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hmmzzzzzz.. What can i say ? IF you want to wait for him ... then go ahead ... though i feel that ... that would be most naive of you. Why wait for someone who's going to jail ? As they say ... Why give up a whole forest for a currently wilting tree ? UNLESS of course... you feel that the person likes you alot to the extent where he would do anything for you, Or Vice Versa. Then it would be considerable to wait ... do try and see a trained counciliar ... we're just normal humans with some views after all. Not all our advice is feasible. Take Care!
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Originally posted by aaron84z:
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So you're taking everything step by step ? or rather ... one step at a time ? That's like living without an aim ... which isn't good .... go do something meaningful ... or study ..~
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well, guess i'm left with not many choices...do i? ya...it's true that i'm living a life without an aim now...in fact, i'm in my last year of my degree course...i think that is something meaningful...but, again, what can i do? too many things just happened on me always in one shot...now, i just hope he won't be sentenced for too long and also i can really let go of my first guy, by forever not contacting him.Originally posted by aaron84z:So you're taking everything step by step ? or rather ... one step at a time ? That's like living without an aim ... which isn't good .... go do something meaningful ... or study ..~ -
Listen 2 wat ur heart tells u... If u really wish 2 wait 4 the guy, go ahead. Remember this though time is not ur adv here. Time changes everything... ur thoughts, ur feelings. u never noe wat will happen in a few mths' time.Originally posted by joyce59:well, guess i'm left with not many choices...do i? ya...it's true that i'm living a life without an aim now...in fact, i'm in my last year of my degree course...i think that is something meaningful...but, again, what can i do? too many things just happened on me always in one shot...now, i just hope he won't be sentenced for too long and also i can really let go of my first guy, by forever not contacting him.
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Thanks for your mail and advice. i must agreed to your saying...Time changes everything, it's true, if this matter had not happened, i guessed there are still a lot of things i won't get to know from him...it was thru his mum who didn't know that i don't know certain things, said out...it's true that i was heart-broken and sad, i was cheated on by another guy whom i care of once more. he might had his reasons for doing so, and i clearly know that he's selfish, but, i think i'll just take it, cos no matter what...i hurt him even more in the past...sometimes when i think of what actually lies ahead in my life, i will shiver and got scare...i don't know how many more "surprises" i'll get...life sucks and money sucks even more BUT we just can't live without any!Originally posted by FallenSeraph:Listen 2 wat ur heart tells u... If u really wish 2 wait 4 the guy, go ahead. Remember this though time is not ur adv here. Time changes everything... ur thoughts, ur feelings. u never noe wat will happen in a few mths' time. -
Life is like climbing a mountain. It has its ups and downs. When the going gets tough, one would normally backtrack n find another easier way. But then, one has 2 learn 2 conquer all the obstacles b4 finding true happiness, in ur self, in ur life
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Oh ya, joyce. Y dun u make use of this time 2 actually plan ur future? It's better than 2 wait 4 him. Once u have a goal in life, u won't worry or think so much
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Well.. well.. well....
I don't think you have a stable emotions... By the way... how old are you?? I guess that you are still young... under 20 maybe?? If I am right, I think you have to REconsider your waiting for your guy to finish his jail sentence.... You are still young... the world will be open wide for your future... I am sure you can find a better guy someday in the future... Can you guarantee that after finishing his jail term he will not commit other "crime", that he will never go to jail again?? I am sure you don't want to have a boyfriend who visits jails often, do you?? How about the 2nd guy... is he really a good boy?? A Responsible one?? I think it's better if you go along your way with this guy... but the choices are yours and yours completely.. -
once again, i thanked all those who gave me their precious advices. well, i'm not under 20...i'm 24 in fact. and the guy who is facing the jail sentence is my 2nd boyfriend. the 1st guy, is someone whom i love for 9 years till now, just that, we can no longer be together because he can never realized whether he loves me or not. btw, who do you guys think when a guy can actually because of the hurt he brought to a guy and feel very bastard of himself till he'll committed sucide? well, my 1st guy did that recently...i don't knw if i'm the one he really loved cos he's earning 4-5k per mth, got a flat, car, company, career and good looking with many girls around him...yet, he confessed to me why he resorted that cos he can feel my pain and yet he can't stop hurting me one and times again...maybe he dont love me, isn't it? i don't know...but after struggling for 9 years, this time round, i really want to sever all ties with him...he's 26 and we actually been together for 5 1/2 yrs before...as for the 2nd guy who's facing the sentence, he's 24, same age as me...and please don't think he's a incorrigible guy...not because he's someone i'd been with for 1 1/2 before, it's true he used to mix around with bad company before, but that was when he was younger...who had never done wrong before, and the first time, he was being framed up by others...and this time round...he had to work 2 jobs everyday, morning till wee hours in the night, because he got to support a family of 5...i know this is not a good reason for him to sell pirated cds...but, what can he do to earn at least 3k per month to support them...i can't and i will not convince you guys to spare a thought for him, but i hope you don't treat this matter as he's a bad person and "can't be saved" anymore...who in this world would want to do something against their will if not being left with no choice...you can't expect him to leave his family alone...isn't it???Originally posted by Charlie Brown:Well.. well.. well....
I don't think you have a stable emotions... By the way... how old are you?? I guess that you are still young... under 20 maybe?? If I am right, I think you have to REconsider your waiting for your guy to finish his jail sentence.... You are still young... the world will be open wide for your future... I am sure you can find a better guy someday in the future... Can you guarantee that after finishing his jail term he will not commit other "crime", that he will never go to jail again?? I am sure you don't want to have a boyfriend who visits jails often, do you?? How about the 2nd guy... is he really a good boy?? A Responsible one?? I think it's better if you go along your way with this guy... but the choices are yours and yours completely..
i don't know if i'll wait for him or not...cos, judging from his status with the girl he claimed he had broke up with almost 2 months ago, what i got to know from his mum...they were togther all along...yes, he may lied to me, maybe because he hope we can still work things out...you can say he's selfish...but if you were to be in his position...what will you do? i don't want to confirm did he lie to me or not cos we can't discuss about all these at all...
if only i did not leave him for the 1st guy in the first place, maybe all these things won't happened at all...i'd always wish to have a simple life with a loving boyfriend...till i know my 2nd guy is not around with me now...then i know he's someone who can give me all that...life is so weird...what i can say now is...he's really a good person but faced with a "no choice" life... -
Joyce, it's true that there a little line between gd n bad. People are forced by circumstances 2 do things 1 can never imagine, as in the case of ur bf. But u r still young, u still have a bright future ahead of u. Juz let him go for a while, straighten ur thoughts, finish ur degree. It's always like tat, mind clouded by overwhelming emotions. maybe u should tok 2 ur best fren. it's gd 2 have someone 2 lean on at times like this...
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Fate does play a part in ur life but dun let it hinders ur life... I dun believe fate can control ur life. Even if it's against u, u have 2 overcome it. It's part n parcel of life. Oni then will u learn from the experience. Life is short, juz do watever u want.Originally posted by joyce59:FS, i totally understand what you are saying and will try to do what you advised. What you said was true. i will concentrate on my degree and just let fate do whatever it wants to do, you can say one can always fight against fate/destiny but i guess, i'm just too tire, have been fighting for 9 years but still being defeated by it. in fact, i longed to be in love again, but just can't get it. sometimes would really hope there will be someone there to take care of me and let him think for me and to protect me...but...just so difficult...
U have my warmest wish n support.
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Well....joyce...u can find confide in me anytime....i m willing to lend a listening ear...hehe contact me...
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Joyce, u r veri welcome. If u need a listening ear, u can always mail me... I will try my best 2 get back 2 u...Originally posted by joyce59:FS...just want to let you know my deepest thanks and i really appreciate your support and all the messages you'd sent. Thank you.
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what i can say is just follow yr heart. do what u think is rite lor, if u want to wait, go ahead and do it. the choice is up to you totally. we can only provide advise...
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Thanks Victor & FS. Can i check with you guys, as i'm a newcomer here, what does it means when the folder is on fire???
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Thanks Babyandao, sorry to have overlooked your message and didn't reply till now. Thanks anyway.Originally posted by babyandao:Well....joyce...u can find confide in me anytime....i m willing to lend a listening ear...hehe contact me... -
hey joyce59, you are most welcome. take care of yrself... i quite new here too, but i guess that when a folder is on fire, it means that this thread has reach a certain number of messages..Originally posted by joyce59:Thanks Victor & FS. Can i check with you guys, as i'm a newcomer here, what does it means when the folder is on fire??? -
I say it b4, now I say again... U r WELCOME!!!
Anyway regarding ur qn, this means the topic, like wat Victor said, is hot, veri HOT! Juz be careful dun burn urself...
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well well well...my topic is hot huh! Guess that's because it seldom happened to most people...anyway, are you both, FS & Victor from singapore? ok, i won't say anymore thank you, but really nice to know you both!) hey, wanna intro yourselves a little?
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Me definitely from sg... 23 this yr.Originally posted by joyce59:well well well...my topic is hot huh! Guess that's because it seldom happened to most people...anyway, are you both, FS & Victor from singapore? ok, i won't say anymore thank you, but really nice to know you both!) hey, wanna intro yourselves a little?
take care ya!
Oh if u really wanna thank me, buy me lunch lor. Veri broke lately... :þ
PS email me n I will tell u more...
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Hold fast to dreams,
For if dreams die,
Life is a broken-winged bird
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[This message has been edited by FallenSeraph (edited 17 August 2000).]