WOuld you girls choose a guy younger than you more than 3 yr
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I had a bf who is younger than me by 3 yrs. When I knew him, he's quite matured in his thinking. But as times goes on, (after half a yr), he changed. Although he showered me with lots of his love, but he is quite insensitive of what a girl really wants. Sometimes I really think he's too young for me. But I just couldn't bear to leave him. He will be immature sometimes when I couldn't tolerate him.
Can anyone out there tell me some of your experiences or comments?? Thanks a lot!!
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Well when i was sec 4 i got a girls older than me by thre..Originally posted by marshmallow:I had a bf who is younger than me by 3 yrs. When I knew him, he's quite matured in his thinking. But as times goes on, (after half a yr), he changed. Although he showered me with lots of his love, but he is quite insensitive of what a girl really wants. Sometimes I really think he's too young for me. But I just couldn't bear to leave him. He will be immature sometimes when I couldn't tolerate him.
Can anyone out there tell me some of your experiences or comments?? Thanks a lot!!
lolx...
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I think its ok for a girl that is older..as long as the girl dun find him childish or so...its ok..so no use worrying too much abt age u know...
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If it was maturity you seek... in the first place, I doubt you would have chosen a guy younger than you because there are tons of guys out there that fits the bill in terms of mental or age maturity.Originally posted by marshmallow:I had a bf who is younger than me by 3 yrs. When I knew him, he's quite matured in his thinking. But as times goes on, (after half a yr), he changed. Although he showered me with lots of his love, but he is quite insensitive of what a girl really wants. Sometimes I really think he's too young for me. But I just couldn't bear to leave him. He will be immature sometimes when I couldn't tolerate him.
Can anyone out there tell me some of your experiences or comments?? Thanks a lot!! 
Since maturity isn't the main element you seek in him - there must be something about him that draws you - which is the real reason why you couldn't leave him.
Feeling that he is insensitive? Trust me, this has nothing to do with age. I have seen cases of 20+, 30+, or even 40+ who are very insensitive to their gf or wife - is not the age that makes a person matured, its their thinking, preception and principles.
You haven't really overcome this age barrier deep within your subconscious, thats why you would feel this way. No? Think about this: Why is it that you feel *this* way and not reasons being 'relationship getting routine', etc, etc. There could be thousands of reason why your bf like 'that', again has little to do with age.
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also, older guys r much older than young lady is not mature.... somtimes, behave childhish...
i think it is more important whether both of u able to share thoughts... -
hmmmm 3yrs older... my gf would be 26~
i like older women...
but i dun have gf, lol
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90% of my ex.. r older than mi...the oldest i hv b4 is 9 yrs older than mi...
but in the end it was the 'old ' woman that turns out inmuture..haizzzzzz
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Hi marshmallow,Originally posted by marshmallow:I had a bf who is younger than me by 3 yrs. When I knew him, he's quite matured in his thinking. But as times goes on, (after half a yr), he changed. Although he showered me with lots of his love, but he is quite insensitive of what a girl really wants. Sometimes I really think he's too young for me. But I just couldn't bear to leave him. He will be immature sometimes when I couldn't tolerate him.
Can anyone out there tell me some of your experiences or comments?? Thanks a lot!!
A bf younger than you by 3 yrs... Well.. me oso.. i older than me bf 3 years..
Like wat Yun explained.. is the reasons being is not becos on maturity.. Is the subconcious mind that you cannot over come.. It keep on telling you that.. he's younger and you're older... and ppl have the tendency to always come to think that you're young and i'm older.. and when comes to maturity you always think that the other party who is younger is immature...
Being young doesnt really post a problem.. You couldnt leave him.. simply you love him so.. Is not the matter of whether to chose a guy younger than you anot.. And if age really bothers you..Then you wont even be in this relation...but however why in the 1st place you went with him.. there's must be some attractiveness in him.. right? And the age problem has never come across your mind b4.. Is oni when you find that he change and becomes immature.. Then after you start to ponder whether is it be cos he's still young and insensitive.. This is so wrong! With such thinking you had.. this makes you immature rather him..
You must try to overcome the "age" situation you have.. You see on the street.. some gf are taller than their Bf.. but they dun bother.. they dun care about how ppl look at them how ppl say them.. They are comfortable with each others.. They thinks they are special then the rest.. They always compliment each other.. If height really create a problem here.. would you be able to STILL see any of this couple on the street?? Since they can do it.. You can do it too...
Most ppl are insentitive... Regardless of age.. Even if you were to find someone older than you.. Certain things.. guys sometimes will be insensitive.. They might not know.. but somehow you feel it.. Be more considerate.. Not everyone knows what the other party thinking about.. Don't say guys.. sometimes girls oso insensitive...
Have more confidence in yourself.. Give time to your bf.. and have a talk with him.. If you cant tolerate his nonsense tell him.. Speak to him..
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damm it lah ! what so big deal with this stupid age thingy , its whether you like or dont like . OK !
i once have this ger i waited for 3 years , and in the end she said WHAT ! "i think you younger than me, so i think cannot lah " and the best part is that i younger then her ONLY 5mths .
so i think if you love someone no matter the age you will still love him
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hiyoh...
my dear girl... age adds up to experience and xp teaches you nothing of women's needs(or wants)... experience only teches you the "socially acceptable" course of action to take... then you'll have a stereotypical bf oredi... dat wat you want? even if not...ppl change one wat... juz dat maybe you see the magnitude of change cos you've been clinging on to the expired version of him and juz got an update izit? y? wan change bf izit? then you get one older and still insensitive how? you see the picture? itz down to the person man... good man where to find? who cares...itz a good woman i want... -
agree age has nothing to do with maturityOriginally posted by Yunhaier:If it was maturity you seek... in the first place, I doubt you would have chosen a guy younger than you because there are tons of guys out there that fits the bill in terms of mental or age maturity.
Since maturity isn't the main element you seek in him - there must be something about him that draws you - which is the real reason why you couldn't leave him.
Feeling that he is insensitive? Trust me, this has nothing to do with age. I have seen cases of 20+, 30+, or even 40+ who are very insensitive to their gf or wife - is not the age that makes a person matured, its their thinking, preception and principles.
You haven't really overcome this age barrier deep within your subconscious, thats why you would feel this way. No? Think about this: Why is it that you feel *this* way and not reasons being 'relationship getting routine', etc, etc. There could be thousands of reason why your bf like 'that', again has little to do with age.
Cheers -
cool it man ! u sounded really angry ! *ha*Originally posted by archie84:damm it lah ! what so big deal with this stupid age thingy , its whether you like or dont like . OK !
i once have this ger i waited for 3 years , and in the end she said WHAT ! "i think you younger than me, so i think cannot lah " and the best part is that i younger then her ONLY 5mths .
so i think if you love someone no matter the age you will still love him -
no... me prefer older guys..
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"i think you younger than me, so i think cannot lah "Originally posted by archie84:damm it lah ! what so big deal with this stupid age thingy , its whether you like or dont like . OK !
i once have this ger i waited for 3 years , and in the end she said WHAT ! "i think you younger than me, so i think cannot lah " and the best part is that i younger then her ONLY 5mths .
so i think if you love someone no matter the age you will still love him
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Ok enough for all the drama. I feel that this potential of yours doesn't like you the way she would see as a bf - for this is a very lame reason to reject. Well, most girls hate and wouldn't reject with their true feelings - thus they needed the what you call excuses to avoid.
Don't worry you will be fine pal! *Slap a pat onto Archie's back*
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i think... did he really become immature or... u have changed. i mean, u need someone more mature then him, that is.
second is, he really changed. is he seeing someone else and starting to negect ur needs....
third is, he's very busy now, no time for u yet
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Thanx man i now kinda back on my normal life !Originally posted by Yunhaier:"i think you younger than me, so i think cannot lah "
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"Sorry, I don't like you"
"Sorry, you don't interest me."
"Sorry, you ain't my style"
Ok enough for all the drama. I feel that this potential of yours doesn't like you the way she would see as a bf - for this is a very lame reason to reject. Well, most girls hate and wouldn't reject with their true feelings - thus they needed the what you call excuses to avoid.
Don't worry you will be fine pal! *Slap a pat onto Archie's back*
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it would be stupid for a ger to choose a guy younger than him for more than 2 years...the r/s wont last more than 2 years
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:"i think you younger than me, so i think cannot lah "
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"Sorry, I don't like you"
"Sorry, you don't interest me."
"Sorry, you ain't my style"
Cheers
Age is not a prob if U REALLY r in love. I once read in a newspaper: A young man married an old lady. Shocking leh? Its true U noe? I believe "true" love transcend all aspect of reality. It goes beyond da limitations & mortality of wat we "sees" as "reality".
U dun mind yr love is ugly, or fat, or unacceptable by others, or handicapped, or dying, or other race, or diff colour, or many others... dat can be wat I described "true" love... Of coz lah... I trying to do dat... not easy leh... -
yea.. get what u mean, i can't get over this subconscious thing of mine oso. keep feeling tradition and stuff
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I've never had a b/f who is younger than me by 3 years... but I feel it doesn't really make a difference. A guy can be older by 10 years and still be insensitive. But I'd prefer my guy to be 2-3 years older.Originally posted by marshmallow:I had a bf who is younger than me by 3 yrs. When I knew him, he's quite matured in his thinking. But as times goes on, (after half a yr), he changed. Although he showered me with lots of his love, but he is quite insensitive of what a girl really wants. Sometimes I really think he's too young for me. But I just couldn't bear to leave him. He will be immature sometimes when I couldn't tolerate him.
Can anyone out there tell me some of your experiences or comments?? Thanks a lot!! -
So yr BF now sama age as U? or 4 yrs & above? or younger?Originally posted by .-'Des|reE'-.:I've never had a b/f who is younger than me by 3 years... but I feel it doesn't really make a difference. A guy can be older by 10 years and still be insensitive. But I'd prefer my guy to be 2-3 years older. -
How old?I am 82 year oldOriginally posted by IamAngeline:no... me prefer older guys.. -
Originally posted by IamAngeline:no... me prefer older guys..
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Originally posted by zacken99:90% of my ex.. r older than mi...the oldest i hv b4 is 9 yrs older than mi...
but in the end it was the 'old ' woman that turns out inmuture..haizzzzzz -
That's Life...? She could have very well gave you another excuse... It won't make very much of a difference now... Would it...?Originally posted by archie84:damm it lah ! what so big deal with this stupid age thingy , its whether you like or dont like . OK !
i once have this ger i waited for 3 years , and in the end she said WHAT ! "i think you younger than me, so i think cannot lah " and the best part is that i younger then her ONLY 5mths .
so i think if you love someone no matter the age you will still love him