First love.
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Hi all.
I am in my mid twenties.
My current girl friend has been with my for 6 years now we plan to get married in time to come, say 5 years later after we complete our studies.
The thing is, once I saw someone who looked like my first love, Melissa. For that moment lots of thoughts and memories just came back regarding her. I was quite shaken, because having been in a long term relationship for so long that I stopped thinking about other girls and I see all the females around me as just plain friends.
But just the thought of my first love, I get all the fuzzy feeling and numbing sensation in my mind. I know I love my current g/f dearly, but I can’t help but think of how is my first love doing? Does she need help?
A part of me still wants to care for her, or at least know how she is doing. I lost contact with her for at least 9 years now, but I just can’t stop feeling that way about her.
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Does love songs affect you?
How do you feel after you listen to these songs :
My First Love : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0402xlYPJcU
So Much in Love : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GwsMhc6u-1k
Even Now : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qh0GYyQ3cI
Your Comments please?
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TS
Perharps you should Take one Step back and observed your own emotion maturity.
From what i observed you need to ask yourself if you should be considering married at all. Because you have to ask yourself who you are NOW.
Look at it this way....for whatever reason You n your 1st relationship both of you grow up and move apart.....And you found a new person to love.
If you are having a 7 years itch. I suggest you don't make any decision period.
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1st love is very powerful influence on your life. suggest you contact her and find out how she is. if she is well then you can let go and really focus on your future with your current gf.
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Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:
Hi all.
I am in my mid twenties.
My current girl friend has been with my for 6 years now we plan to get married in time to come, say 5 years later after we complete our studies.
The thing is, once I saw someone who looked like my first love, Melissa. For that moment lots of thoughts and memories just came back regarding her. I was quite shaken, because having been in a long term relationship for so long that I stopped thinking about other girls and I see all the females around me as just plain friends.
But just the thought of my first love, I get all the fuzzy feeling and numbing sensation in my mind. I know I love my current g/f dearly, but I can’t help but think of how is my first love doing? Does she need help?
A part of me still wants to care for her, or at least know how she is doing. I lost contact with her for at least 9 years now, but I just can’t stop feeling that way about her.
There seemed to be some unresolved chapters in your life; it randomly spark this undying passion which nefariously raised itself from the love grave and comes back haunting you. As much as you feel that you are concerned about her well being, but think about this: she has survived nine years of her life without your presence, hence what you are feeling is purely delusional. Let sleeping dragon lie; there is no damsel in distress to save.
It’s a real irony to see people lament about this particular person they couldn’t have, while having to possess everything they need in love currently. If you plan to execute plans like looking back at your past and taking active steps to revisit old chapters, you are at risk of sacrificing or damaging the state of your relationship.
No bank is too big to fail - no relationship is too strong to crumble.
Basically all it takes one unwise step.
Think about it.
Cheers
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Originally posted by Yunhaier: There seemed to be some unresolved chapters in your life; it randomly spark this undying passion which nefariously raised itself from the love grave and comes back haunting you. As much as you feel that you are concerned about her well being, but think about this: she has survived nine years of her life without your presence, hence what you are feeling is purely delusional.
Let sleeping dragon lie; there is no damsel in distress to save.
It’s a real irony to see people lament about this particular person they couldn’t have, while having to possess everything they need in love currently. If you plan to execute plans like looking back at your past and taking active steps to revisit old chapters, you are at risk of sacrificing or damaging the state of your relationship.
No bank is too big to fail - no relationship is too strong to crumble.
Basically all it takes one unwise step.
Think about it.
Cheers
Ya, u are right.
however, 9 years ago when my EX left me, she was having great difficulty in her life, she came from a single parent family, and she has to look after her younger sister.
She would often tell me that, why is her life so fucked up, she can't go out but has to look after her younger sister. and stuff like that. I remember seeing her once at taka she was hanging out with some beng wanna be.