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Originally posted by Anthiadon:My enthusiasm lasted for a year, 2 years in fact. The enthusiasm to do well in my studies, to double or even triple my results. It worked for the past year, and that kepy me going for so long...but now that all goes to crap. Today is probably one of the worse days ever, I got backstabbed in my bad subjects, defeated in my worse and my ego took damage from all sides.
Okay so you're probably thinking "Oh God it's another one of those students with bad results" and there are probably many other threads like this, but still I have to release my anger and fear somewhere. Yesterday and today I received my end-of-year results, and it was when I was supposed to reap the results of the entire year of hard work, but instead al I got was misery. Winding back about 4 months ago, when my Mid-year exam results was as terrible, I told myself "Its okay, I just have to stop playing video games and study like Jack the dull kid and it will improve." I did, changing my lifestyle and gave up any temptations that might distract me. The race went on for 4 months, intense studying and constantly taking blows and buffs from tests, and my enthusiasm never died out as much as it did today. But now during the exam, it did, the once highly motivated enthusiasm just died out..completely, and it backfired into hatred, boreness and any negative things. Everyone in my class did well, with the exception of a few including me, I even flopped one of my most trusted subjects, everything just went horribly wrong, and it makes me think whether the effort was worth it or not.
I have a terrible CCA record, no outside talents and I'm not exactly fit physically, my only chance I got is at studies and now even that's gone too. There are 2 video game discs beside me now, and both of which caused me to fall into a deep addiction before, I originally told myself never to play them again but now the temptation is just so high. I don't get it, study hard, study smart, it just doesn't work. I wondered who to blame, the school? the education system? then I realised it was mmy own fault. The enthusiasm is gone, and there's still a week of school to go. The feeling now is terrible, and I am even thinking of playing truant, something I never did in my school life before. Its that bad. I just want to know if anyone here knows how I can build up my ego again, because it dropped from an original 1000 to a negative 500, and if this keeps up things are going to get worse for me.
Ur age, level, results?
If u had really been studying hard for the past 4 months, what happened during the exams? Didn't study hard enough? Mind block? Answer questions in the way way? Carelessness?
I don't really want to mention my results but I'm in secondary 3 now, and my marks are a result of all of the factors you mentioned.
your results really stink like high heavens or just failed ?
Originally posted by Anthiadon:I don't really want to mention my results but I'm in secondary 3 now, and my marks are a result of all of the factors you mentioned.
Since noone knows u, i don't see why there is a need to hide ur results.
U have to find out the causes and work on them.
your in the Express stream or NA ?
Hey I'm also in sec 3 currently, maybe we could meet out in the coming holidays and work in our weakness ? (:
Sorry I still don't know how to quote specific replies so I'll have to reply here. To dkcx: Um I prefer not to reveal my results to personal reasons, and I did try and find my mistakes, and the concepts seems so easy and I can understand them, but when the questions come out, bang I slip into a state of depression. To flame: Express and it was pretty bad in proportionate to my class average.
Originally posted by Anthiadon:Sorry I still don't know how to quote specific replies so I'll have to reply here. To dkcx: Um I prefer not to reveal my results to personal reasons, and I did try and find my mistakes, and the concepts seems so easy and I can understand them, but when the questions come out, bang I slip into a state of depression. To flame: Express and it was pretty bad in proportionate to my class average.
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Did u at least pass and managed to go to sec 4 without having to drop subjects or worse drop to NA?
Is this the 1st time u have issues with exams? Did u overstress urself? Personally i do not study 1 hr before exam so that i won't give myself too much pressure before any exams or tests.
actually, personal experience, you do worst if you concentrate on it without any other sources of relaxation. maybe you are like me, maybe you arent, but cramming to study is the worst way of studying for exams?
if you play games, den you should lesson how much you actually play them, for me i just lessen the amount of time i spend to play games by half, and use the extra time for study, not Cutting off all sources of temptation?
about your CCA problems, did you think of buying a Wii? Wii is proven to actually help in excercising and still you get to play games, isnt that killing 2 birds with 1 stone? x3 of cus it wont help you suddenly be able to run 2.4kms but at least you get some excercise x3
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Are you sure you confirm going to NA next year ? In my school, they can appeal for a second chance.
Originally posted by ƒlame:Are you sure you confirm going to NA next year ? In my school, they can appeal for a second chance.
Um not exactly, but if I get my current results during the "O" levels then its going to be disastrous.
Originally posted by dkcx:To reply, click the gear like thing on the top right of each post.
Did u at least pass and managed to go to sec 4 without having to drop subjects or worse drop to NA?
Is this the 1st time u have issues with exams? Did u overstress urself? Personally i do not study 1 hr before exam so that i won't give myself too much pressure before any exams or tests.
I've put in the most effort in this exam in my entire life, and it still flopped alot lower than I thought I would get.
Originally posted by Anthiadon:
I've put in the most effort in this exam in my entire life, and it still flopped alot lower than I thought I would get.
What do u think is the main problem that cause ur poor results? Don't tell me all the things i said, pin point them properly by going through ur papers.
Originally posted by Anthiadon:changing my lifestyle and gave up any temptations that might distract me.
I've put in the most effort in this exam in my entire life, and it still flopped alot lower than I thought I would get.
Would you mind to be a little more specific on how you define "Most"? When you say "Most", it doesn't means, "All". Something is wrong, isn't it? When it isn't "All", it means you ain't putting in enough effort.
Half of the computer addicts i've seen, including myself, studies in such a manner. 30mins study, 1hr rest. Or perhaps, watching T.V., playing PSP, whilst studying. Nonetheless, not focusing at all, therefore, nothing went in the brain. Try searching your soul on how you studied, do you feel guilty?
The other half, well, doesn't give a uh uh to the examinations. At least you bothered, at least you tried.
Look back at your Mid year, then look at your End-of-Years', does it deterioriate or improved? I can assure you have improved unless you ain't putting your efforts in the right method as mentioned above.
It may be not be eye-appealing, but at least you had studied, PROBABLY NOT THE RIGHT WAY. For instance, History, there is a specific way to answer Source-based questions or Essay questions. Science, too. The formulae and theories can never be changed. Are you sure you were studying the right thing?
Teachers follow a marking scheme. As long as you have the points they needed, you get the marks. Try asking the teachers, but of course, with your papers. Find out what went wrong and learn from it.
my only chance I got is at studies and now even that's gone too
What makes you think so? It's only End-Of-Year Examinations, not your "O" Levels. You still have two dead long months of holidays to catch up, and another 1 whole year, or rather, 10/11 months to sort things right.
IF YOU GONNA GO BACK TO YOUR COMPUTER GAMES THIS UPCOMING HOLIDAY, THEN, IT'S GONE. ALL YOUR EFFORTS FOR THIS YEAR.
AND YOU CAN FACE A MIRROR AND TELL YOURSELF THIS:
"I'M A LOSER. I DIDN'T BOTHER TO TRY TO ATTAIN MY GOALS UNTIL I'M VANQUISH. I GAVE UP HALFWAY TO MY SELF-PITY."
As for CCA, i might say it is too late for you to fix or change it, but try changing to something you like, if CCA points wouldn't be affected. Even though you may not excel in that aspect, like running, sport games, whatever it is. As long as you have the interest, you will just keep attending and "terrible cca record" will cease to exist.
Lastly, If you ain't gonna help yourself, don't bother asking for help. Nobody can and will be able to help. Because ultimately, we can only motivate you, but if you insist on being stationary, there is nothing much anyone and everyone esle can do.
Dear Anthiadon,
I'm sorry to hear that you are disappointed with your prelim results. I encourage you to look beyond the negative emotions and self-doubt, and see the opportunities available to you. I read today that "hope dies last in war".
There are still several weeks before your "O" levels. If even time is on your side, shouldn't you be too?
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Originally posted by Denise Pang:Dear Anthiadon,
I'm sorry to hear that you are disappointed with your prelim results. I encourage you to look beyond the negative emotions and self-doubt, and see the opportunities available to you. I read today that "hope dies last in war".
There are still several weeks before your "O" levels. If even time is on your side, shouldn't you be too?
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Originally posted by Denise Pang:Dear Anthiadon,
I'm sorry to hear that you are disappointed with your prelim results. I encourage you to look beyond the negative emotions and self-doubt, and see the opportunities available to you. I read today that "hope dies last in war".
There are still several weeks before your "O" levels. If even time is on your side, shouldn't you be too?
Feel free to request for mentoring support at onlinementor.sgforums.com
Everyone deserves a Mentor.
several weeks? it's just next monday.
Originally posted by DeadByAugust:Would you mind to be a little more specific on how you define "Most"? When you say "Most", it doesn't means, "All". Something is wrong, isn't it? When it isn't "All", it means you ain't putting in enough effort.
Half of the computer addicts i've seen, including myself, studies in such a manner. 30mins study, 1hr rest. Or perhaps, watching T.V., playing PSP, whilst studying. Nonetheless, not focusing at all, therefore, nothing went in the brain. Try searching your soul on how you studied, do you feel guilty?
The other half, well, doesn't give a uh uh to the examinations. At least you bothered, at least you tried.
Look back at your Mid year, then look at your End-of-Years', does it deterioriate or improved? I can assure you have improved unless you ain't putting your efforts in the right method as mentioned above.
It may be not be eye-appealing, but at least you had studied, PROBABLY NOT THE RIGHT WAY. For instance, History, there is a specific way to answer Source-based questions or Essay questions. Science, too. The formulae and theories can never be changed. Are you sure you were studying the right thing?
Teachers follow a marking scheme. As long as you have the points they needed, you get the marks. Try asking the teachers, but of course, with your papers. Find out what went wrong and learn from it.
What makes you think so? It's only End-Of-Year Examinations, not your "O" Levels. You still have two dead long months of holidays to catch up, and another 1 whole year, or rather, 10/11 months to sort things right.
IF YOU GONNA GO BACK TO YOUR COMPUTER GAMES THIS UPCOMING HOLIDAY, THEN, IT'S GONE. ALL YOUR EFFORTS FOR THIS YEAR.
AND YOU CAN FACE A MIRROR AND TELL YOURSELF THIS:
"I'M A LOSER. I DIDN'T BOTHER TO TRY TO ATTAIN MY GOALS UNTIL I'M VANQUISH. I GAVE UP HALFWAY TO MY SELF-PITY."
As for CCA, i might say it is too late for you to fix or change it, but try changing to something you like, if CCA points wouldn't be affected. Even though you may not excel in that aspect, like running, sport games, whatever it is. As long as you have the interest, you will just keep attending and "terrible cca record" will cease to exist.
Lastly, If you ain't gonna help yourself, don't bother asking for help. Nobody can and will be able to help. Because ultimately, we can only motivate you, but if you insist on being stationary, there is nothing much anyone and everyone esle can do.
I think you read my message wrongly. By "most effort", I meant that I studied harder for this examinations than any of my others. And no, I don't feel guilty, of course its not a 24 hours mug but certainly not a 30min study and 1 hour break kind of thing. Also I have improved but slightly, and deproved in some better subjects from the mid-year, and considering that I only have an examination and a prelim left I'm not sure if I can improve enough for the "O" levels, especially since my results are much lower in proportion with my peers. Furthermore each time my enthusiasm recharges it gets hit time and again by tests and diminished by a school examination, and each time it does my interest lessens.
Originally posted by Anthiadon:
Maybe u can consider getting tuition for ur weaker subjects
Hmmmm, can you tell me how you study? I have been through your situation through O levels. So the feeling of being disappointed in sec3 and O level has a really really huge gap. As of now, if you cannot limit yourself to the hours of playing computer games, then keep it away permemnantly. Or ask your parents to help you. If your school is not strict in the system of promoting to sec4, talk to your form teacher, HOD, whatever it takes to make you got to sec4. For my school it was signing contracts. So maybe this might help you. Get help don't study independently. As if you have problem just ask! And don't ever listen to your teacher if they say the textbook is useless! It is never useless. Some has the information you one, and if it doesn't have get a guide book or meet the teacher, or friends who score As. This is what i am doing for my O level science(retake). I only can hlpe you in your maths, the rest i sucks at it. Hope this will enlighten you a little. =]
Originally posted by Anthiadon:and the concepts seems so easy and I can understand them, but when the questions come out, bang I slip into a state of depression
Assuming that "when the questions come out" means the point at which you first see the exam questions, I'd query if it's depression or panic you experience. Could it simply be a case of you knowing your material but letting your anxiety get the better of you at crunch time? If that's the case, don't go beating yourself up over a simple lack of exam technique.
The amount of time you put into studying is at best peripheral to your chances of success - it's less a case of your mileage than of where you've been. Do you simply know your material, or do you actually understand it?
As for the ego issue, well, that's the easy part. People don't prove themselves during the good times - it's when the proverbial hits the fan that you show what you're made of, so the only remaining question is whether you choose to take this on as a challenge or run from it as a threat.
hey, dont fret. i did badly in sec 3 and most of my subjects for o levels.
i passed only 4 subjects for o levels, flunk 3. i felt very shitty on the day i got my results.
my friends were all celebrating, while i was thinking what to do next.
it was also that time when i realised who my true friends were. there were some who didnt want to be in contact with me because they were going to jc and i was not. however, the ones who stuck by me motivated me to continue on, so i retook my o levels. this time, i did well and scored As.
I took a diploma because i knew what i want to do and dont want to waste time with useless subjects. i found the course i like and did really well in it and now i am studying in an ivy league university.
dont be upset about your scores now. its not too late to work hard!!
Originally posted by Gedanken:Assuming that "when the questions come out" means the point at which you first see the exam questions, I'd query if it's depression or panic you experience. Could it simply be a case of you knowing your material but letting your anxiety get the better of you at crunch time? If that's the case, don't go beating yourself up over a simple lack of exam technique.
The amount of time you put into studying is at best peripheral to your chances of success - it's less a case of your mileage than of where you've been. Do you simply know your material, or do you actually understand it?
As for the ego issue, well, that's the easy part. People don't prove themselves during the good times - it's when the proverbial hits the fan that you show what you're made of, so the only remaining question is whether you choose to take this on as a challenge or run from it as a threat.
Ah thanks for the tips. Well basically I do understand what the concepts and formula is, but when the questions pop out they become a totally different thing in my mind suddenly. Formulas run into my head and I don't know which to use, eventually resulting in a mental block and affecting my other questions.
Originally posted by dkcx:Maybe u can consider getting tuition for ur weaker subjects
It would become a burden on my parents' already tight budget.