Family objection if your partner is of humble background
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if your bf/gf is of humble background (father is taxi driver and mother is housewife, but that he/she is a graduate and holds a decent pay and job, will your family object to your seeing of him/her if your family is quite well off.
if your family were to object your marriage to him/her, what will you do? marry him/her despite your family objections and move out from your house?
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nowadays still got like that meh
and yes i will still marry her.
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got why not? esp if you are from a rich family but very conservative thinking.
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nowadays it seems that rich family more open, well, at least for those i saw/met.
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Some rich sgians saw a common ground with poor sgians, both of them are at the mercy of the government and the market.
They may be rich, but they may not be able to move their assets... or such...
What I suggest is to let her into your family for a trial period, not as a maid of course, but like a live in girlfriend. This may not be possible in certain families however but you need to give an impression that you are INTELLIGENT, INSIGHTFUL, PURPOSEFUL, instead of being egocentric and irresponsible adult.
One strategy I used to woo my family to accept my gf is to tell them beforehand that my gf meets my criteria (i.e. talks well, not ugly, understanding of my financial situation, etc). And she becomes my gf (I hint to them that my gf may not be a perm gf if it fails my criteria), it is IMPERATIVE for everybody involve to cooperate if the whole thing has to work.
Of course, I love my gf greatly, and I just lie all the criteria based of my 'overpositive evaluations' toned down to realistic levels.
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if theres a will, theres a way.
i think if family objects, and you insist in marrying him/her.you'll just talk it out till your parents agree lor.
those were the olden days, i know still there are such family doing things to their own child.but dont you think your family is also worried for your future?
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Originally posted by Rooney9:
if your bf/gf is of humble background (father is taxi driver and mother is housewife, but that he/she is a graduate and holds a decent pay and job, will your family object to your seeing of him/her if your family is quite well off.
if your family were to object your marriage to him/her, what will you do? marry him/her despite your family objections and move out from your house?
It's so easy for people to talk about it when they have never been place in such situations before.
Maybe when the time comes, the right question to ask is "Are you in a position to make any decision or not first?"
Many times, couples in such scenarios don't really have much of a choice in their given situations.
So it would be polite for anyone not to discuss any further if they have not been in such situations before in their entire lives or simply watched too much movies or dramas.
If you were in a position to make your own decision, is there really a need to have a discussion about it in here?
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Originally posted by parn:
It's so easy for people to talk about it when they have never been place in such situations before.
Maybe when the time comes, the right question to ask is "Are you in a position to make any decision or not first?"
Many times, couples in such scenarios don't really have much of a choice in their given situations.
So it would be polite for anyone not to discuss any further if they have not been in such situations before in their entire lives or simply watched too much movies or dramas.
If you were in a position to make your own decision, is there really a need to have a discussion about it in here?
For the first time, i have to agree with you...lol
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Originally posted by Mr Milo:
For the first time, i have to agree with you...lol
I already don't know how many "first time" I have already heard from people in here.So many virgins in here, so many "first time".
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Originally posted by parn:
I already don't know how many "first time" I have already heard from people in here.So many virgins in here, so many "first time".
i am a honest person
i say i virgin means i virgin lor
wanna have a go at me?
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Originally posted by Mr Milo:
i am a honest person
i say i virgin means i virgin lor
wanna have a go at me?
Ohh ... but I don't do free-lance ...I don't do virgin either
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�线追踪 actually addressed this issue on the show last friday (181209). talked about a few couples.
1) a man (26) who tied the knot with a lady (38) 12 years older than him. the lady had custody of her 2 young sons from her previous marriage.
2) man, an overseas degree holder fell in love with a lady, vendor at the wet market. they got married after meeting just thrice. after a while into the marriage, the wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. fortunately she went through successful operation. as of now, the family of 3 is living happily together.
try to find that episode and watch it.
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Originally posted by Becksatic:
�线追踪 actually addressed this issue on the show last friday (181209). talked about a few couples.
1) a man (26) who tied the knot with a lady (38) 12 years older than him. the lady had custody of her 2 young sons from her previous marriage.
2) man, an overseas degree holder fell in love with a lady, vendor at the wet market. they got married after meeting just thrice. after a while into the marriage, the wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. fortunately she went through successful operation. as of now, the family of 3 is living happily together.
try to find that episode and watch it.
Hi Becksatic,
Just to add on, �线追踪 can be watched online on MobTV.
Cheers.