sometimes i really dont understand myself
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i aint sure why im treating my colleague in this manner. we are working in the same department and coincidentally she is also my friend's sister. subconsciously im talking much less to her or not even say a simple "bye" when we leave for home. perhaps im afraid of falling for her(she really reminds me of my ex) as she is already attached + she is a friend's sister so the feeling is really weird + she is also a colleague!
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Think less of her...?
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..when i have to see her almost everyday?
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hmm sticky situation...
i thought of ur situation for a while an found myself a little stumped.. but i guess the long and short of it is.. tough luck.. just ride it out. there should be a line drawn in between somewhere, one side being too close to her, the other, ignoring her. find that line and try to stick to it. maybe after a while u'll get used to it, and i'm sure u'll find a nice girl elsewhere in no time.
best wishes to u~!
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It's NOT what ya see that's bothering you... It's what ya THINK.... How often have you notice the office's door though you're using it everyday...? THINK about it....Originally posted by zenith:..when i have to see her almost everyday?
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keke..the reason im posting here means that im not mentally as strong as i hoped imOriginally posted by Devil1976:It's NOT what ya see that's bothering you... It's what ya THINK.... How often have you notice the office's door though you're using it everyday...? THINK about it....
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You are NOT feeling natural, therefore you won't be acting natural. To solve your problem, sort out your ownself to see what is the real issue behind you revolving this problem.Originally posted by zenith:i aint sure why im treating my colleague in this manner. we are working in the same department and coincidentally she is also my friend's sister. subconsciously im talking much less to her or not even say a simple "bye" when we leave for home. perhaps im afraid of falling for her(she really reminds me of my ex) as she is already attached + she is a friend's sister so the feeling is really weird + she is also a colleague!
what should i do so that things will be much more natural than us?
I) You are avoiding her because she reminds you of your ex - and you have this yearning for your ex, though she couldn't and probably won't be together with you again. If I am not wrong when a girl rejects you, most probably you will avoid her.
II\) You said friend's sister, what colleague, etc - it sounds quite normal to me. The weird thingy lies INSIDE YOUR head. Nobody is going to say anything or find anything weird - its YOU are the one who *think* and *feel* this way, when in reality nobody really bothers.
Don't believe me? Start another topic and request for everyone's view and see the result.
So what must you do? Settle your own feelings and unneccessary confusions and uncomfortability. Preception is UP to you to set - not me nor the people around you.
Cheers -
Keep mind occupied... Think of her only when she's not around..? (but not too much..?)Originally posted by zenith:keke..the reason im posting here means that im not mentally as strong as i hoped im
thanks anyway
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thanks but i dont really agree with your 2nd point.Originally posted by Yunhaier:You are NOT feeling natural, therefore you won't be acting natural. To solve your problem, sort out your ownself to see what is the real issue behind you revolving this problem.
I) You are avoiding her because she reminds you of your ex - and you have this yearning for your ex, though she couldn't and probably won't be together with you again. If I am not wrong when a girl rejects you, most probably you will avoid her.
II\) You said friend's sister, what colleague, etc - it sounds quite normal to me. The weird thingy lies INSIDE YOUR head. Nobody is going to say anything or find anything weird - its YOU are the one who *think* and *feel* this way, when in reality nobody really bothers.
Don't believe me? Start another topic and request for everyone's view and see the result.
So what must you do? Settle your own feelings and unneccessary confusions and uncomfortability. Preception is UP to you to set - not me nor the people around you.
Cheers
dating a colleague is different from anyone else, especially when there is the opportunity to see each other everyday. if things go well of course no one will feel anything. but if things do not go well, the sight of each other everyday will mean more pain and anger to either/both parties.
i guess im just more paranoid... -
You are just being paranoid. If because of the high chance of seeing each other everyday and you already give up - School mates, classmates, ECA mates, work mates, etc etc, all got problem to chase eh?Originally posted by zenith:thanks but i dont really agree with your 2nd point.
dating a colleague is different from anyone else, especially when there is the opportunity to see each other everyday. if things go well of course no one will feel anything. but if things do not go well, the sight of each other everyday will mean more pain and anger to either/both parties.
i guess im just more paranoid...
Its all in your mind
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then i think its a gd way to test urself on handling relationships... since u noe dat if things went wrong bet the both of u, it sight of each other will incur pain and anger, then u can learn hw not to let things go so wrong,or how to improve the relationship...Originally posted by zenith:thanks but i dont really agree with your 2nd point.
dating a colleague is different from anyone else, especially when there is the opportunity to see each other everyday. if things go well of course no one will feel anything. but if things do not go well, the sight of each other everyday will mean more pain and anger to either/both parties.
i guess im just more paranoid...
Well,its juz a suggestion!!