making decisions
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i suck at making life decisions.
every time i am in the midst of making major decisions, lots of things will crop up to confuse me. ok, i admit i could be confused myself about direction and stuff, but who isn't at some points of their life. i could be anxious to the extent of pacing up and down, being fidgety, unable to concentrate on the work on hand, delaying making the decision, avoid talking to people who are the stakeholders because i am griped with guilt, obligation and fear. even to the extent of freaking out and running away when pushed to make the decision, hence leaving the other stakeholders flustered and angry that i did a u-turn on them.
i tried to talk to people before making a decision, but that didn't help. it only confused me. i also tried keeping absolutely quiet and relying on myself solely to make the decision, however i usually get eaten up by the anxiety when left alone.
what can i do to help myself ? i have lost many opportunities and time, and damaged relationships due to this. i mean no harm to anyone, i just wish that i am better at this.
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ever try writing down the factors which will affect your decision?
then separate them.. and prioritise them...
then you will know what to do...
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u have commitment issues.
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Your priorities are screwed up...in fact...I don't even think you know what your priorites are in the first place.
Ask yourself...what is the most important thing in your life? What would you regret not doing most? What are your principles that you want to abide by?
Find out the answers to all these questions and you just might be able to make decisions more quickly and easily.
And please get some doc to prescribe prozac to you...for ur anxiety probs....
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
Your priorities are screwed up...in fact...I don't even think you know what your priorites are in the first place.
Ask yourself...what is the most important thing in your life? What would you regret not doing most? What are your principles that you want to abide by?
Find out the answers to all these questions and you just might be able to make decisions more quickly and easily.
And please get some doc to prescribe prozac to you...for ur anxiety probs....
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Wisdom from someone who is bonkers...
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Sit down
Calm down
Write it down
List it out
make a choice
go do it
never regret
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Originally posted by Ferret:
u have commitment issues.
you are quite right. i have commitment issues in a particular aspect of my life...
well, in addition to that, there are external factors which force me to feel guilty and obliged, such that i change direction. often i find my heart and mind split. my heart wants one thing, but the mind is full of "should do", guilty and obligation, fear (whether induced by self or others). i am often a slave of other people's agenda.
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sound more like you have an esteem problems unsure about yourself and ..........sound like you skip a few step here and there in life.....so you find yourself making commitment before your time.
anyway........time to go for life coach.
Go read....Martha Beck --- Finding your North Star.
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Originally posted by ayeyo:
i suck at making life decisions.
every time i am in the midst of making major decisions, lots of things will crop up to confuse me. ok, i admit i could be confused myself about direction and stuff, but who isn't at some points of their life. i could be anxious to the extent of pacing up and down, being fidgety, unable to concentrate on the work on hand, delaying making the decision, avoid talking to people who are the stakeholders because i am griped with guilt, obligation and fear. even to the extent of freaking out and running away when pushed to make the decision, hence leaving the other stakeholders flustered and angry that i did a u-turn on them.
i tried to talk to people before making a decision, but that didn't help. it only confused me. i also tried keeping absolutely quiet and relying on myself solely to make the decision, however i usually get eaten up by the anxiety when left alone.
what can i do to help myself ? i have lost many opportunities and time, and damaged relationships due to this. i mean no harm to anyone, i just wish that i am better at this.
by posting on forum = you want suggestion? or you want to be confused? o.0