it's about my friend and i again!
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Hi peeps! =D
Remember in the previous posting i talk about my friend not picking up my call?well..today we happen to see each other due to some extreme situation and we manage to caught up with each other, and to recap, she is the one who reject my call, saying it's impossible for us to meet and saying there is a gap between us. But just now..everything seems really fine. at first was kinda awkward..but after that we were already like teasing and crapping here and there, on the way back it seems like (my instinct) she is not willing to leave me alone waiting for bus cause i need to do another transfer..so....what's the problem with her?i feel that i do not know her, no doubt i am delighted that things doesn't seems to have change but i am wondering if she is just being polite?but if that's the case, maintaining a decent distance and action(s) is enough huh?
erm...anyone phycistrics care to do some analysis for me?cause i am confused...yet again..serious advice..cause i do hope this is a good start to regain the "lost friendship"
we are both female~for your info
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Seems like a common prob between females... i got situations like this also!!!! whats wrong with ppl nowadays huh? jialat..... very stress to have friendship like that.... "have" the friendship also sian... "lost" the friendship also sian.... =.=
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Hmm...I think you should have asked her about it between the giggles and laughs when you were hanging out with her. She could be going through something really bad on that day when she rejected your call (I didn't read the previous thread, or at least I don't remember doing so). She's probably as elated as you to be able to regain this friendship despite a misunderstanding, so don't worry too much about it, yea? Ask her out for a quick lunch after a week from now - if she accepts your invitation, you'll know everything is ok.
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Originally posted by themoment86:
Hi peeps! =D
Remember in the previous posting i talk about my friend not picking up my call?well..today we happen to see each other due to some extreme situation and we manage to caught up with each other, and to recap, she is the one who reject my call, saying it's impossible for us to meet and saying there is a gap between us. But just now..everything seems really fine. at first was kinda awkward..but after that we were already like teasing and crapping here and there, on the way back it seems like (my instinct) she is not willing to leave me alone waiting for bus cause i need to do another transfer..so....what's the problem with her?i feel that i do not know her, no doubt i am delighted that things doesn't seems to have change but i am wondering if she is just being polite?but if that's the case, maintaining a decent distance and action(s) is enough huh?
erm...anyone phycistrics care to do some analysis for me?cause i am confused...yet again..serious advice..cause i do hope this is a good start to regain the "lost friendship"
we are both female~for your info
thanks!
No doubt you have your own reasons why you should stay away from her in the past, but ask yourself this question.Do you have any reasons to stay away from her in the present? If not, why not give both of you a chance to become friends again?
Do you want to welcome her again as your friend?
Don't call her if you know she doesn't like to pick up your calls and also remind yourself not to put her as a priority until she have earned it by calling you and picking up your calls.
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Aiyo so leceh.
She wants to be frens then be frens lor .... she dowan to be frens then bochap her lor.... you very desperate for frenship meh?
Frens a dime a dozen dude.
Kind Regards
Genie
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Originally posted by Genie99a:
Aiyo so leceh.
She wants to be frens then be frens lor .... she dowan to be frens then bochap her lor.... you very desperate for frenship meh?
Frens a dime a dozen dude.
Kind Regards
Genie
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well it may seems "common" among some of you but what's special about my case is that we don't joke around with this kind of matter and whenever we are ok, there are bound to be "another person" trying to sabotage our relationship..so drama..-.-
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Originally posted by themoment86:
well it may seems "common" among some of you but what's special about my case is that we don't joke around with this kind of matter and whenever we are ok, there are bound to be "another person" trying to sabotage our relationship..so drama..-.-
What's so special about 3-4 girls bitching behind each other's back?However if you feel good about starring in your very own sitcom I guess its fine lol.
I think you'll manage fine.
Kind Regards
Genie
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Originally posted by themoment86:
well it may seems "common" among some of you but what's special about my case is that we don't joke around with this kind of matter and whenever we are ok, there are bound to be "another person" trying to sabotage our relationship..so drama..-.-
Yea... its common lah.... then after that everything becomes normal again... then after sometime it becomes complicated again.... makes u very confuse and you dunno whether ur fren is being serious or not.... can see u treasure friendship alot... i am also like this... but experience tells me to "mai chup ane zuey". Because at the end of the day u r the one feeling down. I had enuf of friendship like this. I think you shouldn't keep on call and call when she doesn't wanna pick up the call. Because this will give her a impression u care abt how she react very much... u may think ppl like this dun exist but there are... they just like playing mind games wif u and make everything so hard to understand... in that case, just dun care her, mai chup, u will meet better people or normal people who dun make simple thing like friendship so drama.
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why do people like to hold on to friends? it takes two hands to clap. If the friendship ends, so be it. It's just not meant to last. New ones will come along for sure. Those that really last, you can be sure the journey has been worthwhile.
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If u're female, den hi, asl?!
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Originally posted by parn:
No doubt you have your own reasons why you should stay away from her in the past, but ask yourself this question.Do you have any reasons to stay away from her in the present? If not, why not give both of you a chance to become friends again?
Do you want to welcome her again as your friend?
Don't call her if you know she doesn't like to pick up your calls and also remind yourself not to put her as a priority until she have earned it by calling you and picking up your calls.
hm..well..firstly i wasn't the one who is keeping myself away from her..and of cause i would love to have her back. It's really rare to know someone who share common interest with you, and literally can do almost anything with you(other then sex la). i like where we can talk about anything under the sun...i dont find it in other people..haix haix wor
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Originally posted by themoment86:
hm..well..firstly i wasn't the one who is keeping myself away from her..and of cause i would love to have her back. It's really rare to know someone who share common interest with you, and literally can do almost anything with you(other then sex la). i like where we can talk about anything under the sun...i dont find it in other people..haix haix wor
Nothing was really lost in the past and there's nothing for you to lose even if you choose to befriend her again.Accept what had happened in the past and forgive her because things could turned out to be worse with other friends. Not picking up your calls could be because she wasn't ready or in the correct mood to communicate at that point in time and she could be facing a personal struggle which she was uncomfortable to share or be reminded.
Surely it is safe for you to befriend her again if you also felt no ill intentions from her, and use what had happened in the past to understand deeper about her.
I believe even bad friends also have their own cute nature.
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Analysis for ur cause?Move on. If u want it beautifully worded with some yndromes inserted, it can be arranged.
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Find out what is she currently doing now...try your best to do the same thing as well so as to increase your chances of seeing her. Don't go on calling her..I guess she's made her point rather clear
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Originally posted by themoment86:
hm..well..firstly i wasn't the one who is keeping myself away from her..and of cause i would love to have her back. It's really rare to know someone who share common interest with you, and literally can do almost anything with you(other then sex la). i like where we can talk about anything under the sun...i dont find it in other people..haix haix wor
Go slow.Dont rash up.
Let time do the action.
You both will be a great friends again.
Go slow.
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she called me again le..because she is working now..as network engineer so she actually call me to ask me acc her down to supervise site cause she is alone there -.- i am seriously wondering is it that i will only appear when she is bored.. sigh
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Originally posted by themoment86:
she called me again le..because she is working now..as network engineer so she actually call me to ask me acc her down to supervise site cause she is alone there -.- i am seriously wondering is it that i will only appear when she is bored.. sigh
Dun think so much lor. If u enjoy her company and feel like it...just go.
If u feel going out wif her yer always being used.... then bochap.
Kind Regards
Genie