HI guys, this is a trouble guy here. Yeah, troubled by luv... I never know to luv someone can be so painful and weary...sigh...
The problem is that she already have a boyriend. But from what i knows, her bf does not treat her well, yet she still loves her bf a lot. I know she only want to treats me as a close friend and nothing more bcoz she have rejected me before. I know i dun stand a chance against her bf who is much better looking than me.
But the problem is that i cannot denied my love for her. I truly luv her. Whenever i go out with her, i feel so happy. Juz to see her smile, to see her laugh. I dun know if she ever realised that. Everytime i see them together, its hurt me a lot. But from the bottom of my heart, I truly wish her happiness...
In the middle of the night
i could not sleep.
Being troubled by matters
of true love that i seek.
Everytime i close my eyes,
forget her as i cry.
However hard i try,
I juz couldn't erase her
from my weary mind...
*A toast to all those broken hearted souls out there*
Mr cloud,
Its never wrong to love any1..... i mean love is a very funny thing, u can still love some1 though she may have hurt u very much, or just like the ger love her bf even if he treats her badly ........
Think at current, think its best if u could just be her close friend, maybe 1 day she will 'wake up' n realise whos really good to her. Like many other cicumstances, not much u can do, but then u r consider much luckier than others, at least she still treat u as a close friend.
I know the feeling is hard to bear, but at least u will be one of those who knows whats on her mind. If she's yrs.....eventually she will be yrs..... here, wishing u all the best.
Regards
Same as me. My advice ... just be her good friend and not do anything rash. Either she'll wake up or you'll forget her and move on.
her bf does not treat her well, yet she still loves her bf a lot.
I know i dun stand a chance against her bf who is much better looking than me.
mr cloud: ever asked urself y she still loves him? u are not really being fair by saying that u dun stand a chance against her better looking bf. this is a statement which ain't fair to both u n her. love ain't just bout looks. i think u know that....has she been around u longer than with her bf? i mean, did u know her before her bf?
the fact is, she fell in love with her bf first, and to fall out of love ain't as easy as falling in love. the feelings is still there.
it's something like ur parents dun really treat u very well. they hate u from the minute u are born, but u love them. just simply coz they are ur parents. they gave birth to u, gave u life, and brought u to earth. they brought u up. mayb it's sort of an obligation, but still, u love ur parents very dearly no matter how they treat u. agreed? guess the same principles apply, hope u understand what i'm trying to put across.
sorry if i added on to ur misery.....was just hoping mayb u could try to c things from HER point of view...
Cherish your friendship with her.
At least it's one thing you have with her that her boyfriend doesn't. He has the relationship, but not the friendship... which precedes the relationship - and is part of the foundation of the relationship.
So... if there's the lack of that essential element - Friendship - the building will not withstand shakey ground.
Once again, cherish your friendship with her. The ball's already in her court.
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Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. -- A. Bierce
(Dragonlance takes up a glass of champane and toasts back...)
["Love?" As I know, starts with a smile... develops into a kiss and ends with a tear...
Love is painful
that is true
not to love is painful too;
but there is a greater pain:
to love and not be loved again.]
Your position... i only know too well. Lets just say, we "shared" the same boat my friend. My advice...(if you accept) is to ask her where you stand... tell her that you love and want to be with her... tell her that you will never give up on her and continue to fight for her...
May the best man win.
May GOD BLESS U!!!
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To lose your love is to have lived a thousand lives, and have them end all at once. - Rock
In your service,
Dragonlance
[This message has been edited by Dragonlance (edited 17 May 2000).]
* posted this msg in another thread
Some people think that it's holding on that makes one strong. Sometimes it's letting go makes u strong. This is what i call unrequited love & is the equivalent to
banging your head against a wall that isn't there.
Whatever treasure & wealth u accumulate, they will disperse one day. Whatever high status we struggle for, it will be lost one day. Whoever we love,they will leave us one day.
Think back. There was a time in your life when you didn't love this person. In fact, there was a time in your life when u didn't even know this person. And u were just fine without them! Loving someone is a learned reaction, through times u have spent together, special moments, etc. Just as you "learned" to love this person, you can learn to unlove them.
The true fact of the matter is...time does heal. And why does time heal? Because over time u naturally stop thinking of them. This may be due to the fact that u won't be in physical contact with them anymore, u may meet someone new and your thoughts turn to that new person; whatever the case, this is a true statement. so, why not speed things up? believe me, thinking of them, wishing for them, & pining away for them, will not bring them back. And speaking from experience, all it will get u is a new set of wrinkles! And, if they should come crawling back in the days ahead, with their pathetic tail between their legs...u will be in a much better frame of mind to deal with them a second time around if you have put them out of your thoughts.
Men like to get & forget.
Women like to give & forgive.
hmm...i guess u would be quite rash... coz u r so in love with her...u can tell her that u r in love with her. But do not pester her, otherwise there would be a chance wherby she would not treat u as her good fren anymore...
I guess i have been in such a circumstance b4...and i can understand how u feel....its difficult to understand love sometimes... sighz..
Hmmm....... That wat love all abt lah, but right now just be her best frd & wish her all the best lah. Heeheehee :p :p :p
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