Falling in love with a married man
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
"then be patient - make no demands, expect nothing in return n don't seek anything more.".. this is not love... it's self-TORTURE.... humanly impossible.
some ppl in TS shoe often like to self inflict pain as a mean of comfort. Self-torture it might b.... but some ppl do it still...
be patient....? youth come with an expiration date. why waste it on a married man? This isnt the 1st time u fallen in/out love is it?
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Well Earl, like most human beings, some women can be selfish, competitive and what propels a woman to continue this "hopeless" path , is hope itself.
Women who are prone to affairs with married men usually wants to prove that she is BETTER than the wife. The competitive streak.
And because she HOPES to get that juicy steak on her plate , instead of someone else's , she continues with the affair, hoping for the tide to turn in her favor. Much like a gambler who refuses to give up.
Frankly, I don't know of any ex-mistress turned wife who is happy for long , with the man she managed to steal. Not many mistress will admit publicly she bagged a garbage.
As the saying goes. "The best revenge is to let the other woman have him."
got..there was such a third party that actually got her way.. and got the happy ending she wanted.
you know long ago, perhaps b4 you were born, there was this TCS actress cherie lim who had an affair with a well known rich trader peter lim, i dare to write this and not fear getting sued by him is because the news was well covered by the local press, came out in wanbao, sin min and all and if i'm not wrong, cherie lim eventually didn't deny it also leh. She suddenly quit acting and rumour was that she was being kept by him..he is one of SG's too 10 richest men and was married. anyway she received her happy ending cos he married her eventually..about a few yrs ago.
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Originally posted by insidestory:
got..there was such a third party that actually got her way.. and got the happy ending she wanted.
you know long ago, perhaps b4 you were born, there was this TCS actress cherie lim who had an affair with a well known rich trader peter lim, i dare to write this and not fear getting sued by him is because the news was well covered by the local press, came out in wanbao, sin min and all and if i'm not wrong, cherie lim eventually didn't deny it also leh. She suddenly quit acting and rumour was that she was being kept by him..he is one of SG's too 10 richest men and was married. anyway she received her happy ending cos he married her eventually..about a few yrs ago.
Yah lah... Cherie Lim married a billionaire ok. 6th RICHEST man in Singapore.
ANY woman/concubine woulda be HAPPY with him even if he stink farts all night or has a huge pot belly dangling from his belt.
You know what Peter looks like or not ? Go search his photo lah.
Ya also forgot he had a messy and high profile divorce battle with his ex-wife , over the family assets ? WHY ? Cus if he can't keep his money, he woulda be just a NOBODY.( I'm sure his ex-wife knows that.)
Without his money, ya think Cherie wants to marry him and tahan his IMPERFECTIONS ? Dream on lorrrrr......
So , ofcors cherie very happy lah. The man lousy never mind lor.. happy with his money is enough already.
But, how many unfaithful men out there as rich as Peter ??? LOL !!!!
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I really cannot imagine my life without this guy. It really hurt me to let him go.
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Originally posted by Jessiexie:
I really cannot imagine my life without this guy. It really hurt me to let him go.
you're just setting yourself up to be hurt even more if you continue to stay in this relationship -
Originally posted by Jessiexie:
I really cannot imagine my life without this guy. It really hurt me to let him go.
Cannot imagine also must imagine.
You have to let it all go.
There is no other way for you.
None.
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slut
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jessiexie....
dump him...go out and make friend, trust me you will get over him...i think you are good girl, dont build your happiness over other people misery.
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Originally posted by Jessiexie:
I really cannot imagine my life without this guy. It really hurt me to let him go.
Despite all that had been said and helpfully written here, it is sadly fallen upon your deaf ears. Even harsh words failed to work on you.
You are the kind of girl who when even abused by the one you fell for, would not leave but hope for a better day. You are addicted to him, akin to a drug addict in need for a daily fix or will suffer withdrawal symptoms, similar to you now experiencing.
But you are not a drug abuser, only confused and trapped by 'love' and the solace it seems to bring to you.
The root of your problem stems from your loneliness. Your despical lover had encourage and helped you realize your deepest fantazy, and your construction of dreams became a temporary reality, for his own personal use. You had been deluded, and still are living in a delusion,
No matter what others say, you will not listen or believe, for that constructed facade is a reality to you which you clinged on, due to your loneliness.
So rather than to pull away the rug under you with harsh words, let us be your friends instead, to rid of your loneliness. Whenever you feel lonely, just pour out your woes to us, let us listen, in pm if you wish.
I dont care if you are rich or poor, black or white, beautiful or fat and ugly. The only ugliness i know are those in the heart. You too, like everyone of us, are a precious life, a fellow human being. Never hurts to have more friends, right?
In time, your dependency will wither with more friends in your social circle, the way a drug abuser will grow less on the need for abusive substances. Theirs is cold turkey way, which is a form of torture, but for yours, cold turkey would only drive you deeper into your dependency of him. Your problem is only loneliness and a need for someone to care, not drugs anyway.
PS: I may not be a good friend, for i have erratic work hours and move around a lot. My suitcase is always packed and ready. Thus I may not be there for you at all times. But I am sure that if you open up yourself to others, there will be similar lonely souls who will in time become good friends to you. Any volunteers?
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babe....i think you will only take all the advice seriously and start to focus on your own life alone when the wife found out and start to go after you like a mad dog.she might be you know, cos the husband seem to distance himself from you but you are still there.-in your dream land
i personally think that girl shouldnt do certain thing:
1) having affair with your own best friend's bf (even if he look like david beckham)
2) like your case:be with a marriage man
there's a lot of great single guys out there waitnig for you unless if you think that you dont deserve a good man.
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Originally posted by Jessiexie:
I really cannot imagine my life without this guy. It really hurt me to let him go.
Hi Jessiexie,
This mirage which you are seeing can't and won't last forever... Since you refuse to listen to our advices, perhaps you will like to share with us instead what do you have in mind?
Cheers.
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Originally posted by TrueHeart:
Hi Jessiexie,
This mirage which you are seeing can't and won't last forever... Since you refuse to listen to our advices, perhaps you will like to share with us instead what do you have in mind?
Cheers.
break up the family lo wat else? -
I am not into breaking up people's family. I just fall madly in love with a married man. It is mentally torturing to leave him now. Asking me to change heart overnight is impossible. I do not know how long this can last. But now I hope he is interested in me again but it is not working. I really do not know what to do.
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Originally posted by Jessiexie:
I am not into breaking up people's family. I just fall madly in love with a married man. It is mentally torturing to leave him now. Asking me to change heart overnight is impossible. I do not know how long this can last. But now I hope he is interested in me again but it is not working. I really do not know what to do.
Take your time to forget him. Time will heal. Just relax yourself when you are free, like going to the library for some peace there. Being able to be calm and relax in any situation helps to overcome any challenges. Good Luck!
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Originally posted by Jessiexie:
I am not into breaking up people's family. I just fall madly in love with a married man. It is mentally torturing to leave him now. Asking me to change heart overnight is impossible. I do not know how long this can last. But now I hope he is interested in me again but it is not working. I really do not know what to do.
Then get this into your head: falling madly in love with a married man can break up a family!
The very fact that you hope that he is interested in you shows that you don't give a rat's ass about the potential breakup of his family should he really return to you!
You suck. Seriously. All you care about are your own emotions. You really don't seem to care for the feelings of his wife and kids.
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Originally posted by Jessiexie:
I am not into breaking up people's family. I just fall madly in love with a married man. It is mentally torturing to leave him now. Asking me to change heart overnight is impossible. I do not know how long this can last. But now I hope he is interested in me again but it is not working. I really do not know what to do.
Hi Jessiexie,
Are you not mentally torturing yourself now? You are chasing after something which is next to impossible, and only falling deeper and deeper into the pit of despair.
Indeed, it is unlikely that you will forget about him overnight, but isn't that true for all couples who have broken up? In fact, some of them never truly forget or get over their previous other half.
Please do pardon me for saying so, but instead of trying to chase after him, you should just spare yourself the misery and pain, and move on with your life bit by bit.
Cheers.
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well... i'm also involvedin something like this but i'm e man... hahaha....
Wonder if there's possibility we share 'opinions'?
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The start of all these is already a mistake and if you do love him so much, let him go.
What's yours will always be yours. There won't be happiness for one-sided love and what's more he is married. Think about the other parties (his kids if any). Even you don't have the intention of tearing down his family but they all will become the victims because of your actions. I won't say it is entirely your fault because that guy had obviously betrayed his wife at the first place, but you can make the situation all better if you forgive him and ultimately yourself for choosing the wrong person to love.
-What goes around, comes around-
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That married man told me that he loves his wife and 2 kids alot and want the best for them. He seems like a good man to me. I also wonder why he stray.
Can someone tell me why married men stray despite them having a happy family?
It really hurts me alot to see him giving me short reply or just look away when I passes him by.
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good man won't strayed.
he just wanna have sex with you.
i know that hurts maybe we should be together and be an item instead.
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Originally posted by Jessiexie:
That married man told me that he loves his wife and 2 kids alot and want the best for them. He seems like a good man to me. I also wonder why he stray.
Can someone tell me why married men stray despite them having a happy family?
It really hurts me alot to see him giving me short reply or just look away when I passes him by.
Married men who are good do not stray.
And good women do not wish for married men to stray.
So shaddup about him already. At least he has already woken up to reality that he's doing the wrong thing by straying with you.
What about you? You are currently a horrible woman for still wishing for him to stray.
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I don't think we have the right to judge. Married men who stray or women who fell in love with married ppl are all part of nature.
For married men who stray, there must be some problems at home or he's just looking out for a short adventure spree. There's this chemical in the body that ignities when one falls in love, and maybe he's undulged in it.
Sadly, if this carries on, there would really be no end because the guy will still choose back his wife and kids, even if both you and his wife drop into the river...
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TS go find your own man and dont be a family destroyer
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Originally posted by Jessiexie:
That married man told me that he loves his wife and 2 kids alot and want the best for them. He seems like a good man to me. I also wonder why he stray.
Can someone tell me why married men stray despite them having a happy family?
It really hurts me alot to see him giving me short reply or just look away when I passes him by.
Hi Jessiexie,
As fudgester has sharply pointed out, a good man will not have strayed so easily. If a married man who has a happy family and also no family problems choose to stray, then the most suitable word which we can associate with his actions is foolishness.
Instead of treasuring what he has, he choose to lust for other women, when he knows that his actions could lead to the eventual destruction of his happy family. This sort of men may look good on the outside, but his actions speak a lot about the colour of his heart.
Cheers.
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halo jessie,
what if u got married with this married guy in the end.
and a hot chick comes and steal him away...soon?
please, do not be so selfish.... what goes around comes around...
sorry.