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Calm down first. If possible, you may try asking your dad himself if you want to find out the truth. Or perhaps stalking him yourself or hire a investigator.
Originally posted by TTFU:Calm down first. If possible, you may try asking your dad himself if you want to find out the truth. Or perhaps stalking him yourself or hire a investigator. Ask your mum to calm down. Guessing blindly wont help things
You mean your dad has been away for 5 years ?
What is your mom doing not by his side ?
How old are you and your siblings ? If old already why still need mommy to take care of you ?
Look, all was well until that fateful day, when he was in town instead of overseas.
There was trust.
This trust was shattered, on seeing him. And the mind began to churn.
At this stage it is the mind that is sowing discord.
Clarify the matter by speaking to your father. Don't speculate and think up all sorts of scenario.
Be sure, get the facts, and then base your actions on those facts.
Originally posted by swiftydonuts:My dad started his buisness trips 5 years ago. It was all ok until this afternoon, where my mom and I found him within the country where he was suppose to be overseas. He's been borrowing $$ from my mother, grandmother, aunt and myself for his business and never returned a single cent. Sure we've visited his shop before and it seemed ok, but what happened this afternoon was just too much. My mom now suspects him of infidelity coz there's this prc woman who helps him out occasionally. I don't know what to do now coz my mum wants me to give her a solution, yet I do not want to make quick assumptions. Can anyone give some advise? Please do try to understand what I wrote above becoz I'm not typing in the right mind, Thanks.
Question 1: Where does all his $$ goes?
Question 2: Is the shop really his?
Question 3: Who is this woman?
If you can find the answers to this 3 questions ( By hook or by crook ), you will be able to find the answer to your question.
Tell your father straight that his actions are very suspicious...force an answer out of him...btw..how old are you?
Better clarify matters first before jumping to conclusions...
Thanks guys, mom and I forced the answer from dad. It was hard at first but he finally came out with it. He wasn't cheating, just that he happened to be back for his clients goods before he transit to malaysia when we visited him(saw doc prove). The money he borrowed apparently was cheated by his business partner, and he didn't know how to bring it up to us that's y he kept quiet for so long.
Thanks for your help ppl, the air is finally cleared in my family. We are finally able to talk to each other naturally again.
Glad that it is over =) communication is important in a family.
... and the prc?
Originally posted by caleb_chiang:... and the prc?
That prc was just a 'slave' belonging to the next door in the past. She helped him because my dad helped her son before. Now that he's moved to his new place for some years and from what he declared, we don't see there's any reason for there to be a scandal. There was truth in his eyes, we choose to believe it.
Sounds complicated. But as long as your family is living in peace, thats good ba.
People lie. There are countless simple lies told every day.
Why are you late? Traffic jam. When actually you overslept.
Liars like these are harmless people.