How would you feel and react if someone were rude to you?
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if someone in office, can be your colleagues, boss or from other department one, were rude and passes disparage remarks to you, would you feel angry and also return with anger as well?
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act and not re-act
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for me I will feel pissed, but see circumstances and the person designation before reacting. if the person is a director in senior management, bo bian LL and swallow it, but if the person is a asst manager, I will tell him/her off.
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Originally posted by seyKai:
act and not re-act
how u react when someone told you very loudly in office, such as I thought I told you before etc etc -
ego is your enemy not your colleagues
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Scarsm comes into play
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Originally posted by Rooney9:
if someone in office, can be your colleagues, boss or from other department one, were rude and passes disparage remarks to you, would you feel angry and also return with anger as well?
I think one should learn to forgive. It's difficult but we must try. -
Yes sir yes sir 3 bags full sir.
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So far throughout my working experience, no one have ever talked to me rudely before. But even if it does happen one day, I will try to brush it off, as I always avoid direct conflict =) But to my friends, I always react back with sarcasm. So . . . =X
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Originally posted by ~PEPPER~:
I think one should learn to forgive. It's difficult but we must try.not about forgiveness but act to the situation to show you are the bigger man
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I would feel angry but not show it =) at least not for now
Lets put it this way, you/your colleagues now know what kind of a person he is and have the upperhand aginst him.
He just shot himself in the foot by being a sabo kia
The quieter the person the more scary he is since you don't know much about him. This kinda noisy (#)!(#! lol. Easy
I'm sure your colleagues aren't stupid and have minds of their own so whatever gossip/rumours/sabo this person use against you won't stand valid unless of cause you're really f-ed up la...
Lay low and wait for the tide =)
And when it comes make sure you ride it :D
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Originally posted by Rooney9:
if someone in office, can be your colleagues, boss or from other department one, were rude and passes disparage remarks to you, would you feel angry and also return with anger as well?
You totally deserved it, because you are an A hole to begin with.
Have fun with the big bad world kid.
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Originally posted by Bo|2eDtoDeath:
I would feel angry but not show it =) at least not for now
Lets put it this way, you/your colleagues now know what kind of a person he is and have the upperhand aginst him.
He just shot himself in the foot by being a sabo kia
The quieter the person the more scary he is since you don't know much about him. This kinda noisy (#)!(#! lol. Easy
I'm sure your colleagues aren't stupid and have minds of their own so whatever gossip/rumours/sabo this person use against you won't stand valid unless of cause you're really f-ed up la...
Lay low and wait for the tide =)
And when it comes make sure you ride it :D
高明. Nice. And it works. xD!!
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Originally posted by Rooney9:
if someone in office, can be your colleagues, boss or from other department one, were rude and passes disparage remarks to you, would you feel angry and also return with anger as well?
That would entirely depend on you. Of course there is a limit to how much nonsense you can take. Some co-workers in the office are out there to denegrade you, and you must stand up and defend yourself. You must put a limit and only tolerate up to a certain level, if some other department doesn't cooperate with you and speak to you in a ridiculous way, even though the person knows he is wrong, he doesn't admit it, but continue to be rude to you, you have to put up a stand. And if your boss doesn't support you, you have to stand up for yourself.
That day, a certain fella from another department didn't give me his full cooperation, he has been procastinating and putting off my work for several months, so I decided I had enough, I emailed to him and cc to the big boss. Yesterday, my big boss wasn't happy with me for using his name, but I did what I thought was right. I told myself, I want some personal job satisfaction, damn it ! I have every right to get that thing from him. Sometimes in life you need thick skin, if you need to get something done, no matter how people are angry with you or play politics at you, you have to put up a fight but fight smart and not get yourself in trouble.
Another day, somebody was rude at me, when I came over and try to get my work done, but when a certain lady came to him, he became very nice and sweet to her. But I didn't care, I said to myself, I want job satisfaction and I am not going to be intimidated by his double standard attitude, so I continued to pester him until I get my job done. I didn't do my job to get approval from my boss, I do it to fulfill my own satisfaction of my job.
Another day when I had to ask my superior for something i didn't know how to do, he told me off that I should figure all this myself, and I shouldn't be spoon fed. I didn't care what he said because it was illogical to expect me to do this, I already told him during the interview that I needed training to do this kind of work, so he agreed. So, I didn't buy his political mumbo jumbo garbage logic, instead I continued to pester him to let me know where I can access and use the data or else I am wasting time here. I didn't sign up for this rubbish, if I can figure this myself, I mind as well open up a rival company and compete with my current company. But since I am an employee, I expect some decent level of training, briefing and standard of workmanship, only then, independence and creativity on my work talents can be developed. Important thing is to have your own work philosophy and don't let others brain wash you.
You may not be able to react but you can show them your disagreement by showing your lobby for the your working style.
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boss give u $$$. scold u, shame u, wack u, u not happy u resign. other then that if u wrong then just suffer in silence because he give u $$$ and u like the money. u endure because of the money.
if your colleague. more senior bully u, and u new and he is old (like 10 years or more) and the boss like him and you know he is the boss favourite. then no choice u got to endure too. not happy quit.
if same rank or new people come and provided u more senior and have done good for the company , then complain him. u got the bragging right. he is new bird, u can always sabo him and make him die. how can u old bird be bully by someone same rank as you in the office? if new bird come in but higher rank i suggest u endure.
if old bird low rank must see situation. if he is those uncle type which boss like then no choice. alot of time u need to endure de. until u 10 years in the company. then u act like god other then that u got to endure.
sack those new one who is under you if they rude to u. give them 49% in their appraisel. i doubt new bird will be dare enough to be rude to u. even if u wrong, they under u, got brain, they won't dare to be rude to u.
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Endure = killing yourself in a slow manner
Reacting and standing up for yourself = saving millions with your revolutionary style
But please do not Rebel Without A Cause, because James Dean tried it and he's dead. CSJ tried it and he was in deep trouble.
Learn from STARWARS, use the force. If you feel strongly that you have some percentage of surviving it, then you must go ahead and fire your proton torpedoes.
If you allowed people to insult and humiliate you, then you're just born to be cheap and low. Even if you end up becoming the CEO of the CEOs in the future, people who know you will remember and savour the times when they insulted and humiliated you.
Is that the kind of future you are aiming for by enduring? If yes, then you can only blame yourself for being worthless and useless. And next time you can only watch your wife, girlfriend, and daughters get raped in front of your eyes because it's the same helplessness that you have chosen to ENDURE for life.
See if you can endure this post or not first. And don't push the blame upon others just because you got a cheap and wimpy character. Blame yourself for deciding to make your own stupid choice of self-preservation.
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As ever, this is Parnie....
her posts really sting.....
anyway, i will hang around for a chance to strike at the person who was rude to me b4...heh heh
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it depend lor, if the person is small size one then i will scold knnbccb and hong gan lor, if that person is big size one, i will also scold knnbccb lah, but after that, i will faster run away, lol