what is the matter with me ?
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so wat were the words u have been uttering..
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go see a psychiatrist.
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U need professional help....
By the way....I don't think you sound crazy...
Maybe people shun you because of your behavior and anti-social body language.
And from your post....I think you're suffering from mild depression.
Try not to let life get you down....try and try...after all...when you feel like your at the lowest point of your life....the only way to go is up.
Good luck, I hope everything goes well for you.
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Originally posted by QX179R:
so wat were the words u have been uttering..
i crack jokes which i thought are ok and 'hip' but no one else seem to think so. i also care a lot whether people accept me or not, very sensitive to people's reception of me. if they don't respond to me, i feel rejected. maybe its bcos of the many rejections i face at applying job. that's why when i face "no response" from people in non-job related occasions, i immediately classify it as rejection and take it as "another blow". or maybe people do reject me...when i engage in work which is very different from those i used to do, i have to "act it out" because the job doesn't fit me as a person. but i have to do the job for the money. the acting makes me lose myself. to cushion my feelings of emptiness and sadness in taking such job, i purposely force myself to be happy, as if giving myself a shot of endorphine. hence i become "high" and so utter the words and behave fearless.
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go ask misslittlebonkers for help. she studied psychology
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Originally posted by ahtiong:
i crack jokes which i thought are ok and 'hip' but no one else seem to think so. i also care a lot whether people accept me or not, people's reception to me. if they don't respond to me, i feel rejectedsometimes when u crack jokes you must take extra precautions as what might seem to be a joke to you but not to others..
a real friend is one who accepts you no matter what you are (ugly for example)..
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TS you is guy or girl?
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Originally posted by QX179R:
sometimes when u crack jokes you must take extra precautions as what might seem to be a joke to you but not to others..
a real friend is one who accepts you no matter what you are (ugly for example)..
true. but there are not a lot of friend like this. very rare to find a good friend these days.
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Originally posted by Chester_Lim:
TS you is guy or girl?
if gal, u wanna tackle izzit..
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all your problems are the male-biased policies induced. u r living in a pro-feminist system....butterfly effects taken place...
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"i become "fearless" because my heart is now dead. hence i utter words and behave in such a way which in normal circumstances i wld think twice in saying or doing. i tell myself my life is going to end soon anyway because that's what i hope for. i can't find meaning to go on living."
You are going crazy, and you know it.
This is good, because you recognise the symptoms.
Now do something about it.
The best thing is to do you job well. What ever your job, do it well. Why?
Look around you, the happy worker is always the ones that do a good job. The slaker is always the discontented one.
Everyday go home, with the feeling of a job well done.
Your parents will always say something, if not this, it will be that. Why not married, why no grandchildren, why no car. Just let them.
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Originally posted by ahtiong:
i crack jokes which i thought are ok and 'hip' but no one else seem to think so. i also care a lot whether people accept me or not, very sensitive to people's reception of me. if they don't respond to me, i feel rejected. maybe its bcos of the many rejections i face at applying job. that's why when i face "no response" from people in non-job related occasions, i immediately classify it as rejection and take it as "another blow". or maybe people do reject me...when i engage in work which is very different from those i used to do, i have to "act it out" because the job doesn't fit me as a person. but i have to do the job for the money. the acting makes me lose myself. to cushion my feelings of emptiness and sadness in taking such job, i purposely force myself to be happy, as if giving myself a shot of endorphine. hence i become "high" and so utter the words and behave fearless.
People don't respond to your ramblings because they cannot relate to your jokes and comments.
What is wrong with starting out your career at the bottom and working your way up ?
Do you feel that you are entitled to certain "status" before you even prove yourself ?
Your parents are "whipping" you, they are not encouraging you. That's the typical old school method of "motivating" children.Their methods are out-dated and do more damage than good. Don't let them get under your skin, you know what you are capable of, so just do what you can.
As long as you can answer to yourself and your maker..that you are doing your best.. wats there to feel rejected about ?
Curb your anti-social behavior, else it will only lead to a downward spiral. I'm sure that's really not wat you want in life.
When you've hit rock bottom. the only way is up.
Be strong.
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My son, as long as you are not on interpol's wanted list things will work itself out
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Take the advice of a medical student and go seek some help from a psychiatrist. If you feel you don't need professional help, at the very least spend one day a week going out with a friend, so you can share your problems with him/her.
Regarding your use of language, its pretty much a form of escapism. In other words, you avoid saying what you really want to say by saying something shocking, or crack jokes. Hang around people you can trust and who will spend time listening to you. That way you dont have to keep pretending or avoiding the issues that you need to talk about.
As far as I know. Its currently an employee's market out there. The economy is slowly recovering and companies are trying to rehire staff to make up for all the belt tightening measures they implemented in the last 2 years. Go find some headhunters and let them do the work of hooking you up with a job.
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kindly see a shrink...
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. Lame chop?
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Get help my friend.
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How old are you ahtiong can I ask?? and who are you people who bo-chap you? Are they your colleagues specifically or in general?
I'm jobless for many months too, and still jobless now. But I treat it as a welcoming break. New environment is always uncomfortable, but don't be too nervous in handling these tricky situation, take things in your stride.
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Seek professional help thanks, call their hotline and explain your problems to the counsellors there.
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erm.. i guess u r too concerned abt how others look at u, the more u try to impress others, u will be seen to be "trying too much to impress" just let nature have it course ba.. just ignore n do wat u like, play games study n wateva lo.. slowly observe n slowly change.. when u change to a certain extent n u go to new environment, n ur new, ppl will start accepting u.. pls do not try too hard to impress.. its a vicious cycle.. unless ur good.
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anw if u really need a fren find us =D we will be willing lols.. cheers
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Originally posted by ahtiong:
how do you know if you are crazy ?
recently i have been uttering words which i thought are ok, but i find people siam or bo-chap me after hearing them. when i was saying those words, i thought it was "hip" or nothing wrong. but i don't get response from people.
i am having stress for a while now. suffered a loss recently. then because of the economic crisis, i have to work at jobs which are either lower-level or very different from what i used to do. i find that i have lost myself. i don't know who i am anymore.
even though i laugh and appear ok, actually i feel very depressed and lonely inside. faced repeated rejections (jobs). my parents scold me stupid why till now i still can't get a proper job which is of my level. i feel guilty when i see them getting old by the day, and i can't help them retire well by providing for them financially. i become "fearless" because my heart is now dead. hence i utter words and behave in such a way which in normal circumstances i wld think twice in saying or doing. i tell myself my life is going to end soon anyway because that's what i hope for. i can't find meaning to go on living.
how do i go on from here ?
I survived two global recessions.
First was 1986 when my parents lost their jobs and I had to go do illegal part time club as a child waiter.
Another was 1998 when I had to take up downgraded jobs.
You'll live. As long as you are not handicap and you have two hands and legs and a brain you can survive.
Your Life Got No Meaning? Hah, I went thru a tumultous divorce. I was married for only mere 2.5 years when my wife left me for another idiot guy overseas.
Grow up.
Don't be a sissy. You're too man for that.
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Originally posted by ahtiong:
how do you know if you are crazy ?
recently i have been uttering words which i thought are ok, but i find people siam or bo-chap me after hearing them. when i was saying those words, i thought it was "hip" or nothing wrong. but i don't get response from people.
i am having stress for a while now. suffered a loss recently. then because of the economic crisis, i have to work at jobs which are either lower-level or very different from what i used to do. i find that i have lost myself. i don't know who i am anymore.
even though i laugh and appear ok, actually i feel very depressed and lonely inside. faced repeated rejections (jobs). my parents scold me stupid why till now i still can't get a proper job which is of my level. i feel guilty when i see them getting old by the day, and i can't help them retire well by providing for them financially. i become "fearless" because my heart is now dead. hence i utter words and behave in such a way which in normal circumstances i wld think twice in saying or doing. i tell myself my life is going to end soon anyway because that's what i hope for. i can't find meaning to go on living.
how do i go on from here ?
u are not crazy... u just need help now. try to talk to ur frens or even better, family. if not go see phychiatrist. =)
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do u have a gf or wife to encourage u in times of dejection?