the two COMMON tactics used... CONSTANT WITHDRAWAL is NEVER a good thing is life? You'll be MISSING so MANY BEAUTIFUL things out there...?
And I think tortus has ask a very good qn. I am so depressing till it's like I couldn't see my future at all. I don't know what can made me happy, what I want, what to do etc. No friends to go out with, nevermind, I prefer alone and staying at home anyway. No $$, nevermind, eat bread and drink water lor. Got $$ then eat pork chop and drink coke lor. Something like this, I duuno you all understand how I feel or not bcos I've depression.
Hmm... I THINK I know? But I don't I was really in DEPRESSION...? WAS I? Hmm... ~Ponder...~
Which is why when klactovak said: don't shortchange myself, go seek my own happiness. How?
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raingal:
Lets make things simple and short. Life is always challenging. Learn how to have fun living it. So what if u always have problems with your colleagues?? Is it you or is it them??
Go out and learn to accept the harsh realities of life. Trust me, sometimes if u choose to see things from a more optimistic point of view, these little setbacks are actually worth a good laugh. -
Mike, thanks. I think I'll call Devil. He has been helping me all this while. I think I am not really that nice, I think the problem is in me (my character), that's why people not nice to me.
Bigdeal - I know. I am not sociable and I am quiet type. Very sian to entertain friends also. Prefer to be alone. I do have some understanding friends though.
Devil - no wonder lah. I SMS that no., the reply was "who r u". I email you later.
Larry - I actually know what to do already. If I don't learn, I'll never grow. I may be older than most of you, but not in terms of maturity. -
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well... life is only depressing when u chose to have one . You LIVE not EXIST.
Instead of posting a topic of telling us how depress you are, why not get out of your door and find a "medicine" to cure your depression?
If you carry on slacking at home, then you will still be the one with no objectives in life , and see people affording to buy condos... driving cars.... and much much more.
You chose to be what you want in life. No one can force you to be living life in depression. -
good to know that alot of people here are trying to help you.
You said that you are behaving like this is becoz of ur Character... wat's ur horoscope?
Remember MIND OVER BODY... so tell urself u can do it, be it watever things!
erm.... go take up any enrichment courses. Do some upgrading. If u need to talk to a gal , email me n leave me ur contact no. :O)
Life is great , and you only live once so CHEERS!!! -
Start small and build on your own successes. Do something simple. Go to the park, jog a few laps. When you have done that, then get out some nice clothes and go out. send some resume or get a part-time job. Important thing is to do something to will help in seeking happiness.Originally posted by raingal:Thank you all.
Which is why when klactovak said: don't shortchange myself, go seek my own happiness. How? -
question: If we are going to die anyway, why live?Originally posted by raingal:Thank you all.
Life is cruel and meaningless. I don't want to commit suicide, so I am awaiting death now. All of us have to die anyway, so why I am born in the first place?
answer: Cos you still have another 30/40 years to live...chose to live in sorrow,or chose to live in happiness; its your choice really raingal.
I believe what you need to do is to find some goals in life. And as we grow older, we find new challenges,new goals. Its a cycle which gives us the motivation to carry on.
And the best part of the deal is that those goals in life need not even be achieved...provided you TRIED your best; when I was 13(some 11 yrs ago), I wanted to be like Slash from GnRs, I picked up my guitar and praticed extremely hard. But I learned that I could never be as good as him, but let's put it this way...if I did not even try in the first place,I wouldn't even know.
curiousOrange
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There's always a fullstop for everything. Of coz everyone has to die at the end of the road . But wat is most important is how we live our life the moment we are born till our death.Originally posted by raingal:Thank you all.
I just went to see doctor this morning and is feeling better now.
Devil, I've been trying to call you last night but you can't be reached.
Bigdeal - Life is cruel and meaningless. I don't want to commit suicide, so I am awaiting death now. All of us have to die anyway, so why I am born in the first place?
Atti, the main reason why I don't feel like working is I always enountered colleagues problems at work but I know I'll have to learn to overcome it.
Yes, you all are right. All I had to do now is to get a job. Crysania - I know what kind of job I want to do. And it's all about stepping out the house and go for interviews.
And I think tortus has ask a very good qn. I am so depressing till it's like I couldn't see my future at all. I don't know what can made me happy, what I want, what to do etc. No friends to go out with, nevermind, I prefer alone and staying at home anyway. No $$, nevermind, eat bread and drink water lor. Got $$ then eat pork chop and drink coke lor. Something like this, I duuno you all understand how I feel or not bcos I've depression.
Which is why when klactovak said: don't shortchange myself, go seek my own happiness. How? -
u need two slaps across u punami cheeks actually people who seek advice from strangers should all be hanged on a cross
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ok, so Devil hav been helping u, no problem, so long u confide your problem to someone whom u think u can trust, u shd feel more secure, just try to tak it easy and take care, raingal...Originally posted by raingal:Mike, thanks. I think I'll call Devil. He has been helping me all this while. I think I am not really that nice, I think the problem is in me (my character), that's why people not nice to me.
Bigdeal - I know. I am not sociable and I am quiet type. Very sian to entertain friends also. Prefer to be alone. I do have some understanding friends though.
Devil - no wonder lah. I SMS that no., the reply was "who r u". I email you later.
Larry - I actually know what to do already. If I don't learn, I'll never grow. I may be older than most of you, but not in terms of maturity.
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off