Worried about this although it felt good
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Hello guys.
Firstly i would thank those who have helped me on my previous topic. Remember when i said that i want to fufill my goals before i reach 20, well i did and i never feel so alive until now.
Last sat, me and my friends were in the rebel(club) and its kinda like my first time getting high. Im not sure how exactly "high" feels like but i think i have one that night. My friends called me weak because just a few vodka shot apple and im already in that state. Anyway, me and my friend (girl of course) were dancing side by side. Let me tell u, my friend here is the most cheerful girl i've ever met within our group. She so fun to hang out with and when we were dancing, she often do those random acts and i laughed. Ok here comes the awkward part, since we didnt think through u know... high and all, we ended up hugging each other and next was just a peck here and there. I have no idea where all of my friends are that time because im too caught up with this girl. I was excited and guilty at the same time because she's my friend.... what am i thinking? but i didnt think clearly at that time.
To my surprise, there were quite a number of boys and girls coming out together from the boys toilet. i was "wow" since its my first time and i suddenly felt this sexual energy in me and to add in more, this girl is holding my hand somemore. We went inside and just hug here and there non stop and kissing too. the funny thing is we fell asleep in the cubicle for less than an hour i think.
She woke me up and her eyes widened. She said things like omg and what the hell we doing? and stuff like that. My vision were clearing up and i can suddenly felt the pressure building up. Our friends were already know about this and they just tease us around but she didn't took it quite well and after that day onwards... its beginning to worry me.
When we went out last sun, she went quiet all day. I mean there is a talk from her but its awkward that majority of her is silence. Usually she's not like that, she's freaking playful and love to make people smile. She's quite crazy but that day was weird. And not only that, she avoid any physical touching from us (boys only). When one of our guys tap her shoulder, she straight away wiggle it away and gave out a pity smile. "???" was in our head. Normally, she would just playfully flirt back and she dont even care if we hug her from behind. But now is a new different person.
Guys pls advice. Do anyone of the girls in your group react this way? is this some kind of the emo stage of girls?
And especially to girls, just asking but do u girls have stomachache 4-6 times a day? is it those the girls nature thing?
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Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
Hello guys.
Firstly i would thank those who have helped me on my previous topic. Remember when i said that i want to fufill my goals before i reach 20, well i did and i never feel so alive until now.
Last sat, me and my friends were in the rebel(club) and its kinda like my first time getting high. Im not sure how exactly "high" feels like but i think i have one that night. My friends called me weak because just a few vodka shot apple and im already in that state. Anyway, me and my friend (girl of course) were dancing side by side. Let me tell u, my friend here is the most cheerful girl i've ever met within our group. She so fun to hang out with and when we were dancing, she often do those random acts and i laughed. Ok here comes the awkward part, since we didnt think through u know... high and all, we ended up hugging each other and next was just a peck here and there. I have no idea where all of my friends are that time because im too caught up with this girl. I was excited and guilty at the same time because she's my friend.... what am i thinking? but i didnt think clearly at that time.
To my surprise, there were quite a number of boys and girls coming out together from the boys toilet. i was "wow" since its my first time and i suddenly felt this sexual energy in me and to add in more, this girl is holding my hand somemore. We went inside and just hug here and there non stop and kissing too. the funny thing is we fell asleep in the cubicle for less than an hour i think.
She woke me up and her eyes widened. She said things like omg and what the hell we doing? and stuff like that. My vision were clearing up and i can suddenly felt the pressure building up. Our friends were already know about this and they just tease us around but she didn't took it quite well and after that day onwards... its beginning to worry me.
When we went out last sun, she went quiet all day. I mean there is a talk from her but its awkward that majority of her is silence. Usually she's not like that, she's freaking playful and love to make people smile. She's quite crazy but that day was weird. And not only that, she avoid any physical touching from us (boys only). When one of our guys tap her shoulder, she straight away wiggle it away and gave out a pity smile. "???" was in our head. Normally, she would just playfully flirt back and she dont even care if we hug her from behind. But now is a new different person.
Guys pls advice. Do anyone of the girls in your group react this way? is this some kind of the emo stage of girls?
And especially to girls, just asking but do u girls have stomachache 4-6 times a day? is it those the girls nature thing?
maybe she think u do something to her
u should just tell her nothing much happen and the two of you were just hugging and kissing the whole time
dun drink so much if you cannot hold your weight, later you may do something which you will regret later
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You got see any blood near you when you wake up ?
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wow... lucky u...
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From your observations of her, she seemed the typical flirty girl. All she wants is just to have fun, to flirt and NOT to entertain any serious sexual advances, even to the extend of under influence of liqour.
She believes she can control such physical contacts, despite probably many advices from parents and friends. But being young and youthful, eager to try many things, her confidence or rather over-confidence in her abilities had been over-rated, from her performance.
All that had happened had shocked her to the core, badly shakened her beliefs, and her present emotions is to deal with such shattered beliefs of herself - with silence and better understanding, to regain her confidence.
Time is a good healer, and perhaps thru this experience, she may change into a more serious person. But if her confidence is high, she will easily revert back to her flirty ways, and even more determined to gain better control of herself, by testing the limits of her liqour intake and sexual conduct.
The only thing from absolutely shattering her into an all out surrender of her confidence, turning herself into a cheap whore is that she was only involve in some heavy petting and not a frightening drunk stupored sexual intercourse which would happened if she had been in new environment without close friends.
This held her back, as well as her sense of shame she would feel for being in a toilet cubicle with you, witnessed by her friends, worse if it was her very friends who had advised her not to be too flirty for there would be consequences.
The way to help her deal with it is to explain to yours and her friends honestly that nothing actually happened in the cubicle. Let her regain her pride and confidence, and that you both were drunk.
Reassure everytime possible, that you had no intentions for petting. It was your first time handling liqour, and that it would not happen again, no matter what happens.
And give her time to come to terms to deal with what happened. Changes would be imminent. For better or worse, only she can decide. All you can do is to give her moral support, encourage your friends to give her that too, and treat the affair as an experience, part of growing up, at least a lesser mistake than one where worse could have happen.
Good luck.
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she's starting to reflect on her actions and maybe she regrets being so flirtable. So perhaps that's why she has that sudden shunning of physical contact with guys. Let her think and maybe she might revert back some time later
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The event should have been to tramatic for her to accept. Someone who is flirty, outgoing etc doesn't mean shes loose or willing to get too involved with anyone besides out of fun.
U urself should go think carefully what u do when u go clubbing etc next time. If u cannot hold ur own liquor well, u better not drink as this time nothing happen doesn't mean the same thing will happen again in future and you might live to regret like some people i know...
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did you do the act or just kissing? Your proper answer will determine
the understanding of the outcome of her behavioural change - will tell you more once
we hear it correctly -
Originally posted by xtreyier:
From your observations of her, she seemed the typical flirty girl. All she wants is just to have fun, to flirt and NOT to entertain any serious sexual advances, even to the extend of under influence of liqour.
She believes she can control such physical contacts, despite probably many advices from parents and friends. But being young and youthful, eager to try many things, her confidence or rather over-confidence in her abilities had been over-rated, from her performance.
All that had happened had shocked her to the core, badly shakened her beliefs, and her present emotions is to deal with such shattered beliefs of herself - with silence and better understanding, to regain her confidence.
Time is a good healer, and perhaps thru this experience, she may change into a more serious person. But if her confidence is high, she will easily revert back to her flirty ways, and even more determined to gain better control of herself, by testing the limits of her liqour intake and sexual conduct.
The only thing from absolutely shattering her into an all out surrender of her confidence, turning herself into a cheap whore is that she was only involve in some heavy petting and not a frightening drunk stupored sexual intercourse which would happened if she had been in new environment without close friends.
This held her back, as well as her sense of shame she would feel for being in a toilet cubicle with you, witnessed by her friends, worse if it was her very friends who had advised her not to be too flirty for there would be consequences.
The way to help her deal with it is to explain to yours and her friends honestly that nothing actually happened in the cubicle. Let her regain her pride and confidence, and that you both were drunk.
Reassure everytime possible, that you had no intentions for petting. It was your first time handling liqour, and that it would not happen again, no matter what happens.
And give her time to come to terms to deal with what happened. Changes would be imminent. For better or worse, only she can decide. All you can do is to give her moral support, encourage your friends to give her that too, and treat the affair as an experience, part of growing up, at least a lesser mistake than one where worse could have happen.
Good luck.
the ones that i had highlighted really scares me. I swear to u i really dont want her to be a whore. Its something that i will cry if i saw her selling herself.But i just kept on thinking how good it felt when i touch her. there's nothing wrong right?
But i miss the old her. i really like her being herself...she is so much fun with that personality. Now its like a souless girl. And ya one of our friend hates me because of this. Another addition to my stress.
And thanks fro the help. I guess all i can do now is just be patience and hope she will be back to normal, i hope.
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Originally posted by dkcx:
The event should have been to tramatic for her to accept. Someone who is flirty, outgoing etc doesn't mean shes loose or willing to get too involved with anyone besides out of fun.
U urself should go think carefully what u do when u go clubbing etc next time. If u cannot hold ur own liquor well, u better not drink as this time nothing happen doesn't mean the same thing will happen again in future and you might live to regret like some people i know...
But I just want to taste this feeling, u know. And she seems to accept me doing that to her. But of course im not too sure because we're drunk. So my thoughts were like 50-50 at that time. I try to hold my liqour well next time
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She thinks that all the others think that you both "did it".
That has shattered the image she has of herself. That of an out going lively personality.
You and the rest of the gang must let her know that you all believe nothing happened.
She need that reassurance.
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Originally posted by spade1:
did you do the act or just kissing? Your proper answer will determine
the understanding of the outcome of her behavioural change - will tell you more once
we hear it correctlyim sorry but i cant really remember if im just act the moves and the sound or really do it. But i did remember that i hold her tight and my lips touching hers.
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Originally posted by mancha:
She thinks that all the others think that you both "did it".
That has shattered the image she has of herself. That of an out going lively personality.
You and the rest of the gang must let her know that you all believe nothing happened.
She need that reassurance.
no no really. i swear nothing happened on that day. i hope.
Please guys dont scare me ok. I really not in a mood for pranks
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Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
no no really. i swear nothing happened on that day. i hope.
Please guys dont scare me ok. I really not in a mood for pranks
Noone is scaring u, only u know the best what u did cos noone else were there to see/know what happened.
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Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
But I just want to taste this feeling, u know. And she seems to accept me doing that to her. But of course im not too sure because we're drunk. So my thoughts were like 50-50 at that time. I try to hold my liqour well next time
there's no 'try'.if you have the capacity, you have it. if you ain't, you'll get tipsy in five minutes flat. no joke.
if you're really not a good drinker, please, drink with caution.
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i think, its obvious.that things would turn bad.next time, dont let it happen again.
as for her, maybe give her sometime.no point you pressure her, insisting that you and her did nothing in the cubicle.time will heal the problem.
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Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
no no really. i swear nothing happened on that day. i hope.
Please guys dont scare me ok. I really not in a mood for pranks
Oh shit! You HOPE!
How are you going to convince anyone nothing happened?
Look, you know, she knows, and we know nothing happened. But does all of your friends know nothing happened? Are there any of your friends who scoff at your denial?
Please lah, convinvce everyone that you only had petting fun just like everyone, and then both of you passed out. All your friends are wondering what took you so long in the cubicle. Hard for them to accept nothing happened, but you must convince them. She must have assurance that you all believe nothing happened other than heavy petting.
She must regain her fun image, and all your acknowledgements that she is not "that kind of a girl". Give that back to her.
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Originally posted by mancha:
Oh shit! You HOPE!
How are you going to convince anyone nothing happened?
Look, you know, she knows, and we know nothing happened. But does all of your friends know nothing happened? Are there any of your friends who scoff at your denial?
Please lah, convinvce everyone that you only had petting fun just like everyone, and then both of you passed out. All your friends are wondering what took you so long in the cubicle. Hard for them to accept nothing happened, but you must convince them. She must have assurance that you all believe nothing happened other than heavy petting.
She must regain her fun image, and all your acknowledgements that she is not "that kind of a girl". Give that back to her.
agreed.
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do u really like her or just like her as a fren only?
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Originally posted by mancha:
Oh shit! You HOPE!
How are you going to convince anyone nothing happened?
Look, you know, she knows, and we know nothing happened. But does all of your friends know nothing happened? Are there any of your friends who scoff at your denial?
Please lah, convinvce everyone that you only had petting fun just like everyone, and then both of you passed out. All your friends are wondering what took you so long in the cubicle. Hard for them to accept nothing happened, but you must convince them. She must have assurance that you all believe nothing happened other than heavy petting.
She must regain her fun image, and all your acknowledgements that she is not "that kind of a girl". Give that back to her.
I really think nothing happened but we're drunk so i haven't completely sure, u know. okay sure... i will convince her that nothing happened and we just taste each other for the fun. And i try to add in a joke to ease her if possible. thanks :)
but one thing, heavy petting? im scared she will think that differently u know and she will never regain her confidence if i said that word. Is there any other word than heavy petting?
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Originally posted by Miss Tiny:
do u really like her or just like her as a fren only?
i cant give an exact answer. I really like her, i mean when i touch her its like this spirit in me suddenly rise up u know. But i know i cant like her because she's my good friend and i dont want to ruin our friendship. -
Originally posted by SBS7484P:
there's no 'try'.if you have the capacity, you have it. if you ain't, you'll get tipsy in five minutes flat. no joke.
if you're really not a good drinker, please, drink with caution.
My friend said that if hug each other and stay there for a couple more minutes. My vision will beginning to clear up. -
both of u noe exactly wad happened, but she herself still can't accept the fact that she's so into physical contact with u.
i think it's hard for her to completely forget this incident, especially since she's a girl. So that means even if both of u only engage in so called petting and nothing else, it still cause quite an impact on her, ruining her so called image infront of her frens. It's hard for her to regain back her own self whenever she's with u, and the frens who noe abt this incident.
no wonder they say "é…’å�Žä¹±æ€§“. maybe try talking to her how she feels about the whole thing and see how it goes. what has been done cannot be undone.
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u see her everyday and u kissed n slept after being drunk in a toliet?? of cus shes quiet lol, dun you see the problem here??
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If you had f*cked her that day she will have treated you very nice after that..