Regret or jealousy? (its about life not about relationship)
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Hi guys,
Is such a good moment of this feeling when u sign in your facebook and look at all your friends. Those good times u know, u guys hang out in primary school and now all grown up. And when u look at your friends pic in facebook, they have so much fun with their life with their new friends. I'm not saying my life is boring but i do feel like abit of envy when i look at most of my friends.
Especially the girls, when they have 1000 over friends in facebook and look how enjoyable they are. People like tammy tay the fashion designer, she's like the whole package. pretty, not arrogant and obviously she has lots of friends. I take a look at her blogspot, how lively she is. And She's in the same age as me. i dont know these type of feeling, feels like u did some wrong move in your past life that u dont meet these type of expectations. I'm now working but when i see my other friends, they having school and enjoy so much with their friends and life. It makes me feel quite a downer. I want to spice things up abit u know.
While they having school, im here working. These type of trapped feeling makes me feel really useless. I know they say "suffer now, enjoy later" but looks like these kind of people (my friends) is having both at the same time. suffer and enjoy at the same time. Anyone care to share the same feeling im having too? how do u get out from this type of trapped feeling? I have friends but i dont know, it feels like i want something more out of this life of mine u know. Compare to my other friends, it makes mine really pathetic.
Care to share how do u snap out of this? or care to share with me am i actually jealous or just plain envy? should i actually get more friends to spice up my life abit?
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you will nv be happy if you keep comparing
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I started a topic somehow similar as yours.
I don't know about you ppl, but I feel it is quite hard to make friends when one has entered working world.
You need consistent 'entertaining' to spice up the 'new-found friendship' if not, it is easily a 'hi-bye' 'friendship'.
Off-Topic:
I am not always on msn or 'chatting' in forums but I find ppl who are always online, be it on msn or in forum, they will have a higher chance of interacting with the same ppl.
Then eventually start meeting up.
But it doesn't stop there, you will still need to be 'available' online. This, somehow is very tiring to me who has other personal things to do.
In the end, it is really up to you, to add in 'friends' and start interacting consistently.
You don't need to regret anything. Jealously maybe, as at times, I also feel that tinge of jealousy but for me, I really won't want to waste time looking at how happy/busy the ppl are in their photos when I can spend valuable time going for hobbies/workouts and enjoy myself.
Ha!
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i think the problem is on yrself. u are trying to push yrself into becaming some1 else
you wish that you have the same life style as them, same friends, same in everything.
you wish that you were some1 else cause you are not happy with yrself
well i dont think any1 would put their oen sad photo in the facebook.
who would put themselves crying and show weakness in facebook ???
basically no1.
every would love to show others that they are happy.
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Yes u r a jealous looser.
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Find your own goal in life and what you want to archive. Work hard towards it. As for friends, interact more. Doesnt mean having little friends means you are a loser, no. Interact more with people, like msn, facebook or whatever, excellent friend making pathways. Good luck.
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You think FB is reflection of happiness leh? A lot of those people who post in FB r "showboaters". They like to post pictures and write rubbish on their FB so people can think how happy they are. Don't go for false advertising. These people are only masking the sadder part of their lives and selling only the good parts.
You should not let your quality of life dictated by facebook. Besides FB got a lot of privacy issues. It seems that your personal data is being divulged and accessible to outsiders.
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Guess this kind of thing happen almost every time. not just depending on yoruself, your friends too, and their priorities. I do have FB, but with few friends and many people keep asking to be connected up with. Chat room friends of yester-year invited me there just to connect up on FB and then disappeared even though still posting and updating about the family activities, but not really messaging to you.
So when my classmate from UK found me there, after the initial meet up, and few months of continuous posting (some common topic of interest due to recession also disappeared into thin air due to work. I hardly go FB nowadays even although I have few other friends there too. Mostly just like making known their presence and then......
Long time ago, there was the pen pal thing, same old thing do happen. Many will ask to meet up and then except for a few most just disappeared. More like looking for g/f b/f kind of thing... .some new and fresh seems to get the better of things and then move on to the next found person... repeating all over again... waste of time to me.
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well, i am like in the same situation as bbmars... meet up with friends and some disappeared without warning...
also to TS: facebook does not indicate anything... it is just a platform for people to broadcast their life...
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become a volunteer. then you might just appreciate your life a bit more.
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Originally posted by Zhangjf7768:
I started a topic somehow similar as yours.
I don't know about you ppl, but I feel it is quite hard to make friends when one has entered working world.
You need consistent 'entertaining' to spice up the 'new-found friendship' if not, it is easily a 'hi-bye' 'friendship'.
Off-Topic:
I am not always on msn or 'chatting' in forums but I find ppl who are always online, be it on msn or in forum, they will have a higher chance of interacting with the same ppl.
Then eventually start meeting up.
But it doesn't stop there, you will still need to be 'available' online. This, somehow is very tiring to me who has other personal things to do.
In the end, it is really up to you, to add in 'friends' and start interacting consistently.
You don't need to regret anything. Jealously maybe, as at times, I also feel that tinge of jealousy but for me, I really won't want to waste time looking at how happy/busy the ppl are in their photos when I can spend valuable time going for hobbies/workouts and enjoy myself.
Ha!
yes it is really hard to make friends when u are working. This is a huge disadvantage when u are working though. Guess u are right about spicing up my life with them. I want to get out more
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Originally posted by Hwaimeng:
i think the problem is on yrself. u are trying to push yrself into becaming some1 else
you wish that you have the same life style as them, same friends, same in everything.
you wish that you were some1 else cause you are not happy with yrself
well i dont think any1 would put their oen sad photo in the facebook.
who would put themselves crying and show weakness in facebook ???
basically no1.
every would love to show others that they are happy.
actually yes. i really do wish i have their lifestyle but its too late aint it. =(i know its quite dumb to put crying photos in facebook but see them really enjoy themselves with their friends. Makes me really wish i was his/her friend that keep on going out.
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Originally posted by TTFU:
Find your own goal in life and what you want to archive. Work hard towards it. As for friends, interact more. Doesnt mean having little friends means you are a loser, no. Interact more with people, like msn, facebook or whatever, excellent friend making pathways. Good luck.
Thanks for the encouragement =). ok i try to interact more people but how can i interact people in facebook? i mean i can't just ask him/her out yes? -
she has 1000 friends in her friend list.
You ask her how many real friends she has.
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Originally posted by gunner77:
she has 1000 friends in her friend list.
You ask her how many real friends she has.
i never plan on asking her that. But her real friends most likely is 1000 too? -
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
i never plan on asking her that. But her real friends most likely is 1000 too?
Don't make me laugh.
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im serious. ok maybe she doesnt have that 1000 friends but it cant be 1000 friends of her is fake right? out of 1000 probably only 100 of them are not her real friends correct?
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Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
im serious
I don't think you get my defination of 'real'.
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Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
im serious. ok maybe she doesnt have that 1000 friends but it cant be 1000 friends of her is fake right? out of 1000 probably only 100 of them are not her real friends correct?
Hmm.... You seriously dont know ? K friend making websites, lets just say i can sign up for a account now and bump my friend count to 999999, Aka spamming add. But does that mean i have 999999 real friends ? No.
''Real friends'' are friends that you know through real life. Not through spamming add. Btw i spam add those chio bu too