What is in a gal mind.............. Help Me...
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Get to know a gal recently and get her HP number. Have been calling her and sms her but conversation has always been short cos she also say she was busy at the moment. But normally she do chat and reply to my SMS.
However, last few weeks, attempt to call her, but somehow nobody pick the call. Even sms her to ask her how she is doing, but still no reply from her. So uneasy till SMS her that if she dun want me to call, then at least sms me back to inform me. Then IMMEDIATELY she sms me say she was busy at the moment....
Like to ask all gals out there
1) is she just being polite to reply my sms, and just dun know how to reject me? Probably after a few weeks, she may think it is best not to SMS me back, which may be what she is doing now... BUT again, won't she took the opportunity to SMS me back not to call again when I ask her?? IF yes, why still SMS me to say she is busy, which puzzles me (is she really busy??)
How would you gals reject a guy who keep calling and SMS you, but you have no interest in him? Say busy?? Dun pick the call or reply SMS AT ALL???
Guess all guys here would be interested to know too
To all guys here :
2) If you are in my situation, would you keep calling and sms till she reply? I mean, how many of you are ALWAYS eager to know the reason why a gal gives you cool and hot. Who know she was REAL busy, and won't you be kicking your own butt if you make the wrong guess that she was not interested in you -
hmmzz...sometimes yes, sometimes no. =) actually, it does apply to me lo. hee~ *paiseh to say* but it's true to a certain extent la. at least i know it is for me lo. sometimes, it may not be that she's rejecting u. mebbe she's just trying to ask u to give her some space? how frequently do u sms/call her may i ask? =) i guess all i can say to u is, give urself n her some time. =) dun keep like msg-ing her everyday, or once every two days. =) rather irritating i shud say....hee~ just my 2 cents worth...Originally posted by HardRock:Like to ask all gals out there
1) is she just being polite to reply my sms, and just dun know how to reject me? Probably after a few weeks, she may think it is best not to SMS me back, which may be what she is doing now... BUT again, won't she took the opportunity to SMS me back not to call again when I ask her?? IF yes, why still SMS me to say she is busy, which puzzles me (is she really busy??)
How would you gals reject a guy who keep calling and SMS you, but you have no interest in him? Say busy?? Dun pick the call or reply SMS AT ALL???
Guess all guys here would be interested to know too
bear: hmmzzz...tot u bery free one? how come last post seen is posted on 20th oct huh? =) hee~ bear tou lan huh? =) hahaha -
Girls sometime just need their space, the more you want to get to know them the more you tend push them away. Just relax for a while and take a few days off. For both her sake and yours. Start wooing her again after that but this time go slowly. Get to know her as a friend first and then drop little hints every now and then that you like her. The key is to not rush things and take things easy...
Good Luck~!
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Dragonlance -
Juz to make you guys confused, WELL, i only sms and call her once a week/2weeks!! Dragging to 2 weeks becos like you guys, I thought since she is busy, I should try not to push myslef over her. Also, the moment she said she is busy, I immediately tell her I would call next time and hang the phone. Sometimes, I did get so confused that I remember asking her whether I can call her again or is she really busy, and she said yes...
BUT AGAIN, I was wondering, maybe she thought I had no sincerity, who knows! Me trying to stay patient (like what you guys also would do), but who knows, I may be acting wrong. Nevertheless, she may be studying for exams now. Most likely, I may be giving up.... If I waited for her exam to over before calling and sms her, that would be more than 1 month!!! How leh....
Whatever, thks for the feedback -
Juz to make you guys confused, WELL, i only sms and call her once a week/2weeks!! Dragging to 2 weeks becos like you guys, I thought since she is busy, I should try not to push myslef over her. Also, the moment she said she is busy, I immediately tell her I would call next time and hang the phone. Sometimes, I did get so confused that I remember asking her whether I can call her again or is she really busy, and she said yes...
BUT AGAIN, I was wondering, maybe she thought I had no sincerity, who knows! Me trying to stay patient (like what you guys also would do), but who knows, I may be acting wrong. Nevertheless, she may be studying for exams now. Most likely, I may be giving up.... If I waited for her exam to over before calling and sms her, that would be more than 1 month!!! How leh....
Whatever, thks for the feedback -
*laugh* your an Engineer~?! Us Engineers are not usually good with relationship. *Grin* But anyway... with your situation, you have 2 choices...
1) Just tell her straight how you feel. Although this will involve alot of thing at stake. It will give you the answer you need to make the next move.
2) Forget her.
Whatever option you take, think twice~?!
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Dragonlance -
Well, if I'm in ur situation, I will play it cool.. As u haf mentioned that u just got to know her, y not take things as it goes?? It could be becoz in her life, studies is her first priority.. She probably knows ur intentions, and somehow feels that it's affecting her studies... Dun think that gers are that insensitive. For instance, it's only when a guy is interested in a ger, he will ask for it, on their first meeting.
From wat u mentioned earlier, it seems as though both of u haf just met and just beginning to know each other. She's probably doesn't like the idea of revealing too much of herself to someone new.. Humans are like this.. I dun think u will tell meabt about urself if I just send u a SMS now rite??
My advice is take it slowly.. Dun make urself fall head over heels so easily... Give her some space to breathe... Get to know her like know u get to know any other female frens.. I dunthink u will SMS other female frens like u will for this girl rite?? Just imagine, when u dunno this person, yet he wants to find out who are u, wat u doing now... This could be wat's in her mind, "Who are u to ask these qns?? Even my parents dun ask tie me so tightly."
U want SMS her?? Say words of encouragement.. That's a gentleman.. She will be touched.. Understand her situation, treat her like a fren first.. U still haf a long way to go in life.. Better that u know her as fren first. then u rush things. Coz even now, I'm sure, ur head is filled wif her, can't really think straight too.
Afraid that u will lose her?? There's still plenty of chances.. the worst thing that can happen is both of u are together liaoz but both also not happy... only bring misery to urself if u dun know urselves well..
Think I tok too much...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
bear: a bit la. hahah =)
hardrock:
you yuan qian li lai xiang hui...
shi ni de zhong jiu hui shi ni de....
dun worriez. if u were meant to be together, u will. =) okiez, crap. anywayz, ask her if u are bothering her or not lo. dun come her asking us how she feels n thinks. we dunno, and will never noe. coz we r not her. u have to ask her if u really wanna noe. and may i suggest that if this is really he exam period, leave her alone......okok, my words were too harsh...wait...lemme tone it down a lil. okiez. done. well, i'm sure u wouldn't want to affect her studies and make her hate u forever rite? =) hee~ just exaggerating. well, even if her exams last for a month, so be it. like bear said, cool off for a while. give her space. let her finish her exams first b4 "pestering" her again. =))) hee~
quote FI: "fan shi mo qiang qiu"
quote ruthie: "if she's urs, she's urs"
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Okie.. then I think I dun tok that much in this post lahz..
watever is urs, can be urs, but not thru' means of crooking... be nice, be understanding. At least show it in front of her... That will make the whole thing look better... having some actions is good.. but make sure ur actions are appropriate... Then it will be considered a good impression made in the girl's mind.. Think u understand wat I mean rite?
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
Thks for all the feedback.
Of course, I am not trying to push myself too hard. Maybe I just get her point... and will not be calling her again.... -
Update us on how things are getting on, once in a while.. We will love to hear some good news...
All the best in ur little courtship. for the little princess.. smilez
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear