Relationship - confused (help)
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Simple, you have wasted her 5 years already.
It's time you let her go. Let someone else who can love and appreciate her,take good care of her.
You can go and find that perfect dream girl of yours.
5 years is better than 10-20 years or a life time, wasted.
I'm very sure she can also find someone else better than you.
Good luck.
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yeah go and find a more attrative girl and hope that she will cheat all of your money and than you go bankrupt and sleep on the streets.
stupid TS
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So right now, you are seeking the greener pastures on the other side huh?
Truth be told, you just don't love her that much anymore. You have wasted 5 years, and now you are doubting whether this relationship is the perfect one you are looking for. Please don't give yourself excuses; you are just plainly sick of her already.
You've mentioned the many things she'd done for you, but what have you done for her? Maybe you can elaborate on that. I think that if you really love her, you wouldn't be thinking so much on this. Maybe it's time to let her go to find a better man. Meanwhile, you can "explore your other options" to look for the perfect girl you seek, or rather seeking for new challenges to satisfy your thirst.
And what do you mean by diploma holders been unable to hold intelligent conversations? That's stereotyping. Degree holders so what? Big deal?
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Love and relationship is about seeing a person who is not perfect to be perfect, focus on her pros and not her cons dude.
I know at some point of time there will be downslope and u will ponder to see is she the right one, but there is always a upslope after a downslope. think of that -
she deserves someone better.
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don't be afraid of being a bastard in love.
pursue what you know is best for yourself.
by being honest with her and letting go, you're granting not only yourself, but her as well, the chance to find others who may be more compatible.
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Love never dies, the love within one never flowered. something else was pretending lar
the ethical thing is to be honest and whatever u feel - express to her and that is what a person would do if he/she purports to love or the least accord the respect for having spent time with you.
However, your stance seems more like wanting to escape, u may escape but u are doomed to repeat what you are - she is an excuse, expectations is an excuse. so being honest to yourself and risking wrath/??? face it.
As for finding someone better - it is a chase, an illusion - it is delusional and frankly being neurotic. Being'' rite'' is far more wiser than looking for Mr/Miss ''Right'' !
PS - Considering your age and the folly of youth - it is alright, one needs to take tumbles and of course, what matters is one being gracious and evolving. Otherwise, it is utter folly excepting the youth lar
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The time frame is confusing, but you are in a relationship and are staying together, and now you have grown apart.
You are right these thing do happen.
There are mental and emotional blocks to action.
Firstly, the confession, how to tell her.
Tell her you must. Think and explore on how to bring up the matter. There is a possibility that she sensed it and is waiting for you to bring it up. Anyway expect it to be emotional, think it through, and do not avoid it. The idea should be to talk, discuss and decide.
Secondly, the alternative accomodation, looking for another place to stay.
This is another big influence on maintaining the status quo. It takes courage to strike out on your own and look for your own accomodation, or ever return to your family. Talk about the arrangements to be made.
Thirdly, have you made any romantically inspired declaration to her? Did you tell her that you will never part come hell fire or what not, and you will be together till your dying breath etc etc. Well for this, read Fugazzi's post. Just be honest.
Remember you talked together into this, well now talk together again.
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women charter so what? big deal? women has govt to protect but not for us...
just shake her off - abashedly and unhesitantly...
just wait till one day she divorce with all your money and your kids...then u regret ...
if i were u...plus one big kick on her face and write GO TELL YOUR STUPID PAP TO PROTECT U BITCH
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the rise of more single well to do males is a testimony against the gender-biased policy of STUPID PAP...
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PAP sucks Opposition suck I suck.... who gives.... be happy thats the most important shit anyone in this forum would say.
Wooooooooooo~!!! Man at least Singapore is a nice clean place to live.... I mean i'm not all for PAP and all that but look it's a pretty cool place to live.... like seriously.
Drunk on a Saturday nite with your good mate playing Battlefield Heroes rockss~!!!
<3 luv u all Singapore.
Kind Regards
GEneie
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tell her straight lor
easy
dun make it sound so cheem
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At least 4 counts of "tell her advice ".
There is no reason why this cannot be sorted out amicably.
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Consider carefully and weigh everything.
If you are certain that both of you have indeed drifted, then, it's ok, dont feel bad about it.
Anyways it's normal, because mid-20s is different with teenage years.
So both of you evolved a little bit.
If you really think this relationship is not suitable anymore, end it amicably.
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Not many people can maintain a relationship from teenage years into the adult life.
what is it that you want and do not want exactly? what had gone wrong in the relationship?
did u just got bored of it after 5years? or do u feel tied down by being in a relationship?
don't make the wrong decision becos of a slight feeling and regret later on. -
You better evaluate your stance properly. Is it the sex part? Relationship is not all about sex. You should be lucky to find yourself in a relationship of 5 years. Are you thinking of marriage? Or dumping her to find other relationship?
Think carefully. Good relationships are not easy to find. Some are lucky but some are unlucky, some men and women are now in their 30s, still single, they find their friends around them have married and have their own kids. To make matters worse, people in their 30s who don't marry and to be more independent and spend more time at work then friendship. Is this what you want? You can dump her but you may risk the chance of not getting another gf as good as her.
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means u r tired of her? lol. Well, just dun regret it if you dump her. 5 years....u both must have had a lot of fond memories.
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Originally posted by mrconfused:
We have been together for more than 5 years already, so much so we even move in together. We have been together since our teenage years, and now we're now in our mid 20s.
However, recently i get that slight feeling that this is not what i want. I guess expectations change as we grew older.
I would like to hear some comments on what i should do.
You have a whole lifetime ahead of you and you want to make sure you share it with the right partner.Take that 5 years as part of your love education move on to better things and better people.
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Originally posted by Daveteo:
yeah go and find a more attrative girl and hope that she will cheat all of your money and than you go bankrupt and sleep on the streets.
stupid TS
What are the odds of him meeting Ms Ris Low?
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The only reason u are with her for 5 years is because she is really good for u.
Its only takes u to leave her to understand that.When u leave her after a while,u will understand that she is a better GF then any u have been with.
That really suck.Because by then, she is alrdy with another guy enjoying her better life without u.Hahaha...
Most ppl experience the same shit,just they will nvr admit unless u force them to.
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stop giving her anymore hopes. dun waste anymore of her time. jus be frank to her and goodbye.
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He is going to throw away old stuff and ready to buy new stuff.
She is not what you want, you should not start any relationship with her in thebeginning. This is just lame excuse.
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Originally posted by mrconfused:
We have been together for more than 5 years already, so much so we even move in together. We have been together since our teenage years, and now we're now in our mid 20s.
However, recently i get that slight feeling that this is not what i want. I guess expectations change as we grew older.
I would like to hear some comments on what i should do.
So you are sick of your girlfriend already?
But of course, after 5 years even if you had Miss Universe as your girlfriend, you would also be sick of her.
So you have found another girl you would like to get close with?
Please don't be so selfish and think you are the only person in your relationship who HAD a choice to find someone better and move out of with your current relationship.
Be more responsible towards your girlfriend because you had wasted 5 good years of her youth!
Why bother to call off the relationship only after 5 years? Why not do it within 5 weeks or 5 days if she isn't the one for you?
The fact is clear, you did not have a change of heart which is why you are pondering and holding onto this relationship. You are just sick of her physical appearance and you no longer lusted after her body and you are coughing out all sorts of excuses to exit this relationship as gallantly and righteously as you could.
Guess what? This kind of behaviour has no honour at all in our current society and if you really want to exit out of this relationship, you need to do it in an ugly manner and tainted your reputation forever and live with it on your conscience for eternity.
Don't come and tell me it's not fair to you, unless you can tell me how fair is it towards your girlfriend when you are the one enjoying her inside out and she's taking care and pleasing you on the outside in.
Wasting 5 years of our time? I do not forgive that kind of behaviour.
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Originally posted by parn:
So you are sick of your girlfriend already?
But of course, after 5 years even if you had Miss Universe as your girlfriend, you would also be sick of her.
So you have found another girl you would like to get close with?
Please don't be so selfish and think you are the only person in your relationship who HAD a choice to find someone better and move out of with your current relationship.
Be more responsible towards your girlfriend because you had wasted 5 good years of her youth!
Why bother to call off the relationship only after 5 years? Why not do it within 5 weeks or 5 days if she isn't the one for you?
The fact is clear, you did not have a change of heart which is why you are pondering and holding onto this relationship. You are just sick of her physical appearance and you no longer lusted after her body and you are coughing out all sorts of excuses to exit this relationship as gallantly and righteously as you could.
Guess what? This kind of behaviour has no honour at all in our current society and if you really want to exit out of this relationship, you need to do it in an ugly manner and tainted your reputation forever and live with it on your conscience for eternity.
Don't come and tell me it's not fair to you, unless you can tell me how fair is it towards your girlfriend when you are the one enjoying her inside out and she's taking care and pleasing you on the outside in.
Wasting 5 years of our time? I do not forgive that kind of behaviour.
If there is any doubt in a relationship that cant be mend before a marriage then both better call it quits or either one can opt to eject our of it.Better break a heart then ruin both lives.And by the way,If Miss Universe is my GF I die die also also want!!>LOL