please give your opinion
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Hi ppl...just a few questions to seek the opinion of ppl.
Do you think it is ok to talk wif a guy abt his ex gf? WHenever i tok to my bf abt his ex, he ans me very willingly. however, everytime it is bound to be some bad views...say she dun understand him, etc. u think it is ok to the relationship?? -
Hi Joy,
Sure..it's perfectly fine to tolk to your b/f about anything....it's good in fact that u tolk about such things wif him so that the two of u have a better understanding as to how each one of you feel about certain things....
anyway as a couple ... there shouldn't be anything the 2 of u couldn't tolk about.. should there? well tat's just my views... good luck to u anyway...
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Ask him anything about his ex except for the hanky panky part. U might get disappointed when u heard it and you would want to probe further.
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weez is right. but u must also be able to say about your past as well and do it truthfully and tactfullyOriginally posted by weez:Ask him anything about his ex except for the hanky panky part. U might get disappointed when u heard it and you would want to probe further.
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At least he told you things truthfully about his ex rather than keep you in suspense and let your imagination run wild right?
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Yah....that's for sure. Some bastards may even lie in order to save their face.Originally posted by moose:At least he told you things truthfully about his ex rather than keep you in suspense and let your imagination run wild right?
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hey ppl thnaks...
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Love has its own time, its own seasons and its own reason for coming and going.
You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying.
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A guy who keeps pushing the blame onto his exs abt failed relationships is bound to be a jerk. In the case of relations, there is no absolute right or wrong, let the guy learn to accept some reponsibilites. Just think what bad things he is going to say abt u to his wife if both of u break up.
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Well i think its perfectly okie lor ..... but then, not everything the guy say might be true lor so just listen and forget abt it......
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Joycelyn,
it's great that your communication links with yr b/f is so open. I guess yr b/f may be saying all the "bad" things abt his past cos he may not want to say the nice parts in case you compare or just purely dislike hearing abt them.
I believe that for a couple to ask questions especially about their partner's previous dates, a number of people, subconsicously or not, only want to hear what they really wish to hear. So when asking sensitive qn such as on issues on intimacy, before asking I think the person should consider a few qns first such as (1)Can I bear it if the reply from my b/f or g/f is not as I expected or not in accordance to my values and beliefs? (2)Will I compare myself with the ex of my present partner?.
The present and future is more impt than the past. But how many of us can actually do that? -
If u dun wan to listen, then stop asking abt his ex lah. He very honest to tell u mean u mean much more in his heart. Dun worry lah anything happen just come to sea & tell your mama stingray or me the original stingray. Heeheehee :p :p :p
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hihi......
ur names's jocelyn izzit...icic well after reading ur message......i began to think of myself....... all my ex have also told mi many moments she have wif her x bfs.. they doesn't mind telling mi too but theres something.... dun u get jealous when he tok abt the happy moments he had wif his x b4?
I do......very much sometimes......so heres my advice......if he didn't say, dun ask him abt it..... that will be good for both parties
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i think it's okay, but do not probe too much into it, or he might get uncomfortable. That's not a good feeling, having yr gf asking about yr ex like you abandoned her on purpose or something =)
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wats the point of noeing so much bout ur partner's EX when many a times, the truth or result is usually more depressing than satisfying? tt is provided u get the 100% truth in the 1st place.
How many ppl can actually bring themselves to tell the absolute truth bout wat happened btw him/her and their EX? Well, there might be but how is one ever gonna noe?
If u r willing to accept him as ur bf, then i'm quite sure u wont mind watever happened b4 in his life. He will tell u wat he is willing to without u asking. If u hv to ask, dun go in too deep for u might just be forcing him to lie or courting truths tt r hurting. Dun create chances for unhappiness when u can avoid it
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