Ridiculous Relationship..
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paiseh, repeated post, coz tot got prob...hee~ =)
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Wow.. I think I was bad enuff.. To see my gf once, for a couple of hrs only in 3-4 wks. Never knew that there are pple who are worse off.. I'm really impressed, and touched by ur determination, and sincerity towards that ger. Furthermore I am listening to a Chinese song, 'dan ni gu dan ni hui xiang qi shui' and believe me, my eyes actually well up, after hearing ur story, and also thinking abt my own situation. Maybe the song, ur story, and the quiet ambience, and my tots, created the senerio, but I'm really impressed. Makes me feel that there is hope in the midst of darkness... We're on the same boat, just that I'm slightly better.Originally posted by hanabishi:I think I can beat that for lameness...
There's this boy X, who's secretly been in love with a girl for 5 and a half years.
The 1st year, he doesn't do anything, except go around in a daze and be really stoned.
2nd year, she leaves to study overseas. X is totally unprepared for this. Somehow he gets on with it.
Year 3, the dream starts to fade away, he hasn't had word of her for almost 2 years.
Middle year 4, he gets to see her at a class gathering. They talk quite a bit. A few weeks down the road, he wins a pair of movie-tickets. He knows he will never forgive himself if he does not ask her out. Sweating over it for 3 days, he manages to pick up the phone and contact her. They go for the movie. His 1st date ever, X is barely coherent. Miraculously, this does not piss her off. She flies off.
Middle year 5, gets to see her again. But only for an hour or so. She flies off again.
Present day, this time she asks him out via email. He is finally stable enough to have a 1/2 decent conversation with her. She can't stay long though, hardly past an hour. She flies off, - yes again.
So there he is, X, a boy desperately lonely for a girl he can only see for (about) an hour a year.
How's that for lameness. (Esp since there's a whole year to go...)
Call me 'a weak man' if u want, but feel that guys haf feelings too. We do shed tears for pple and for ourselves.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
Thank you very much.Originally posted by Bear:Wow.. I think I was bad enuff.. To see my gf once, for a couple of hrs only in 3-4 wks. Never knew that there are pple who are worse off.. I'm really impressed, and touched by ur determination, and sincerity towards that ger. Furthermore I am listening to a Chinese song, 'dan ni gu dan ni hui xiang qi shui' and believe me, my eyes actually well up, after hearing ur story, and also thinking abt my own situation. Maybe the song, ur story, and the quiet ambience, and my tots, created the senerio, but I'm really impressed. Makes me feel that there is hope in the midst of darkness... We're on the same boat, just that I'm slightly better.
Call me 'a weak man' if u want, but feel that guys haf feelings too. We do shed tears for pple and for ourselves.
At times I feel weak, pathetic and stupid walking this path of mine. But to hear that there are others who would think otherwise is truly heartening.
I guess the lesson for the day is that you've got to be grateful for whatever opportunities that come your way. Whether its every 3-4 weeks or once a year. The important thing is that we've all been given a fair shot at a dream of our own, and the only thing we have to do in return is try our best.
I hope you and your lady can find happiness together.
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I agree wif u... To hear of pple who think likewise as u.. Just one in 10 or even 20. I think this just one person will do a lot more than others can. Just someone to reassured u. Many of my friends told me to gif it up, and I think I almost gif it up totally. After know u ard, I think I felt that I'm not the only stupid guy ard here. there are others out there who are on the same boat. All the best for u and the girl of r dreams.Originally posted by hanabishi:Thank you very much.
At times I feel weak, pathetic and stupid walking this path of mine. But to hear that there are others who would think otherwise is truly heartening.
I guess the lesson for the day is that you've got to be grateful for whatever opportunities that come your way. Whether its every 3-4 weeks or once a year. The important thing is that we've all been given a fair shot at a dream of our own, and the only thing we have to do in return is try our best.
I hope you and your lady can find happiness together.
"For everything you have missed, you have gained something else. " Ralph Waldo Emerson
One day, I think she will be touched by ur sincerity. Having to wait so patiently for her for so many yrs. All the best my friend.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
hanabishi: hey, noe, i'm really sorry.....=( din noe it was a personal experience....made a joke outta it...=( really sorry.....
anyway, to
hanabishi & bear: u guys are really great.....call me suaku, but i dun really know how a guy feels to be unable to c his gf for such a long period of time, and stuff like that.......but anyway, really wanna wish the two of u luck. =) n God Bless.
shi ni de zhong jiu hui shu yu ni de. =)
have faith! me give u moral support! yeah! hee~
ps: i'm really really really sorriiiieee.....*sumimasen*
*begs for Hanabishi's forgiveness*
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fucking stupid topic can get so popular
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Not a problem, humor is one of the more sophisticated coping mechanisms.Originally posted by t|rEd:hanabishi: hey, noe, i'm really sorry.....=( din noe it was a personal experience....made a joke outta it...=( really sorry.....
anyway, to
hanabishi & bear: u guys are really great.....call me suaku, but i dun really know how a guy feels to be unable to c his gf for such a long period of time, and stuff like that.......but anyway, really wanna wish the two of u luck. =) n God Bless.
shi ni de zhong jiu hui shu yu ni de. =)
have faith! me give u moral support! yeah! hee~
ps: i'm really really really sorriiiieee.....*sumimasen*
*begs for Hanabishi's forgiveness*
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hey! u got a problem?Originally posted by CradleOfF:fucking stupid topic can get so popular
*wonders y CradleOfF bothers to post...*
*is he jealous????*
hmmz.....
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Hanabishi: =) hee~ paiseh la....
anywayz, y|ppEEEEEE it's me last day of prelims on thurs!!! yeah!!!! last day!!!!! -
Thanx Tired. though it's hard to maintain, becoz u dun feel sucure all the time.. Think in a relationship, guys, similiar to gers, we go for security too..Originally posted by t|rEd:hanabishi: hey, noe, i'm really sorry.....=( din noe it was a personal experience....made a joke outta it...=( really sorry.....
anyway, to
hanabishi & bear: u guys are really great.....call me suaku, but i dun really know how a guy feels to be unable to c his gf for such a long period of time, and stuff like that.......but anyway, really wanna wish the two of u luck. =) n God Bless.
shi ni de zhong jiu hui shu yu ni de. =)
have faith! me give u moral support! yeah! hee~
ps: i'm really really really sorriiiieee.....*sumimasen*
*begs for Hanabishi's forgiveness*
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And all the best to u too Hanabishi... Finally, I see wat love can do to a person. I really admire u... ur love for ur lady...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
wow! i really din noe guys go for security in relationships tooz. c-rious. i mean, i can tell my gal pal that she needa make her guy feel more secure, esp when she's such a pretty and sweet young lady, but when i'm in a relationship myself, it's totally blind to me lo. can't c it. tt's y i prefer guys who are more expressive. =) but somehow, some guys just can't seem to be as expressive to their gfs, as they are to their friends, be they guy or gal friends. =( haizzz...so difficult to find expressive guys. hate it when i'm the one who has to guess how he feels....=( shudda be the other way around rite? hahaha no la, just joking. shud be a balance, and is everything discuss, and out in the open, and no guessing needed rite? i mean, at least tt's how i view a relationship lo......communication most basic quality.=) comm breakdown, dun bother oredi.Originally posted by Bear:Thanx Tired. though it's hard to maintain, becoz u dun feel sucure all the time.. Think in a relationship, guys, similiar to gers, we go for security too..
And all the best to u too Hanabishi... Finally, I see wat love can do to a person. I really admire u... ur love for ur lady... -
Strange that you should say that. I've always thought my other would be the one person I could communicate openly with, - let down all my defenses.Originally posted by t|rEd:wow! i really din noe guys go for security in relationships tooz. c-rious. i mean, i can tell my gal pal that she needa make her guy feel more secure, esp when she's such a pretty and sweet young lady, but when i'm in a relationship myself, it's totally blind to me lo. can't c it. tt's y i prefer guys who are more expressive. =) but somehow, some guys just can't seem to be as expressive to their gfs, as they are to their friends, be they guy or gal friends. =( haizzz...so difficult to find expressive guys. hate it when i'm the one who has to guess how he feels....=( shudda be the other way around rite? hahaha no la, just joking. shud be a balance, and is everything discuss, and out in the open, and no guessing needed rite? i mean, at least tt's how i view a relationship lo......communication most basic quality.=) comm breakdown, dun bother oredi.
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Actually guys do express themselves to their gfs. But U can it's not so openly like wat u said. Most of the time it's by actions, rather than thru' words. Maybe, he can juz offer u wif some of ur fav snacks. It's also his way of telling u that he loves u. Many will just take it as he gets something for me to eat. But toi him, he knows that it's ur fav food. and thus he gets it for u.Originally posted by t|rEd:wow! i really din noe guys go for security in relationships tooz. c-rious. i mean, i can tell my gal pal that she needa make her guy feel more secure, esp when she's such a pretty and sweet young lady, but when i'm in a relationship myself, it's totally blind to me lo. can't c it. tt's y i prefer guys who are more expressive. =) but somehow, some guys just can't seem to be as expressive to their gfs, as they are to their friends, be they guy or gal friends. =( haizzz...so difficult to find expressive guys. hate it when i'm the one who has to guess how he feels....=( shudda be the other way around rite? hahaha no la, just joking. shud be a balance, and is everything discuss, and out in the open, and no guessing needed rite? i mean, at least tt's how i view a relationship lo......communication most basic quality.=) comm breakdown, dun bother oredi.
Anyway if everything is so straight, then there will be no joy or surprises. Having a little twist, a little hidden meaning, I think will let u haf something to do. But I know it can be pretty tiring and irritating if u not in the mood at that point of time. Of coz I'm also not saying that he let u guess his intemtions all the time lahz.
Actually sometimes u can do the same too.. Think guys wun mind a little fun. But do bear in mind that many guys are less-sensitive than girls. Hence, u might haf to put in a little bit more effort. On the other hand, to a guy I think it's becoz of our less-sensitive nature, we tends to over-emphasize on our actions, and made our gfs suspicious of us... haa haa..
I dun think it's that hard to find guys who are expressive.. Different guys haf different ways of expressing themselves. Just like u, sometimes u feel that this is ur way of showing ur love for him, but he just dun get ur meaning. Communication do play a part here. U just haf to know each other's way of showing love, care, and feelings. Actually, we haf all sorts of guys as well.. There r those who will cry like babies.. and those who just well up quietly in their eyes.. It's not true that guys dun burst out like fountains. It's all just feelings.. think pple who dun cry dun haf feelings.. hee hee..
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
thankz for ur concern hanabishi.. Things are going rather well.. Juz got my first lovegety foto card yesterday, pursuading her for 1 yr already... so happy though... Haf to treasure it, becoz I dunthink I will ever haf a 2nd time.. Even then It will be next yr.. haa haa... 1 yr one time.. haa haa...Originally posted by hanabishi:Strange that you should say that. I've always thought my other would be the one person I could communicate openly with, - let down all my defenses.
Bear : Thanks for the support ! How's it going on for you ?
Is ur lady coming back in Nov/Dec?? I hope so, so that at least u will haf something to look forward to... 8-)
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
somehow, when i say rexpressing themselves, pple take it to be saying "i love u". well, it is one of wat i meant, but also, u noe when talking bout certain things lo. as in take for example: a ger wrote this poem for her ex-bf, telling him that she still loves him, and will continue to love him forever. then, the guy somehow lost the poem, and was just asking the ger if she could give him another copy. the ger just asked y, and the guy shut up..... just like that. the ger asked him y in a teasing way la anyway.......but the guy just kept quiet and moved on to another topic.
cannot ask y issit? i mean, wat's so difficult about saying the reason??? i dun understand lo........haizzz......
actually, this scenario like quite familiar leh. hahaha =) usu guys would ask wat the ger wants and so on so forth, and when the ger dun say , the guy would go ask his freind wat the ger thinking, bla bla bla....haizzzz........
humanz.......they just like to complicate things dun they? sorry for my negative point of view of humans.......just basically sick of life and people.......
or mebbe i'm just into one of my other moods...... -
supposedly lo, but somehow, different people different point of views lo. i mean, mebbe la. some people feel that privacy more important ma.........
some people just feel that somethings cannot tell cannot say one ma....dunno la.....
as guys usu say, gers are so hard to understand, i shall just say, humans are hard to decipher.......=( coz actually, i agree with those guys when they say tt iot's pretty difficult to understand wat a ger's thinking about. coz thou i'm a ger myself, i dun really understand my gender, let alone opp sex lo. =) -
I hope so. But I don't think so. Actually I haven't got a single reply to any of the emails I sent after she left. Oh well, deja vu.Originally posted by Bear:thankz for ur concern hanabishi.. Things are going rather well.. Juz got my first lovegety foto card yesterday, pursuading her for 1 yr already... so happy though... Haf to treasure it, becoz I dunthink I will ever haf a 2nd time.. Even then It will be next yr.. haa haa... 1 yr one time.. haa haa...
Is ur lady coming back in Nov/Dec?? I hope so, so that at least u will haf something to look forward to... 8-)
T|red : I think (in theory, - no practical experience ) this sort of thing has to start somewhere. Someone has to take the first step and "spill the beans". Let it all out and be absolutely candid. In order for someone to prove his/her trustworthiness, you have to first put your trust in him/her.
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Actually I think it's not becoz cannot ask 'y??' It's more becoz the guy is afraid to tell the ger that he has misplaced it, becoz it may mean that he treats the ger and her stuff like dirt.. can be easily thrown away or lost... it shows that the guy will not cherish the ger indirectly.
Well... not all humans are that bad... there r those who really gaf their entirely life to help others. For instance, Late Pricess Diana and Late Mother Theresa. Okie.. maybe not so far away, and day-to-day pple.. Look at the nurses in the hospitals. All the shit (literally) and vomit that they haf to clean from the hospital patients. To deal wif fussy patients, and face dying patients.
There are still pple out there who are nice.... Even urself, who is so much to drop by this forum to help pple out in their time of need.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
humans are hard to understand becoz, all of us are unique.. u cannot haf a duplicate of character even if both of u are siamese twins. If humans are all the same , wun this world be boring?? becoz once u seen one u will haf seen them all. And if all humans are easy to read off their minds, then where can u find little surprises which ur bf or bf-to-be haf install for u???
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
hanabishi: aiya, easier said than done la....u noe, it's very tiring to always be the one to take the initiative and to make the first move one leh.....i mean, a few times, fine with me, but it's very tiring in a sense lo. not totally literally tiring la, but u noe, sometimes, u'll just get so sick and tired of starting a new topic, and to get things going. wat do u think? =) ever feel this way?
bear: .....................speechless.....u noe, u always have this knack of explaining things until i got nothing to say.....=( but any how, i will still crap my way thru' this post as usual. hahaha =)
no fair! me ne'er say all humans are bad!!! =Þ *bleah* hee~ well, i must say that i can't disagree with u that the nurses are so great! =) i once had a dream to become a nurse, but somehow, i didn't think i can be as wei da as them, so i stopped dwelling on that dream. =)
whoa whoa! hey, i merely posted one topic bout u being so n so, and u kept praising me!!! hahaha =) aiya, wat i'm doing oso nothing great la......just making full use of my nature of crapping ma. =) hee~
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ahhhh...true true, bout the humans being individuals. =) yep yep. guess that's what makes them so differently unique. =) totally impossible to really understand each and reveryone of them............but aiyazzz.......understanding just one of each gender hard enuff liaoz la. =) hee~ seem like a person who gives up easily to u? hee~
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Well.. think the reason y I always leave pple speechless is becoz I gif pple a practical reasoning, even though it looks ugly, but it's still the facts that we are facing.. Me very bad horz.. dig the ugly side of pple out..
not that I want to praise u.. but just that the situation arise. It's better to use an example that u are familiar wif, so that u haf a better idea of wat I mean. Since we only know each other in the forum, the best thing to say is abt u lorz.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
u easily gif up?? nahz I dun think so, becoz u r trying to understand one gender by itself mahz.. concentrate and focus fully.. that's goo also mahz.. then u can say that u r master of one.
Me?? both m&f also bao ka liaoz.. cannot specialise. so become like jack of all traits, but master of none... In the end, all back to nothing.. hee hee...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
hmmzzz, actually, sometimes we people do really need the truth in the face. and i guess that's why we come here for advice. really, more often than not, one will find that deep down inside, there is this uncomfortable thing waiting to be brought to light, but one just keeps on pushing and pressing, stuffing it deeper, thinking that it will go away in time. but little does one know, it's the TRUTH that one is suppressing. and when one comes here for people's advice, the truth surfaces. sometimes, it hurts, and is hard to take, but we have to face it. no point running away. =)
and here, we need someone to "throw" the truth in our face, and too bad it's gotta be u. =) actually, u took on the responsibility urself. hahaha =) but c-riously, thou' it's dirty job, but someone's gotta go it! "A man's gotta do wat a man's gotta do!" hahaha
tot ya trying to be "Jack of All Trades"? hahaha =) turn out u become "Bear of Few Trades". hee~ (no offence hor)