Should I stay or should I go???
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I am not sure what to do anymore. The woman I love so much is currently with someone else but she told me she still have very deep feelings for me and that she cares a lot for me and wants me to wait for her??? We are living together and the pain just gets worst everytime I see her and her Lover comes home together and sleep over...Arugh what should I do??? I thought I could handle it but now I am not so sure anymore the pain is killing me
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wow, she very smart leh, use u as a spare tyre....if she doesn't works well with that guy, she can always come back to u...
hey don't be so stupid lah, can't u see she's using u and trying to put herself in a better position at the expense of u!!!!
give her up and look for a better gal or u better fight back to win her... -
If it was that easy, I have been with her for almost 5 years now we went through thick and thin together, I use to think that as long as at the end of the day I am the one she love that will be ok, but now its very painful...
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so what u intend to do then????
if u don't change the situation, the pain will always be there...u are like doing nothing and hope things turn out ur favour!!!
how can u tolerate her bringing that guy home in front of u, are u still a guy!!!! if the house belong to u, ask her to leave, or u leave...
tell u, u just got to do something, either u fight back or let go of her....5yrs is not short, but sometime u just got to face up the reality...
anyway, its all up to u, only u urself can only solve the pain in ur heart... -
ok Darren, this may sound a little harsh, but u noe wat i think? i think, u wanna stay on, under the same roof with her, and u just needed someone to encourage u to stay on.
maybe u expected this coming, as in expected people to ask u to leave her (if not, y did u ask this question in the first place??), but u were just hoping, hoping that someone, some where out there would say to u, "eh man, muster ur courage, fight on. fight for her love. as long as she's not married, u still stand a chance."
sorry for being that harsh, but that comment won't come from me...i think u shud make up ur own mind. it's UR OWN future we are talking about here.....just that i think people around u shouldn't be much of a deciding factor for u.....
sorry once again.....
wish u luck, and God Bless. -
ask her who she wans to be wif...though itz a painful decision for her to make...but at least you will noe the answer...the sooner it is...the less ppl hurt...
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Get Stuck or move on ...
A sad thing about life is when you meet someone that means a lot to you, only to find out in the end, that it was never bound to be and you just have to let go.
There are things you love to hear but you would never hear it from the person from whom
you would like to hear it, but don't be deaf to hear it from the person who says it with his heart. -
A strange analogy popped into my head as I read how she treats you:
Would you wait for an occupied taxi that has to go from Tampines to Jurong, and says that it'll come back to pick u?
Ok, it's strange, and I know we're dealing with more important issues here... but the thing is: she's occupied.
Expanding things abit, she already isn't faithful to her beau - becoz she has offered herself to resume ur relationship with you in the future.
She's risky ground. Better take an unoccupied cab - free to go wherever you want to go.
Respect yourself, and you'll gain her respect for you...
She is not true to herself, disrespects herself and you (with the in's and out's of her bf) and is playing the fool with her boyfriend by showing interest in you. If she truly loves u, I doubt she'd want to do anything at all to hurt you. Would you do anything to hurt her?
Question now: Will u be able to tolerate this type of behaviour if she becomes your girl (again) in the future? (Kindly note that all claims of different character in subsequent future relationship will only be validated upon the crystallization of that character... in other words, only when she practises what she preach, or preach what she practises, then believe her).
Go, go, go... move out,.... get out of the estate, blah blah blah. Hey,... go easy on yourself yah?
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Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. -- A. Bierce
[This message has been edited by Ixion (edited 15 May 2000).] -
Well to tell you the truth I will NOT allow her to do that to me should we be together together again... What I promised her last time I will keep to my words. I am not trying to have a great love story but the truth is I love her too much to let her go, I am not actually asking for people to tell me to stay or to go, I guess I just want to have some company when I'm alone and that I know that there are people out there who know my problem and is willing to share it with me.
What I am trying to say is to all of you I'm but a fool who is willing to give it all and not expecting anything in return and when in pain just take it as it comes...if thats what you all think then yes I am that fool.
I am have fallen too deep to let it go.
Tell me have you ever fell in LOVE before, have you truely love a person with all your heart and that with her nothing else matter?
This is my defination of a PERFECT WOMAN:
She have a light in her eyes, an infatuatious smile, talking to her you found you told her things you never told anyone before, you begin to see things you never see them before, and deep in you you knew somehow things are irreversibly changed... and it would never be the same again... and that woman is her. -
You all must be wondering what do I see in her and why do I love her so much, the reason is very simple and here it is this is taken from one of the love note I wrote to her yesterday.)
I might be the only person in this face of the earth to think that you are the greatest woman in the world, I maybe the only person that appreciate every single thing that you do and how how you are with (name of her new BF), and with every single thought that you have and how you say what you mean and how you always almost means something thats all about being straight and good, I think most people miss that about you, and I watched them wondering how they could watched you care for them and love them and yet they just throw it all away and never get it, that they just let the greatest woman alive go. And the fact that I got it makes me feel good... about me.
That's all I have to say about her. -
She must be a real lucky girl, but too bad she doesn't realise it...
However, I really feel you should let her go.
"If you love someone. let her go.
If she returns, she's yours.
If not, she is never meant to be..."
Maybe after you leave her then she will realise your importance and how much you mean to her.
I guess she has been taking advantage of your love for her, that's why she has the thinking that you will always be there no matter what she does.
But think of this, if you love someone, what matters is they are happy right? It doesn't really matters whether you are with her or not, although you really wish you are.
Leaving her might cause your relationship to come to an end, but it will also cause the truth that is hidden to surface =) -
This Song (Heaven Knows by Rick Price) and quote comes to mind...
"love is painful
that is true
not to love is painful too;
but there is a greater pain:
to love and not be loved again."
My friend in sorrow,... I know how you feel. Maybe, i have experienced it before...? but with someone else. Anyway,... that is not why we are here; to talk about me, but rather about u. Anyway... All i can say,is that... at the end of the day, it will come down to you to act. Tell her that you love/like her alot and that she will have to choose either one of you... and cannot have both... Tell her also, that her actions are hurting you alot and that you cannot take it anymore... that your eyes have no more tears to cry and that your heart has no more blood to bleed for her.
Her answer... might not be the one you want.. but do not despair... at least you know the truth... At least you tried your best...
Let Fate Decide...and wish you the best of Luck... May GOD BLESS U!!!!
(P.s I am sorry that my words are short and that they are probably meaningless...)
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Let no one who loves be unhappy.
Even love unreturned has its rainbow.
In your service,
Dragonlance
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hmm.....if he really did wat u said, and asked her to choose between the two of them, what if she breaks down? she starts crying, adn asks him to stop forcing her? that she is hurting as much as he is? that she can't exactly make up her mind? i mean, in this way, ain't he hurting her? can he bear to hurt her in this way?Originally posted by Dragonlance:Tell her that you love/like her alot and that she will have to choose either one of you... and cannot have both... Tell her also, that her actions are hurting you alot and that you cannot take it anymore... that your eyes have no more tears to cry and that your heart has no more blood to bleed for her.
i believe, if he loves her, like u said, he wouldn't want to hurt her right? won't u rather be the one hurting, than ur loved one??? -
I understand Tired, ... but Darren is already hurting or should i say... has been hurting for a long time already. I fear, that either sooner or later... if he cannot release his pain/burden, the consequences might be...(Dun want to say)
After all, he needs an answer... a definite answer with no time period at the end of her telling him to wait for her...
I say... he should No 1 Ask her where he really stands and No 2 Fight for her since he loves her so much and may the best man win.
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"Love?" As I know, starts with a smile... develops into a kiss and ends with a tear...
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In your service,
Dragonlance -
All of you are right, there isn't anything wrong about what you all just said, As much as I want her to choose between the both of us I couldn't bear to do it b'cos I know for a fact that she will break down and she will cry. Knowing that would happen I would rather the one who is hurt be me. I love her too much. I know this a corn ball thing but what can you do.
"...to live a life and not fall deeply in love, then you haven't live a life at all..." -
THERE IS ONLY ONE STORY
There is only one story:
he loved her
then stopped loving her,
while she did not
stop loving him.
There is only one story:
she loved him
then stopped loving him,
while he did not
stop loving her.
The truth is simple:
you do not die
from love
You only wish
you did.
-My sorrows, to much to bear...My eyes, no more tears to cry...My heart, broken -
Signed,
Dragonlance -
THERE IS ONLY ONE STORY
There is only one story:
he loved her
then stopped loving her,
while she did not
stop loving him.
There is only one story:
she loved him
then stopped loving him,
while he did not
stop loving her.
The truth is simple:
you do not die
from love
You only wish
you did.
-My sorrows, to much to bear...My eyes, no more tears to cry...My heart, broken -
Signed,
Dragonlance -
Great. She loves you so much and she's with someone else. How naive can one get?
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Hey Dude..
Move on.... a gal who treats you like a spare tyre should be dump faster than Superman can leap a tall building.... hey if u are afraid that there's no other gals left for u... always remember that for every guy.. there are 2.5 gals waiting for him...cheers! -
You see everyone gets bored of someone at a certain point of time and you tend to drift further apart for awhile and meet new people.Those who come back to you at the end of the day is call true love. I feel that sometimes you just have to hang in there. And I guess thats what I am doing, believing in something and hoping for the best.
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leave her man!!!! its so obvious she is dopping u... tell her straight in her face that if she truely loves u.. break up with the gal.... or if not then bye bye .....
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i am a hardcore Metallic! No pain no Glory!!!!! -
... n i tot i was down...
think males should haf dat little bit of nan2 ren2 qi4 gai4.
dun get taken for a spare or do nothing n all n like, wait until the whole world crashes infront of u....
do something !!!! but meanwhile cheerrrr up =)
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Never ask for what you cannot handle,
don't ask for love you cannot hold. -
Wah lau eh,you being used as a spare tyre huh?Just pack up your bags and leave as it is obvious that the girl has no considerations for your feelings and wishes to have the best of both worlds if that's possible))
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Go for a better girl lah... this one is no good for you...
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I am surprised that there is such devoted man like you in this world. I wouldn't comment on what kind of women she is as i don't know her, but pls spare a thought for yourself.I can see that you are hopelessly devoted to her,and i know that no matter what we say wouldn't change your feelings for her,thus i just want to pray for you. I wish that she will realise how fortunate she is and comes back to you soon =)