well. i dont know whether this is the right place to talk about my sufferings.
first to introduce myself, my name is James. i'm currently studying in a secondary schl around west..
i have this problem in sch since primary times. even when i was young, i was always bullied by other kids and then i'm quite well-known for being a pussy.
somewhat i switched to a new school into a new environment...
but the old problems still kept flooding my whole life. i'm always bullied.
i hate the feeling of getting bullied all the time. who here would want to be bullied? i don't want to be known for being a pussy who gets bullied! it's very disgraceful! what should i do? find random ppl in sch and bash them up and show them i'm not a pussy? happiness won't come to me .
i don't want others to know i'm such a easy loser , nobody would be my friend this way!
tell ur DM/Teacher to help u la
for mi
ppl dee siao ma
i fight back one
but i'm weaker than those ppl and right now lots of ppl know i got bullied all the time !
i'm receiving quite a number of nuisance and every time in class i get beaten up
ur age?
lolx
u weaker than them?
it ok la
ppl taller than mi
i also fight back
aiya
be more terror
I also small and weak de and nearly kena beaten up by my class paikia... Just stay low profile lor. Don't avoid them but just ignore them, or else they think you scared of them then they will be bolder you see..
I think he is the new clone eh.
you scare of people beating you up. Well, get fitter, join martial art or something. learning some self-defense is always good for health, fitness and protection.
last time in sec school, there is also a lot of paikia from sec 5 and normals stream. usually they dont bother me. if they do offend me, I will look straight into their eyes, using the eye contact to tell them they are messing with the wrong guy. they will back off. they actually run away but when I try to make friend with them, their excuse is, "we are not the same type, we cannot mix and we dont want to teach you the bad things !!" huh?
eye power
Originally posted by Acrimony:well. i dont know whether this is the right place to talk about my sufferings.
first to introduce myself, my name is James. i'm currently studying in a secondary schl around west..
i have this problem in sch since primary times. even when i was young, i was always bullied by other kids and then i'm quite well-known for being a pussy.
somewhat i switched to a new school into a new environment...
but the old problems still kept flooding my whole life. i'm always bullied.
i hate the feeling of getting bullied all the time. who here would want to be bullied? i don't want to be known for being a pussy who gets bullied! it's very disgraceful! what should i do? find random ppl in sch and bash them up and show them i'm not a pussy? happiness won't come to me .
i don't want others to know i'm such a easy loser , nobody would be my friend this way!
You must be one those pampered kids. Mom and dad always at the forefront to protect you from harm, giving you a sheltered life, and constantly telling you never to resort to violence.
You are not alone. Majority of parents are like that nowadays, and had experienced the bad old days of gangsterism in schools by dropouts and repeat students in public schools. It was rampant back in the 70s to the 80s when street gangs were rounded up by the police, leaving the 4th rate leaders looking at the young students for recruitment.
Many of them are now being eradicated, both by the police and by society as we progressed and seek instead for academic achievements than the brawns displayed by mentally challenged ah bengs. They are a dying breed in schools. Only those suffering from inferiority complex would strut around showing off brawns by claiming to belong to gangs, which is actually street corner brats and not the fearsome monsters of their predecessors, are laughed at for their stupidity.
By our protective parents still have such mentality of gangsterism in schools, and would not want their kids to be exposed in any way with such rabble. Your parents did a fine job, which accounts for you being unwilling to fight, a wise decision anyway.
However, the question begs, why are you being bullied in the first place? No one, not even the fearsome gangsters of my past school years would just bully anyone for the sake of flexing some muscles. Most would be busy studying for tests and exams to bother about bullying or fighting nowadays.
What had you done to deserve yourself to be specifically targetted for bullying?
Are you a motor-mouth, the kind who open his mouth without engaging the brains and thus insulted others, an insensitivity you cannot feel about others? Are you the disgusting kind with equally disgusting habits that makes others pissed off and need to beat you into submission? Are you the kind that habitually 'sabo' others in games and class?
There is nothing wrong in being peaceful and avoid fights. I grew up without violence in school as my interest was more in brainwork than brawns, even though I excelled in the swim team, never the first in inter school competitions, but at least within the top 3 and in relay team challenges. I was never involved in fights nor need to fight with anyone to pursue my goals. The only time i fought was during TKD and unarmed combat trainning during my army stint, and any further sanctioned violence was part of my duty to the country.
Thus i find it hard to comprehend why you would be bullied, and for such a long time. Take a long hard look in the mirror and ask yourself why, and within that unvarnished truth will you be able to help yourself and overcome your sufferings.
No one, absolutely no one, would simply bully another for no reason at all. Not even naive kids to another, even if the boy is slightly feminine which is not a sure sign of being a growing up gay, perhaps just a bit nerdy.
name your sch
CLONE ALERT
Originally posted by limywv:if that guy has to come up with a clone account just to say such things...then I think the "real" guy behind this account really needs some form of help. Give him some credit, man...
waiting for DKCX reply .
lollol
meanwhile + 1 1st
Originally posted by yiha093:waiting for DKCX reply .
lollol
meanwhile + 1 1st
haha. Its rather suspicious that the clone never spam today with this new account u know
Clone clone clone clone clone clone!
stand up for singapore.... do the best u can!!
get that song in yr head and other multiple accnts u have and replace the word "singapore" with yr name... sui??
william hung boo u...
Originally posted by xtreyier:You must be one those pampered kids. Mom and dad always at the forefront to protect you from harm, giving you a sheltered life, and constantly telling you never to resort to violence.
You are not alone. Majority of parents are like that nowadays, and had experienced the bad old days of gangsterism in schools by dropouts and repeat students in public schools. It was rampant back in the 70s to the 80s when street gangs were rounded up by the police, leaving the 4th rate leaders looking at the young students for recruitment.
Many of them are now being eradicated, both by the police and by society as we progressed and seek instead for academic achievements than the brawns displayed by mentally challenged ah bengs. They are a dying breed in schools. Only those suffering from inferiority complex would strut around showing off brawns by claiming to belong to gangs, which is actually street corner brats and not the fearsome monsters of their predecessors, are laughed at for their stupidity.
By our protective parents still have such mentality of gangsterism in schools, and would not want their kids to be exposed in any way with such rabble. Your parents did a fine job, which accounts for you being unwilling to fight, a wise decision anyway.
However, the question begs, why are you being bullied in the first place? No one, not even the fearsome gangsters of my past school years would just bully anyone for the sake of flexing some muscles. Most would be busy studying for tests and exams to bother about bullying or fighting nowadays.
What had you done to deserve yourself to be specifically targetted for bullying?
Are you a motor-mouth, the kind who open his mouth without engaging the brains and thus insulted others, an insensitivity you cannot feel about others? Are you the disgusting kind with equally disgusting habits that makes others pissed off and need to beat you into submission? Are you the kind that habitually 'sabo' others in games and class?
There is nothing wrong in being peaceful and avoid fights. I grew up without violence in school as my interest was more in brainwork than brawns, even though I excelled in the swim team, never the first in inter school competitions, but at least within the top 3 and in relay team challenges. I was never involved in fights nor need to fight with anyone to pursue my goals. The only time i fought was during TKD and unarmed combat trainning during my army stint, and any further sanctioned violence was part of my duty to the country.
Thus i find it hard to comprehend why you would be bullied, and for such a long time. Take a long hard look in the mirror and ask yourself why, and within that unvarnished truth will you be able to help yourself and overcome your sufferings.
No one, absolutely no one, would simply bully another for no reason at all. Not even naive kids to another, even if the boy is slightly feminine which is not a sure sign of being a growing up gay, perhaps just a bit nerdy.
actually kids or people bully because they can. and a lot of these bullies don't care about their studies so they won't be busy studying. They derive some form of satisfaction from the bullying.
Anyway what the person needs to do is to stand up the bullies. It's actually much easier if they beat him. mental and psychological abuse is the harder one to confront, prove and punish.
Hi James,
I can guarantee you are being bullied because of your reaction to bullying, not for any other reason. The advice seems trite, but you need to ignore the barbs directed at you.
Some hard and fast advice:
1. Watch your body language.
Keep your shoulders back, your head high and your eyes up. Any other posture is submissive and invites abuse.
2. Do not react.
If someone steals your bag and hides it. STOP. Have a brief look for the bag, if it is not where you expect to find it. Politely and CALMLY, without over reaction, ask if anyone has seen it. If nobody helps you locate the bag, wait patiently until they do, or in the worst case scenario report the loss to a teacher. AT NO POINT INDICATE TO ANYONE THAT YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY UPSET.
If someone deliberately bumps you into a wall. Do NOT REACT. Stay calm, follow the advice in 1. and move on without retort. If you trust your voice, then ask directly and without emotion "What was that for?" The tone should enquiring, NOT emotional. This question does not have an answer. The real answer is "To see how you'd react," but most bully's don't realize or understand why they bully, only that it gets them attention and it feels good.
If someone is verbally upsetting you, or commenting on deficiencies you believe you have. Do Not React. Do not clench your jaw. Do not roll your eyes. Do not hang your head. Do not take a deep breath. Do not get angry. Do not TRY to smile when you don't feel like smiling. ACT AS THOUGH NOTHING HAS HAPPENED. Your lack of response will deter future abuse much better than anything else.
3. Look people in the EYE.
Frank, unwavering eye contact will halt most non-aggressive abuse. However it will escalate physically aggressive abuse. Take care to ensure that your face does not reflect anything but askance when making eye contact. You are asking for the abusers response, rather than supplying your own. If you can force them to respond first, then you will have won the encounter, and they'll know it.
4. If you don't have something to say, keep your mouth shut.
Originally posted by Sunwukonga:Hi James,
I can guarantee you are being bullied because of your reaction to bullying, not for any other reason. The advice seems trite, but you need to ignore the barbs directed at you.
Some hard and fast advice:
1. Watch your body language.
Keep your shoulders back, your head high and your eyes up. Any other posture is submissive and invites abuse.
2. Do not react.
If someone steals your bag and hides it. STOP. Have a brief look for the bag, if it is not where you expect to find it. Politely and CALMLY, without over reaction, ask if anyone has seen it. If nobody helps you locate the bag, wait patiently until they do, or in the worst case scenario report the loss to a teacher. AT NO POINT INDICATE TO ANYONE THAT YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY UPSET.
If someone deliberately bumps you into a wall. Do NOT REACT. Stay calm, follow the advice in 1. and move on without retort. If you trust your voice, then ask directly and without emotion "What was that for?" The tone should enquiring, NOT emotional. This question does not have an answer. The real answer is "To see how you'd react," but most bully's don't realize or understand why they bully, only that it gets them attention and it feels good.
If someone is verbally upsetting you, or commenting on deficiencies you believe you have. Do Not React. Do not clench your jaw. Do not roll your eyes. Do not hang your head. Do not take a deep breath. Do not get angry. Do not TRY to smile when you don't feel like smiling. ACT AS THOUGH NOTHING HAS HAPPENED. Your lack of response will deter future abuse much better than anything else.
3. Look people in the EYE.
Frank, unwavering eye contact will halt most non-aggressive abuse. However it will escalate physically aggressive abuse. Take care to ensure that your face does not reflect anything but askance when making eye contact. You are asking for the abusers response, rather than supplying your own. If you can force them to respond first, then you will have won the encounter, and they'll know it.
4. If you don't have something to say, keep your mouth shut.
u wasting ur time. this guy always ask for help but nv listens
Originally posted by Sunwukonga:Hi James,
I can guarantee you are being bullied because of your reaction to bullying, not for any other reason. The advice seems trite, but you need to ignore the barbs directed at you.
Some hard and fast advice:
1. Watch your body language.
Keep your shoulders back, your head high and your eyes up. Any other posture is submissive and invites abuse.
2. Do not react.
If someone steals your bag and hides it. STOP. Have a brief look for the bag, if it is not where you expect to find it. Politely and CALMLY, without over reaction, ask if anyone has seen it. If nobody helps you locate the bag, wait patiently until they do, or in the worst case scenario report the loss to a teacher. AT NO POINT INDICATE TO ANYONE THAT YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY UPSET.
If someone deliberately bumps you into a wall. Do NOT REACT. Stay calm, follow the advice in 1. and move on without retort. If you trust your voice, then ask directly and without emotion "What was that for?" The tone should enquiring, NOT emotional. This question does not have an answer. The real answer is "To see how you'd react," but most bully's don't realize or understand why they bully, only that it gets them attention and it feels good.
If someone is verbally upsetting you, or commenting on deficiencies you believe you have. Do Not React. Do not clench your jaw. Do not roll your eyes. Do not hang your head. Do not take a deep breath. Do not get angry. Do not TRY to smile when you don't feel like smiling. ACT AS THOUGH NOTHING HAS HAPPENED. Your lack of response will deter future abuse much better than anything else.
3. Look people in the EYE.
Frank, unwavering eye contact will halt most non-aggressive abuse. However it will escalate physically aggressive abuse. Take care to ensure that your face does not reflect anything but askance when making eye contact. You are asking for the abusers response, rather than supplying your own. If you can force them to respond first, then you will have won the encounter, and they'll know it.
4. If you don't have something to say, keep your mouth shut.
How u know his name James? Clone has lied with so many names that i lost count and he himself even forget his old lies when he tells me his name and anyhow give a new 1 the next time i ask.
Anyway, u wasting ur time. He will just come back and complain ur advice is useless like what he has repeatedly done in the past 6 months.
You just been another fool to believe him.
Eh you pussy is it because your behavior is abit niang (girly)...
Like the way you walk, or talk, with the hands swing here and there??
is there a talent that you excel in ?
when you are very good in something (e.g. hobby, playing guitar, etc), and focus on doing it well, people tend to see you differently. the bullies may even be floored and change their attitude towards you...
focusing on your talent and strength keeps your mind away from the worries and frustration
Hi HardShot