Want to marry or not
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HI guys n girls im a forty yr old guy who has a interest in ,a thirty yr old gal from indo ,ive got not much money or educ. but she is edc. degree gd position n ive got 3 kids widowed she not married bfore , she says she loves me n wants to marry me im not sure what is she gettin out of this ,she is losing out ,do u think its true love or just for the sake of me a sporean n she gettin a good life out of it .maybe its just a infatuation temp.i dont lose anythin if i marry her in any way .need a piece of advice from u all .i ve known her for about three months .should i wait for some time ,thks
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Originally posted by Ssirajjj:
HI guys n girls im a forty yr old guy who has a interest in ,a thirty yr old gal from indo ,ive got not much money or educ. but she is edc. degree gd position n ive got 3 kids widowed she not married bfore , she says she loves me n wants to marry me im not sure what is she gettin out of this ,she is losing out ,do u think its true love or just for the sake of me a sporean n she gettin a good life out of it .maybe its just a infatuation temp.i dont lose anythin if i marry her in any way .need a piece of advice from u all .i ve known her for about three months .should i wait for some time ,thks
Why cant you think for yourself ? How did she treat you ? How are we suppose to immagine everything out by just some words. How old are your kids ? Is she the type that will abuse your kids after marriage ?
If you really love her, then give her a name. Dont play with people's feelings
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well, my hunch is she came from a desa in Indonesia? Will there be a possibility that when she has been singaporeanised and finds that you don't have education nor money and then despise you?
Singapore is a dream come true for many poor people overseas. But they may wise up with time.
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she treats me well like a king ,my kids also need them ,they r 17,15 n 6 n the 6 yrs needs her the most as im at work all the time ,i will make sure she dosnt abuse or i still can kick her out as my kids r important to me,my love toward her is because of my kids cause ive seen her treating them better then me .if they wise up in time ive nothin to lose cause i need someone to look after the kids n teach them which she could do well as she has a good education.
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then take your time la.....haha. No hurry since time will tell if she really loves your kids or your citizenship. Meanwhile, your kids are taken care of.
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Originally posted by Ssirajjj:
she treats me well like a king ,my kids also need them ,they r 17,15 n 6 n the 6 yrs needs her the most as im at work all the time ,i will make sure she dosnt abuse or i still can kick her out as my kids r important to me,my love toward her is because of my kids cause ive seen her treating them better then me .if they wise up in time ive nothin to lose cause i need someone to look after the kids n teach them which she could do well as she has a good education.
You need a maid or you need a wife?
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
You need a maid or you need a wife?
lol bonkers dun be rude
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Originally posted by Rooney9:
lol bonkers dun be rude
*pouts*
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wait a minute, how did you meet this gal? How did she come to Singapore?
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Originally posted by Ssirajjj:
HI guys n girls im a forty yr old guy who has a interest in ,a thirty yr old gal from indo ,ive got not much money or educ. but she is edc. degree gd position n ive got 3 kids widowed she not married bfore , she says she loves me n wants to marry me im not sure what is she gettin out of this ,she is losing out ,do u think its true love or just for the sake of me a sporean n she gettin a good life out of it .maybe its just a infatuation temp.i dont lose anythin if i marry her in any way .need a piece of advice from u all .i ve known her for about three months .should i wait for some time ,thks
Does she knows you are not rich ? Are you living in a 3 bedroom HDB ?
Does she knows you expects her to take care of your children ?
With a degree, will she wants to get a job in Singapore. If she does, how will she take care of your young one ?
Does she has intention to have a child of her own ?
Will she need to send financial support to her own family back in Indonesia ?
So many questions.. I hope you already have the answers to them.
Not forgetting that some women can be rather flaky. Changing our minds is not unusually usual.
While you may think you are getting a free nanny. She may think otherwise. These kind of conflict is best avoided else it may turn your peaceful family upside down.
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wow you need to ask someone whether you should get married! Like this i tell you straight in the face.
You are not ready to get married yet. Next thing we know people asking in AA hey after i get married should we make love in the first or second night?
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She will take ur money!
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
You need a maid or you need a wife?
didn't know that you are such a joker...
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Ask the opinion of your 17 y.o and 15 y.o children.
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No, you should not marry her.
You just know her for 3 months.
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Originally posted by Ssirajjj:
HI guys n girls im a forty yr old guy who has a interest in ,a thirty yr old gal from indo ,ive got not much money or educ. but she is edc. degree gd position n ive got 3 kids widowed she not married bfore , she says she loves me n wants to marry me im not sure what is she gettin out of this ,she is losing out ,do u think its true love or just for the sake of me a sporean n she gettin a good life out of it .maybe its just a infatuation temp.i dont lose anythin if i marry her in any way .need a piece of advice from u all .i ve known her for about three months .should i wait for some time ,thks
Do you really believe it when a girl told you she loves you when she only know you for 3 months?No matter how well she treat you or your kids, bare in mind that it's only for a short duration of time (3mths++) and let me tell you, it doesnt prove anything yet.
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get a pre-nuptial then !
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Three months is too short, wait for some time, like thirty-three months.
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Chances are she is after your citizenship....... So what if she's got a good education (what kind?)+ a good job if these are in Indo when there's no political stability/security. These can easily come to naught......... But after she marries you, she can get to live in SG legitimately. Tough it out a few years get PR. Then tough it out another few years, get citizenship liao........... This view is of course from a most cynical perspective as I don't know you and your "target" personally. There could be the motivation of love for all you know....... You. my friend, are still the best judge.............All da best!
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sign 2 years contract
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Rich Arabs go to Indonesia, marries a girl, enjoy, divorce, and go home. All legallly done.
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Intuitively it is an uphill climb and sooner than u know it will wear her out and u too; and most of all three months to clinch a marriage - aiyah - no-go!
Love - sorry - u dont love and nor does she. Most likely it is the mutual benefit scheme type lah - means to an end. She is a means to your end and vice versa. As to what the ends are - u self-honestly can guess lah. On her part - self-honestly she would know.
Good education, employment prospects are not guaranteed and never cast in stone.
Beware the myriad pitfalls and the emotional rollercoasters!
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Originally posted by Ssirajjj:
she treats me well like a king ,my kids also need them ,they r 17,15 n 6 n the 6 yrs needs her the most as im at work all the time ,i will make sure she dosnt abuse or i still can kick her out as my kids r important to me,my love toward her is because of my kids cause ive seen her treating them better then me .if they wise up in time ive nothin to lose cause i need someone to look after the kids n teach them which she could do well as she has a good education.
.You better don't be with her because trash like you don't deserves to be with her.She treats you well like a king, and you can still kick her out if something goes wrong in the future??
You need to hire a maid, not marry a maid
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Originally posted by Ssirajjj:
HI guys n girls im a forty yr old guy who has a interest in ,a thirty yr old gal from indo ,ive got not much money or educ. but she is edc. degree gd position n ive got 3 kids widowed she not married bfore , she says she loves me n wants to marry me im not sure what is she gettin out of this ,she is losing out ,do u think its true love or just for the sake of me a sporean n she gettin a good life out of it .maybe its just a infatuation temp.i dont lose anythin if i marry her in any way .need a piece of advice from u all .i ve known her for about three months .should i wait for some time ,thks
Give yourself some time. Loving someone should be unconditional. Despite your education or financial background, it's alright for someone to love you.
How about yourself? Do you love her the same way she loves you?
If you both love each other, there's no harm in waiting for a better time to marry.
All the best!!
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
You need a maid or you need a wife?
So far he test drive the maid portion that seemed to work well......not sure how he test the wife portion....I think he is better off match make......clean cut...send out his resume and see who decided to reply......