How To Please My EX
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I broke up with my ex a few months back coz she made me angry all the time but all the while we keep in contact.
One day I ask she would give me a second chance she replied negative...
And since she seems to be angry with me!!
How can I please her ??
How can I earn a chance to reconile ?? -
First thing first who initiated the break up??
She may be angry becoz she could haf recalled how u haf hurt her badly. Or maybe she is still confused inside her becoz she still loves u, but becoz u hurt thatt's y u turn her all upside down. It could also be that she's afraid of facing the same senario a second time, that's y she reject u. Gers are pple u cannot hurt them, becoz they are more emotional than most guys. and normally in a relationship, chances is that they contribute more to it. Having to haf dumped by u once, would mean she return to her protective self. As the saying goes... once beaten twice shy.
If it's u then I think u haf to explain to her how u r feeling at that time, and y the thing she say or did made u real fed-up. Be totally honest to her. Dun get aggitated when she rejects u again. Dun get angry, becoz gers needs to be pampered especially in this kind of situation. all of us are humans, we will be touched, and be soften when we see true sincerity. Even for guys as well. Well, let her slowly trust u again... once u gain her trust then dun ever break it agin, becoz a slightest wrong move from u will make her recall the whole thing and ur standing will be shaken. Main thing is to be totally sincere in all ur words and actions.
but one thing I haf to comment. U mentioned that she has always made u angry, wun this patch up gonna make u 2 going back to square one?? Can u bear wif her making u angry?? If it's going to be a repetition and u r going to be angry over the same thing again, I advise let both of u cool down first. Make sure u r certain that she is going to be the one for u. Chance is that, now u r feeling loss, and needed someone to to fill up the hole in ur life. It wun be love that u will be, but more of companionship. then it's going to hurt u and her in the end.
sorry for being so direct, and may haf even hurt u.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
gotta go have dinner.....post here later!!
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Y bother to hate ur ex?? take up the extra space in ur mind. and frowning even lifting up ur hand and the middle figure will need u to take the extra muscle to make the effort...
Okie.. maybe u can say that the guy hurted u a lot, something which I cannot empatise, but still it's all in the past... hate him will onli make ur life more miserable.
All the best in ur relationship wif ur current bf...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
ahhhh...i'm back....
okiez, wat i was going to say has basically been covered by our dear BEEG Bear here. =) hahaha
but i just hope to emphasize one point. THINK it thru' clearly. have a HEART to MIND talk with urself. ask urself clearly wat do u wan. dun get angry so easily, it's easier to think with a CLEAR head/mind.
finally, after having the mind-heart talk, if u finally decide to still go after ur ex, locate the problems that was present previously. think of ways u are going to solve these problems.
then have a heart to heart talk with ur ex. bare ur heart n soul to her. not exactly la, just exaggerating abit. but basically, asure her that u won't break her heart again, and identify the problems with her. DISCUSS with her how the TWO of u are going to solve it TOGETHER. okiez? =) dun make it all UR decision. =) democracy, let her have her say in this, coz the relationship concerns the both of u.
talk in peace. dun flare up so easily. =) calm down, and when u feel a surge of temper rising, force it down, take deep breaths. look at her and remember how much u love her. =)))
u noe.......everytime a couple quarrels, or more so in a case where the bf gets angry at the gf, the gf hurts alot......of coz a relationship does have it's ups n downs, but it hurts to have ur bf scolding u and flaring up at u lo...and whenever there are arguements, i believe both parties won't feel nice lo.......there's alotta hurt done here la....so, he mu gong chu is still da best!
PEACE! -
next time let u haf the first say okie?? I wait..
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
nvm la. =) hahaha i dun mind actually, coz noe y. u save me time typing. =) hahaha =) good good wat. hee~ den no needa waste my money n time typing here. hahaha. just joking la.
aiya, who come here first, who post first lo, so confirm u post first rite? duh... -
Zap: how's things wif u now??
T|red: Told you that I have no life liaoz.. From morning till night sit in front of the computer. Chances is that I will spot a post earlier than you.. sorryz...
Anyway... I was just reading your earlier post. It brings to mind my idea of a quarrel. In a argument, there is no wrong party, because both have their own ways of thinking (assuming all are logical ideas). It's just that neither can accept or understand each other at that point of time, hence resulted in the quarrel. And it's because of self-pride that rises the heated atmoshtere. He mu gong chu seems the best, but to achieve is very difficult. Well, even when one party always gives in, there will be a time when the party gets fed-up, breaks it.
From experience, I expect a couple to spark off a quarrel within the first 6 mths of their relationship. It's good, because it shows whether they can handle the first down turn of their relationship. The longer it takes for the first quarrel to occur, the chances of the relationship breaking up is higher. During this 6 mths, both sides will start to show the hidden character of themselves. If they dun quarrel, that means they are keeping their feelings in silence. If the load is let out all at one go after a while, it will not be good for the relationship. Don't know how u guys think??
Think typical relationships happen this way... there are exceptions of course.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
Since u said she's your ex, think u already treat her as an ordinary frd now, so why bother to pls your frd, juz fulfil your role as a frd, no need to be specially gd to her, agreed? Unless u still had that chemistry with her, then juz be more thick-skin and apologize to her, it's the best way out if u wanna salvage this broken relationship.
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
Thank you all for ur replies .. after thinking for a while .. I think I should leave my ex alone for a while ... and get on with my own life without her !!
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You Look At The Mountains, It Seem Simple & U Tell Urself U Can Do It Too ...........
But U Can't -
Glad to hear that u haf finally come to a conclusion with urself... The thing is not whether u want patch up or forget about the whole thing. The main thing is get ur mind settle down, and focus in the direction that u want to go...
Cheers...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
zap: yeah man! i just love it when people finally make up their mind and come to a decision. =) don't matter wat i hoped the result to be, it still feels nice to know u've decided. =) stick to ur decision hor!!! dun think too much, and u won't consider changing ur mind. c-rious. trust me. i tried it b4. made a decision, tried to stick to it, but in the end, think toooo much liaoz, den can't stand being depressed, den change my mind. hate it...=(
well, wish u luck!!! =)
bear: sounds like a volcano eruption to me. =) hee~ agree wiht u la, once in a while, let out some steam. otherwise pressure build up inside, then like dormant volcano liddat, suddenly erupt. den wait eruption too violent, volcano top kena blown off, den form caldera....ah.....thou' quite pretty la, but still, too violent oredi la. sure alotta injuries one.....link this to the arguemnet urself folks! hahaha =) -
Zap: Once u haf decided, let go of the burden then u can run forward faster.. No use carrying extra weight ard...
t|red: too bad I dun study geog. if not can cie u... haa haa... me do history, long long time ago...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
yuck! *bleah* i HATE history!!! i can't stand it!!! eeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwww!!! yuck yuck yuck!!!
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Zap: this is specially for u. Others can understand the meaning behind it also.
He raises a glass of water and asks the audience "How heavy do you think this glass of water is?"
"It depends on how long you hold it"
"If I hold it for a minute, it is Ok." "If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my right arm"
"If I hold it for a day, you will have to call an ambulance"
"It is the exact same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes"
If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, we will not be able to carry on, the burden becoming increasingly heavier.
"What you have to do is to put the glass down, rest for a while before holding it up again."
We have to put down the burden periodically, so that we can be refreshed and are able to carry on. When you return home from work, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it into your home. You can pick it up tomorrow.
Rest and relax.
t|red: history is nice.. I haf learn to like history... a lot of interest facts abt the pple in the past.. Like one of the Thailand was believe to be a gay.. haa haa.. Not so dead like wat u think lahz... now they change a lot liaoz.. but the teachers in S'pore din change their exam technic and their exam qns to be the same as Cambridge.. that's y it pisses students off.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
bear: never liked hist. =) never will. hahaha
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Dun like history, but we haf to be in touch wif history. In fact, we are always in touch wif history. Even now, u r creating history for urself. 5 yrs down, u will recall wat u haf done and wat u haf not done for ur 'O's....
anyway... U haf ur own preference lahz.. Dun mean to start a debate here... sorryz...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
Only bear,t|rEd & mik posting only..so i be the fourth one loh..
zap: i think it is a very common type of person we faced in our daily lives. the answer is very simple,"new cannot come without changing old ones" <-- chinese phrase. sometimes i personally think u dun have to drag on with this gal anymore. sorry if i say anything wrong. other alternative is by consulting a counsellor.
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Forgiven is a true way to long lasting love. -
samsung: waaah, nice one. tt chinese idiom oso can use here one ah??!! winnerz....
bear: alamak, liddat oso hafta say sorriez? *piaaks her forehead* u noe ah, me cannot live a day without bantering with someone leh. =) hahaha =) weird rite? -
well just dun want u to spend more time discussing abt history lahz.. waste ur time only.. got excess time.. better to something else.. want to tok abt history, we can alwasy do that during ur hols...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear