All my friends want to let go aeroplane on me
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I am a working person. Two years ago, I had a difficult break up and my ex left me for a more older and weatlhy man. I decided to be by myself and do everything by myself. Nobody bother to contact me. But recently I have ephiphany. I want to change my life and I want to be more brighter and positive.
So I call all my old classmates and ask them out for a drink. One by one they all make excuses, say they busy lar, say they got appointment lar, etc, etc. So I let it go by. Then now is world cup, I call them back again so we can go watch world cup. They give me same excuses again. Some of them not married and only have girlfriend but why are they so busy? I only call them like once a month. Excuses, excuses.
So, I decided to make other friends, join association and religious activity. Quite fun, I made new friends. But I am not giving up on my classmate. Very sianz lar, they so not cooperative, so I call them back again, again those poor excuses. So I scold one of them who say he was driving, I say to him I will continue to call him until he come out, I dont' care. I complain to him and say why friend call you you don't want to come out? He say busy lar got this and that lar. I say that we should keep in touch and as long as he never say he dislike me and he don't to go out, I will continue to pester him.
Last time, I get bully by my ex girlfriend, she say I am poor, I am not like this, I am not good enough and I am not good looking enough. I am so sick of this. Last time, I try try to cater her make her feel happy, spend a lot of money on her clothes, dinner and presents. But she treat me so bad. So bad. And then when got richer guy come after her, she break up, just like that. Yes, she got right to leave me but if you are me, then you feel very bad.
Now I do not want to feel being push down by people, I want to breath good and new live. So I don't want to give up on my classmate who give me poor excuses. I want to be aggresive to find better life.
Last week, I have another friend who have so good social life. He is still single but everyday he is busy, I call him, I can always hear background got sound and a lot of people talking. THis friend, I believe his reason that he cannot come out because he is honest. Last week he went to Greece and then today he was out with some of his church friend. Although I am beginning new life and meeting new friends, I cannot match his social life and I got so many weekends with nothing to do except Sunday. I want to be busy with people and helping people. Please advice what I should do to make my life better and leave behind the bad memories of hte ex girlfriend. She has now married but she is so bad she didn't even invite me but invited my friends. She change her tel number and i cannot contact her.
Pls advice me on my old classmate friends. If you tell me to seek other friends and leave them alone, I feel that I have been defeated. I must take the challenge and complain more to them to come out. I want to scold them, I don't want to be like a scardy mice like last time always scolded by exgirlfriend.
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You sound like a freakin big loser..
Pester ple to come out and scold them just because they dun want to hangout with you?
You shld change your life attitude.
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Sorry, I am busy man.
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i will reply you some other time. busy now.
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your situation is difficult...most people of your age , assuming that you're in your 30s, are married, in a relationship or are going to be married
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You need to find true friends, and not old friends...
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do you realise that you are the problem?
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Why u die die also wanna meet your old friends?! Gosh, it's so sad & funny at the same time.
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what is ephiphany?
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im not sure of wats ur relationship like with ur friends..
but.. as from wat i can see.... they seem to already have a life of their own... well..cant deny tat as we grow older..our priorities change..
the immediate solution is to look for new friends and slowly form another social circle.. always always never have one source of social circle.. make sure u mix around well... easier said than done tho.. but anything is possible..
i was once lonely.... now attached..i make sure i handle one or two social circle of friends regularly... we cant be friend-less... our world doesnt evolve around just on our SO...
it takes time to get over a relationship... learn from the past... u are motivated by doing things.. not thinking about things... if u wanna forget her..then take action... move inch by inch forward..
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Originally posted by Will to Live!:
I am a working person. Two years ago, I had a difficult break up and my ex left me for a more older and weatlhy man. I decided to be by myself and do everything by myself. Nobody bother to contact me. But recently I have ephiphany. I want to change my life and I want to be more brighter and positive.
So I call all my old classmates and ask them out for a drink. One by one they all make excuses, say they busy lar, say they got appointment lar, etc, etc. So I let it go by. Then now is world cup, I call them back again so we can go watch world cup. They give me same excuses again. Some of them not married and only have girlfriend but why are they so busy? I only call them like once a month. Excuses, excuses.
So, I decided to make other friends, join association and religious activity. Quite fun, I made new friends. But I am not giving up on my classmate. Very sianz lar, they so not cooperative, so I call them back again, again those poor excuses. So I scold one of them who say he was driving, I say to him I will continue to call him until he come out, I dont' care. I complain to him and say why friend call you you don't want to come out? He say busy lar got this and that lar. I say that we should keep in touch and as long as he never say he dislike me and he don't to go out, I will continue to pester him.
Last time, I get bully by my ex girlfriend, she say I am poor, I am not like this, I am not good enough and I am not good looking enough. I am so sick of this. Last time, I try try to cater her make her feel happy, spend a lot of money on her clothes, dinner and presents. But she treat me so bad. So bad. And then when got richer guy come after her, she break up, just like that. Yes, she got right to leave me but if you are me, then you feel very bad.
Now I do not want to feel being push down by people, I want to breath good and new live. So I don't want to give up on my classmate who give me poor excuses. I want to be aggresive to find better life.
Last week, I have another friend who have so good social life. He is still single but everyday he is busy, I call him, I can always hear background got sound and a lot of people talking. THis friend, I believe his reason that he cannot come out because he is honest. Last week he went to Greece and then today he was out with some of his church friend. Although I am beginning new life and meeting new friends, I cannot match his social life and I got so many weekends with nothing to do except Sunday. I want to be busy with people and helping people. Please advice what I should do to make my life better and leave behind the bad memories of hte ex girlfriend. She has now married but she is so bad she didn't even invite me but invited my friends. She change her tel number and i cannot contact her.
Pls advice me on my old classmate friends. If you tell me to seek other friends and leave them alone, I feel that I have been defeated. I must take the challenge and complain more to them to come out. I want to scold them, I don't want to be like a scardy mice like last time always scolded by exgirlfriend.
Hi,
First let me convey my condolences.
Secondly,
In my opinion, when your friends say they are busy......
This has a meaning.
You had an epiphany. So you now place more emphasis on relationships, and you want to re-forge your friendships. But your friends, they didnt have any epiphany. They are still living their day-to-day life as usual. Therefore there is a mismatch and imbalance of perspective and expectation. If you keep pestering them, they will feel you are weird. Meanwhile you feel it is them who are weird, and who are abandoning you.
There is no right or wrong. It is just a difference in expectation.
Like I said, your friends didnt have epiphany.
So try to understand this condition and situation first, and dont be too disappointed.
I have a practical suggestion and solution for you.
Try to meetup somewhere convinient for them.
Then their transactional cost is lower, and their busy-ness can be more accomodated.
Ok good luck.
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Originally posted by Will to Live!:
I am a working person. Two years ago, I had a difficult break up and my ex left me for a more older and weatlhy man. I decided to be by myself and do everything by myself. Nobody bother to contact me. But recently I have ephiphany. I want to change my life and I want to be more brighter and positive.
So I call all my old classmates and ask them out for a drink. One by one they all make excuses, say they busy lar, say they got appointment lar, etc, etc. So I let it go by. Then now is world cup, I call them back again so we can go watch world cup. They give me same excuses again. Some of them not married and only have girlfriend but why are they so busy? I only call them like once a month. Excuses, excuses.
So, I decided to make other friends, join association and religious activity. Quite fun, I made new friends. But I am not giving up on my classmate. Very sianz lar, they so not cooperative, so I call them back again, again those poor excuses. So I scold one of them who say he was driving, I say to him I will continue to call him until he come out, I dont' care. I complain to him and say why friend call you you don't want to come out? He say busy lar got this and that lar. I say that we should keep in touch and as long as he never say he dislike me and he don't to go out, I will continue to pester him.
Last time, I get bully by my ex girlfriend, she say I am poor, I am not like this, I am not good enough and I am not good looking enough. I am so sick of this. Last time, I try try to cater her make her feel happy, spend a lot of money on her clothes, dinner and presents. But she treat me so bad. So bad. And then when got richer guy come after her, she break up, just like that. Yes, she got right to leave me but if you are me, then you feel very bad.
Now I do not want to feel being push down by people, I want to breath good and new live. So I don't want to give up on my classmate who give me poor excuses. I want to be aggresive to find better life.
Last week, I have another friend who have so good social life. He is still single but everyday he is busy, I call him, I can always hear background got sound and a lot of people talking. THis friend, I believe his reason that he cannot come out because he is honest. Last week he went to Greece and then today he was out with some of his church friend. Although I am beginning new life and meeting new friends, I cannot match his social life and I got so many weekends with nothing to do except Sunday. I want to be busy with people and helping people. Please advice what I should do to make my life better and leave behind the bad memories of hte ex girlfriend. She has now married but she is so bad she didn't even invite me but invited my friends. She change her tel number and i cannot contact her.
Pls advice me on my old classmate friends. If you tell me to seek other friends and leave them alone, I feel that I have been defeated. I must take the challenge and complain more to them to come out. I want to scold them, I don't want to be like a scardy mice like last time always scolded by exgirlfriend.
Why do you keep harping on your so-called friendship with a bunch of people who does not appreciate you as their friend?Go and make new friends who doesn't upset you.
Or you can go and join gangs, they will be your undying friends even when you don't want to be their friend anymore.
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go and watch some porn la
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Let it go. They have their own lives now. Why bother them? And its really absurd to scold people for not wanting to meet up with you.
You said already that you have met new friends now. Use your energy on building relationships with them instead.
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You old friends are obviously not true friends anymore. What you can do is forge new friendships and concentrate on that
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Sorry I can't write on this thread now. Busy.
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Originally posted by Will to Live!:
I am a working person. Two years ago, I had a difficult break up and my ex left me for a more older and weatlhy man. I decided to be by myself and do everything by myself. Nobody bother to contact me. But recently I have ephiphany. I want to change my life and I want to be more brighter and positive.
So I call all my old classmates and ask them out for a drink. One by one they all make excuses, say they busy lar, say they got appointment lar, etc, etc. So I let it go by. Then now is world cup, I call them back again so we can go watch world cup. They give me same excuses again. Some of them not married and only have girlfriend but why are they so busy? I only call them like once a month. Excuses, excuses.
So, I decided to make other friends, join association and religious activity. Quite fun, I made new friends. But I am not giving up on my classmate. Very sianz lar, they so not cooperative, so I call them back again, again those poor excuses. So I scold one of them who say he was driving, I say to him I will continue to call him until he come out, I dont' care. I complain to him and say why friend call you you don't want to come out? He say busy lar got this and that lar. I say that we should keep in touch and as long as he never say he dislike me and he don't to go out, I will continue to pester him.
Last time, I get bully by my ex girlfriend, she say I am poor, I am not like this, I am not good enough and I am not good looking enough. I am so sick of this. Last time, I try try to cater her make her feel happy, spend a lot of money on her clothes, dinner and presents. But she treat me so bad. So bad. And then when got richer guy come after her, she break up, just like that. Yes, she got right to leave me but if you are me, then you feel very bad.
Now I do not want to feel being push down by people, I want to breath good and new live. So I don't want to give up on my classmate who give me poor excuses. I want to be aggresive to find better life.
Last week, I have another friend who have so good social life. He is still single but everyday he is busy, I call him, I can always hear background got sound and a lot of people talking. THis friend, I believe his reason that he cannot come out because he is honest. Last week he went to Greece and then today he was out with some of his church friend. Although I am beginning new life and meeting new friends, I cannot match his social life and I got so many weekends with nothing to do except Sunday. I want to be busy with people and helping people. Please advice what I should do to make my life better and leave behind the bad memories of hte ex girlfriend. She has now married but she is so bad she didn't even invite me but invited my friends. She change her tel number and i cannot contact her.
Pls advice me on my old classmate friends. If you tell me to seek other friends and leave them alone, I feel that I have been defeated. I must take the challenge and complain more to them to come out. I want to scold them, I don't want to be like a scardy mice like last time always scolded by exgirlfriend.
how old are U?
Workin adult...U dont have colleagues meh?
Dun waste ur time with someone who doesnt want to spend their time with U.
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All this friends all ccb one la.
Just like my friends, once a while call them out, always this one cannot that one cannot.
Still remember those cock they always say, "keep in touch". pui.
Now i fuck care them, afterall, it takes 2 hands to clap. If you ask them out, they give you excuses, don't care about them
Next time wait for them to call you, if they never call, nevermind.
Can always make new friends.
One more thing, concentrate on your career.
I understand how you feel, im like you. I treasure my friends alot. Especially old friends.
But now i see things differently, 2 hands to clap.
fuck care them.
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Originally posted by gunner77:
All this friends all ccb one la.
Just like my friends, once a while call them out, always this one cannot that one cannot.
Still remember those cock they always say, "keep in touch". pui.
Now i fuck care them, afterall, it takes 2 hands to clap. If you ask them out, they give you excuses, don't care about them
Next time wait for them to call you, if they never call, nevermind.
Can always make new friends.
One more thing, concentrate on your career.
I understand how you feel, im like you. I treasure my friends alot. Especially old friends.
But now i see things differently, 2 hands to clap.
fuck care them.
u got treasure me meh?
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Originally posted by gunner77:
All this friends all ccb one la.
Just like my friends, once a while call them out, always this one cannot that one cannot.
Still remember those cock they always say, "keep in touch". pui.
Now i fuck care them, afterall, it takes 2 hands to clap. If you ask them out, they give you excuses, don't care about them
Next time wait for them to call you, if they never call, nevermind.
Can always make new friends.
One more thing, concentrate on your career.
I understand how you feel, im like you. I treasure my friends alot. Especially old friends.
But now i see things differently, 2 hands to clap.
fuck care them.
Yeah... get gunner77 as your GSO (Girls supply Officer)... he got lots to spare... lol.. -
Originally posted by bryanw:
u got treasure me meh?
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Originally posted by gunner77:
All this friends all ccb one la.
Just like my friends, once a while call them out, always this one cannot that one cannot.
Still remember those cock they always say, "keep in touch". pui.
Now i fuck care them, afterall, it takes 2 hands to clap. If you ask them out, they give you excuses, don't care about them
Next time wait for them to call you, if they never call, nevermind.
Can always make new friends.
One more thing, concentrate on your career.
I understand how you feel, im like you. I treasure my friends alot. Especially old friends.
But now i see things differently, 2 hands to clap.
fuck care them.
Many friends are like that. When they need you they come to you, don't need you they heck care. These are fair weather friends. So many superficial type. I see "open" already
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Originally posted by gunner77:
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Originally posted by hasene:
Many friends are like that. When they need you they come to you, don't need you they heck care. These are fair weather friends. So many superficial type. I see "open" already
Yeah.. totally agreed...
we "Need" (needy)..we call her... sweetie...
If not needy... call her slut? hehe...