what do u think of such a guy?
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A guy, named ST working in the military research agency, who has been dating his gf for several months had a new female colleague at work. She was young, vivid, lively, bubbly and quite pretty and sociable. Being her mentor, the guy had the opportunities to work closely with her, and on some occasions, do OT.
Within a month, ST started to drift away from his gf. He has been spending more time at work, and of course, with YY, sometimes having supper and long coversation with her after work. ST was attracted to YY and he feels that she is an very eligible and ideal lady for him. However, he is already attached. Soon, ST begin to see his gf in a poor light, picking on her, criticising her looks, and praising YY infront of her.
Within weeks, ST was spending time away from his gf. He decided to break up with his gf so that he could be single and can woo YY. But his gf was heartbroken. In his attempt to dump his girlfriend (adruptly over the phone), he told her he never like her and was just desperate to find someone to be attached. He said he would never like her and asked her to find a man who truly loves her. He even commented that she is fat and unattractive to him, and he was just pretending to be a nice and dutiful bf to her. He dumped her over a phonecall, and did not make any attempt to meet her for a proper break-up or treat her respectfully. He scolded her over the phone and wanted a quick breakup. The girl was very hurted and tormented. She felt used and humiliated, that she was treated without much respect and sincerity. That the r/s was all but a ploy and that she was only a temporary gf to ST while he continues his search for his ideal gf.
ST's ex girlfriend never hear from him again until months later, when ST called her out of the blue. ST called because he wanted a quick closure so that he can have the peace of mind and heart to start a brand-new happy r/s with YY. ST's ex girlfriend refused to speak to him and instead of offering his sincerest apologies, ST lambasted her and asked her to get a life and move on. ST made her feel even worse.
It has been years and the ST's ex gf is still nursing over her emotional scars and feeling deeply hurted and humiliated. She doesnt believe in true love anymore and feels that she would never be treated sincerely and with respect. On the other hand, ST is enjoying his blossoming r/s with YY and is making quick plans for a marriage soon. All along, he has never feel guilty or remorseful for his action. He had never understand the real damage he has done to his ex-girlfriend but was happy he has made a firm decision to settle for YY instead. He never apologise. ST's ex girlfriend felt like an object, he never care for her feelings and dump her away like a junk, never taking into consideration her feelings and hurted her with awful and hurtful remarks to dump her.
In case you wonder this is a fictional story, this is a true story.. ST might be your colleague. What do you tink of such a guy?
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a jerk that will get his retribution.. maybe YY will ditch him for a rich man one day and say that she never really loved him too..
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common
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Maybe its time to move on. Ya his a jerk, but well since he found his happiness, good for him. You should find yours too, and that will be the new starting point.
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Such a guy will never know what true love is. The ex shd really feel happy for herself because if this guy had remained, he would have been a hindrance in her quest for true love.
Better to get hurt now than in married life later, with kids, property, car and all that. This hurt will only make the person stronger. It may take years to recover.....but as the saying goes: "Slowly but surely." She will get there.
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She should find another guy and than boast to him that he is a much better guy than this jerk
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He is ethically wrong in the way he broke off with this ex-gf though he is entitled to pursue his new happiness. But still, this kind of guy, there is a question mark on his personal character.
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He is ethically wrong in the way he broke off with this ex-gf though he is entitled to pursue his new happiness. But still, this kind of guy, there is a question mark on his personal character.
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that guy is not a good guy
well, they're not yet married. When they're applying for a job, they'll have to tick married, single etc.
As long as they're not married under the law, love is a free for all game.
A free for all game signifies that anyone can join the game; no such thing as third party unless they're married.
Hate the game, not the player
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Originally posted by TTFU:
Maybe its time to move on. Ya his a jerk, but well since he found his happiness, good for him. You should find yours too, and that will be the new starting point.
Yeah.. TS should find your NEW starting point and move on.... -
Why would my opinion be of any value to TS?
Besides, all we have is only a one-sided description of ST from you. Without the benefit of a cross- examination of ST or corroboration from a neutral 3rd party, there is an unfair bit of bias against ST.........
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Originally posted by bearie000:
He even commented that she is fat and unattractive to him.
small details like this you also know... TS is the ex gf...
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Actually ST was listening to Lil Wayne on his iPod before he called his now ex gf for the break up. He was listening to lollipop and thought about YY. ST: lick lick lick lick lick me like a lollipop. shawty wanna work....ex gf in the dirt, shawty wanna sq****, you know i wanna ****, lets leave her in the lurch... dun say ii tell eu wan he w kill mi lols
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'In life, one can only walk forward.'
Simple Bear
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Originally posted by Simple_Bear:
'In life, one can only walk forward.'
Simple Bear
you got no...
next time.. you dropped something.. cannot stop and reverse to take...
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Originally posted by bearie000:
A guy, named ST working in the military research agency, who has been dating his gf for several months had a new female colleague at work. She was young, vivid, lively, bubbly and quite pretty and sociable. Being her mentor, the guy had the opportunities to work closely with her, and on some occasions, do OT.
Within a month, ST started to drift away from his gf. He has been spending more time at work, and of course, with YY, sometimes having supper and long coversation with her after work. ST was attracted to YY and he feels that she is an very eligible and ideal lady for him. However, he is already attached. Soon, ST begin to see his gf in a poor light, picking on her, criticising her looks, and praising YY infront of her.
Within weeks, ST was spending time away from his gf. He decided to break up with his gf so that he could be single and can woo YY. But his gf was heartbroken. In his attempt to dump his girlfriend (adruptly over the phone), he told her he never like her and was just desperate to find someone to be attached. He said he would never like her and asked her to find a man who truly loves her. He even commented that she is fat and unattractive to him, and he was just pretending to be a nice and dutiful bf to her. He dumped her over a phonecall, and did not make any attempt to meet her for a proper break-up or treat her respectfully. He scolded her over the phone and wanted a quick breakup. The girl was very hurted and tormented. She felt used and humiliated, that she was treated without much respect and sincerity. That the r/s was all but a ploy and that she was only a temporary gf to ST while he continues his search for his ideal gf.
ST's ex girlfriend never hear from him again until months later, when ST called her out of the blue. ST called because he wanted a quick closure so that he can have the peace of mind and heart to start a brand-new happy r/s with YY. ST's ex girlfriend refused to speak to him and instead of offering his sincerest apologies, ST lambasted her and asked her to get a life and move on. ST made her feel even worse.
It has been years and the ST's ex gf is still nursing over her emotional scars and feeling deeply hurted and humiliated. She doesnt believe in true love anymore and feels that she would never be treated sincerely and with respect. On the other hand, ST is enjoying his blossoming r/s with YY and is making quick plans for a marriage soon. All along, he has never feel guilty or remorseful for his action. He had never understand the real damage he has done to his ex-girlfriend but was happy he has made a firm decision to settle for YY instead. He never apologise. ST's ex girlfriend felt like an object, he never care for her feelings and dump her away like a junk, never taking into consideration her feelings and hurted her with awful and hurtful remarks to dump her.
In case you wonder this is a fictional story, this is a true story.. ST might be your colleague. What do you tink of such a guy?
the ex-gf should move on....what is she expecting?An apology?It will not happen so she might as well carry on with life...
the guy?well...screwed up guy...want to break also no need to insult people...the ex gf should be happy that it happened before marriage...
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The guy is entitled to decided who will eventually be his spouse.
But should not insult or humilate the gf.
He is a fool, to think that YY is not aware of him.
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common in this material society ..
Hate e game, not e players :)
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ya, breakup is everyone's right but doesnt mean u want a break-up, you can say anything to hurt and insult another's party. Then get away with it, and ask someone to forget it and move on with one's life
by the way, ST is someone who see one and likes one, solely based on looks. He once tried to try his luck on his ex gf 's friend... i pity the girls in his company..
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Of all the characters mentioned in his post, only 1 character is important to talk about, ie. the ST's ex-gf. She should not dwell on this r/s any longer and move on, to create the life she truly wants for her own happiness. The chain of events is a GOOD thing. It allowed her to know ST's true character, before their r/s progressed further.
These few years is a crucial time for people to 'adjust' and balance their lives for the better. As far as relationships are concerned, people will naturally sway towards others of similar vibrational frequencies as them, by Law of Attraction. More positive people = higher vibrational frequencies. More negative people = lower vibrational frequencies.
Married couples and attached couples especially will need to be aware of this, so that they can improve their 'inner selves' and resolve any conflicts well. Poor handling of such conflicts can lead to painful heartbreaks. For single persons, it's a good time, as it'll be easier for soul-mates (can be more than one) to appear in your lives. Use your heart and intuition to feel if people are your soul-mates. Don't continue to just use your eyes to see. Soul-mates are people in your soul groups, and have extremely similar vibrational frequencies, and so are naturally drawn to each other.
Relationships between couples with very different vibrational frequencies will face a lot of difficulties and conflicts, as the difference in their mindsets and perception of life will become more and more pronounced in these few years. Relationships that are not based on unconditional love will be challenged to re-balance.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
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Originally posted by bearie000:
ya, breakup is everyone's right but doesnt mean u want a break-up, you can say anything to hurt and insult another's party. Then get away with it, and ask someone to forget it and move on with one's life
by the way, ST is someone who see one and likes one, solely based on looks. He once tried to try his luck on his ex gf 's friend... i pity the girls in his company..
So the girls would be better off in your company instead?How come I can read the sourish jealously in your posts and replies?
Bad people are everywhere, you just haven't witnessed the girls who played with many guys' hearts.
Actually such incidents happened to people is to allow them to learn how to cope, react and deal better in their future. Once they have found the way to solve it in their own ways, you can be sure that this kind of incidents will never happen again regardless which guys they are with in their future.
Unlike Lions and Tigers, we are all born to be weak at birth. But because we have a bigger brain and strongest awareness than other stronger species, we know we have the ability to rule over all other species eventually, should we choose to do that.
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Originally posted by dangerboi:
that guy is not a good guy
well, they're not yet married. When they're applying for a job, they'll have to tick married, single etc.
As long as they're not married under the law, love is a free for all game.
A free for all game signifies that anyone can join the game; no such thing as third party unless they're married.
Hate the game, not the player
"Hate the game, not the player" --> Sounds like an expert or trying to sound like an expert.Did you copy and paste this from somewhere else?
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Originally posted by Just_do_it_lah:
you got no...next time.. you dropped something.. cannot stop and reverse to take...
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Yes I feel that the man involved is rather childish and immature.
He should try to protect the lady's feelings by breaking up softly and gently.
But such things sometimes happen in this world.
Just move on.
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The guy is an asshole.
The gal should forget him. It's been a few years already. She shouldn't waste anymore time on this bastard by thinking anymore about him.
It's time to move on and forge a better future.