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Go for counseling please
And what makes you think that other people have it better?They're just better at keeping their problems to themselves! Either that, or they're so busy solving their problems that they have no time to whine and complain about it.
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If you think you're lagging behind then do something about it. No one is gonna spoonfeed you.
So whats the one thing that happened in skl ? Fang bian to say ?
Did you get a knock in the head?
Suffered a very high fever?
Took drugs?
Or your school sweet heart dumped you?
The first three could damage your brain.
The last, alter your mind.
Mind and brain are different things.
study very hard towards PhD...sure to get Permanent Head Damage...
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:Go for counseling please
And what makes you think that other people have it better?They're just better at keeping their problems to themselves! Either that, or they're so busy solving their problems that they have no time to whine and complain about it.
If you think you're lagging behind then do something about it. No one is gonna spoonfeed you.
thanks.. any recommendation where to seek counselling ?
i hv taken down some helplines numbers off the website. i haven't been feeling well lately. going through highs and lows. some days i feel ok, other days i feel like crap. life is meaningless and i can't see my future.
i just hit someone today. blew up in class after being provoked by an irritable woman.
i used to dismiss counselling as a source of help, but i think i may have to try and talk to someone.
Originally posted by ahtiong:thanks.. any recommendation where to seek counselling ?
i hv taken down some helplines numbers off the website. i haven't been feeling well lately. going through highs and lows. some days i feel ok, other days i feel like crap. life is meaningless and i can't see my future.
i just hit someone today. blew up in class after being provoked by an irritable woman.
i used to dismiss counselling as a source of help, but i think i may have to try and talk to someone.
Seeking help will be the right choice. Actually pouring out your problems to a counsellor will be good for you, try to understand there are people there to help you and not harm you or make you feel shameful. It is the brave ones that stand out and face the problem.
You can try hospitals.
http://www.imh.com.sg/patients_visitors/counselling_and_therapy_services_child.html
Originally posted by ahtiong:thanks.. any recommendation where to seek counselling ?
i hv taken down some helplines numbers off the website. i haven't been feeling well lately. going through highs and lows. some days i feel ok, other days i feel like crap. life is meaningless and i can't see my future.
i just hit someone today. blew up in class after being provoked by an irritable woman.
i used to dismiss counselling as a source of help, but i think i may have to try and talk to someone.
From your reply...you seem to be still schooling.
If you don't have cash to burn, then I would recommend that you see your school's counsellor. But if you prefer to see more professional ones, then just do a simple search on google for psychologists in private or government sectors.
I seem to recall that there is one in Orchard Road.
Good luck and I hope your life takes a turn for the better.
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Originally posted by ahtiong:thanks.. any recommendation where to seek counselling ?
i hv taken down some helplines numbers off the website. i haven't been feeling well lately. going through highs and lows. some days i feel ok, other days i feel like crap. life is meaningless and i can't see my future.
i just hit someone today. blew up in class after being provoked by an irritable woman.
i used to dismiss counselling as a source of help, but i think i may have to try and talk to someone.
call 999
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Looks like your not a student (I read ur previous posts)
Hmmm I can't really make any recommendations for good counsellors because I don't know any. =X
But I found this http://www.counsel.org.sg/index.cfm?GPID=9
And it seems to be subsidized by the Community Chest of Singapore, so no harm giving it a try. Please remember to ask for a price quotation first before you decide to confirm an appointment (Coz I'm not sure of the prices).
Good Luck!
thanks.
will going to IMH create a "mental illness" record for me ? next time i apply job, will i hv to declare ? can govt or companies trace this ?
actually i feel uncomfortable opening up to people, especially my innermost thoughts. will my privacy really be kept strictly confidential ?
i feel stuck, like trapped in a room with walls all around. and i keep hitting walls no matter how hard i try. i just hope to walk out of this soon.
Originally posted by ahtiong:thanks.
will going to IMH create a "mental illness" record for me ? next time i apply job, will i hv to declare ? can govt or companies trace this ?
actually i feel uncomfortable opening up to people, especially my innermost thoughts. will my privacy really be kept strictly confidential ?
i feel stuck, like trapped in a room with walls all around. and i keep hitting walls no matter how hard i try. i just hope to walk out of this soon.
Hmmm
I think it depends on how serious your disorder is...To me I think you're suffering from mild depression and have some anger management issues.
And yes, you'll have to declare in future, if you are dignosed with a mental illness. But please don't put off seeking help because of this. If your disorder is not treated, it may become worse and your problems will mulitply.
And yes, any information you disclose will be kept strictly confidential, but of course the counsellor will have to keep a record for future references.
From what I see, IMH has quite reasonable prices for counsultation. I think it's $22 for subsidized patients. So I don't think it'll be a strain on your resources.
I tink there is a department in IMH specialised in brains illness (like depression).... As long as you aren't warded into IMH, guessed there is no records...
are you ahtiong boy or ahtiong ger?
You can try for other hospitals if you dont want Imh. I said hospitals because they are professional and they can provide medical help too (drugs) if they find your case on the serious side.
Anyway just go for help, dont be afraid. Fall down liao must climb up.
There are always ups and downs in life and most of the time they are manageable. From your post, it seems that you're struggling. I'd advise you to seek professional help eg. shrink, counsellor. No 1 is born equal.
Be strong.
Originally posted by ahtiong:is it possible that i have brain damage ? i don't seem to think "normally" like most people (peers) or desire the things that other people care about.
most of my peers care about career progression, getting married and having a family, building security for retirement, etc.. the usual 5 Cs. i seem to lag behind in terms of the 5Cs (the tangible possessions). it's not that i don't desire them, or i'm stupid or lazy. i remember i was a very "on" person who chiong all the way in terms of school results and job.
however one incident in school turned my life 180 deg. i was never the same thereafter, emotionally and psychologically. that incident made me lose my life direction and my life was thrown into chaos. physically i was normal, intellectually i'm good, but emotionally i was a wreck. so i began to seek the more spiritual stuff in a bid to find meaning in life.
since then, i got out of the valley and plunged into it, got out of it and plunged into it again. just when i thought i had clarity, something would happen to thrown me off board again. thus here i am today.
when i look back at this journey, i don't know if i should cry or laugh. it's a journey, my journey. i wish that damn incident never happened. i wish many things had happened differently. but what has happened happened. when i look around and see how seemingly lagging behind i am from my peers and the "normal" things that are missing in my life, i feel sad. most people seem to have it so easily, why is it so difficult for me ?
It must be tough for you to carry on with your life after you were repeatedly raped by your best friends in the male toilet at school.
I believe you have brain damage if you tell me you have forgotten to share with us what exactly happened in your school which have caused you to change your behaviour.
Don't compare yourself with others.They are more damaged than you think!
See a counsuellor.
Originally posted by ahtiong:is it possible that i have brain damage ? i don't seem to think "normally" like most people (peers) or desire the things that other people care about.
most of my peers care about career progression, getting married and having a family, building security for retirement, etc.. the usual 5 Cs. i seem to lag behind in terms of the 5Cs (the tangible possessions). it's not that i don't desire them, or i'm stupid or lazy. i remember i was a very "on" person who chiong all the way in terms of school results and job.
however one incident in school turned my life 180 deg. i was never the same thereafter, emotionally and psychologically. that incident made me lose my life direction and my life was thrown into chaos. physically i was normal, intellectually i'm good, but emotionally i was a wreck. so i began to seek the more spiritual stuff in a bid to find meaning in life.
since then, i got out of the valley and plunged into it, got out of it and plunged into it again. just when i thought i had clarity, something would happen to thrown me off board again. thus here i am today.
when i look back at this journey, i don't know if i should cry or laugh. it's a journey, my journey. i wish that damn incident never happened. i wish many things had happened differently. but what has happened happened. when i look around and see how seemingly lagging behind i am from my peers and the "normal" things that are missing in my life, i feel sad. most people seem to have it so easily, why is it so difficult for me ?
Take Cocaine and get high. Journey into dreams. Then get permanent head damage.
paging for brainy ~