Career? Or Girlfriend?
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Originally posted by ulquiorra87:
I'm facing a dilemma, I'm Travelling ALOT right now, and while all that travelling gives me valueable insight and learning experience, it is also my bane, i am at 23 and i don't have a steady girlfriend cause of this. While i sometimes enjoy the different stuffs i do, i sometimes feel sooo soo lonely on the inside, and i know i cant find a girlfriend yet because i know i will move again and the relationship will surely end. SOmetimes i feel so happy but i have no one i can truly share it with, sometimes i feel demoralized but there is no one i can confide in. I dont like this feeling.. And i'd like to find a singaporean girlfriend but i wont be back in SG for the next many years.. Unless i stop my overseas job after i graduate and slack off in SG to find my soulmate..
So this is a choice between finding my soulmate or advancing in my career quickly.. And frankly i am 50/50 on this. What do you guys think?
One of my friends, he got a job in China but his gf decided to quit her job and go jobless and follow him there. So anything is possible.
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Originally posted by ulquiorra87:
I'm facing a dilemma, I'm Travelling ALOT right now, and while all that travelling gives me valueable insight and learning experience, it is also my bane, i am at 23 and i don't have a steady girlfriend cause of this. While i sometimes enjoy the different stuffs i do, i sometimes feel sooo soo lonely on the inside, and i know i cant find a girlfriend yet because i know i will move again and the relationship will surely end. SOmetimes i feel so happy but i have no one i can truly share it with, sometimes i feel demoralized but there is no one i can confide in. I dont like this feeling.. And i'd like to find a singaporean girlfriend but i wont be back in SG for the next many years.. Unless i stop my overseas job after i graduate and slack off in SG to find my soulmate..
So this is a choice between finding my soulmate or advancing in my career quickly.. And frankly i am 50/50 on this. What do you guys think?
Serious ulqiorra87, i think you think too much. At 23 yrs old you still young, just relax, work and enjoy making friends where ever you go.
Stop worrying about relationship, don't worry when you meet the gal that is the one - you will know it, cause she be the one that you will be willing to give up travelling and other things for, till then just do your job.
If it is not yours, even if you give up your career now, and fly back, you think you meet her ? -
Originally posted by ulquiorra87:
Thanks for all your advice guys..! I dont quite get that last post but yea I think yea i agree with all of you and i'll concentrate on my career first... To hell with finding a girlfriend for now
. Career FIRST!!!Yeah go for it.. you are still young... anyway 23 years old and already travelling around in your job... have you completed university education yet? ;)
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that's a headache. unless you wna postpone your travellings till you found your gf and can travel together? all the best to you anyway.
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postpone till u get a materialistic slut?
ermm...brother....CAREER la...pls la...i said many times oredi...perhaps u get better chics out there...how about a sweetie jap gal on the beach of waikiki...jus remember to eat, wipe, and go...
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Originally posted by Fcukpap:
postpone till u get a materialistic slut?
ermm...brother....CAREER la...pls la...i said many times oredi...perhaps u get better chics out there...how about a sweetie jap gal on the beach of waikiki...jus remember to eat, wipe, and go...
whats with the materialistic slut. ..... -
u will get better out there...trust me...
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I was also travelling for many years (around 80% of the time in a year) since my graduation in 2005. I was 24 back then and it was until last year that I finally led a more routine kind of job back in Singapore. Though during that entire period, finding a gf or settling down never really cross my mind. Top most of my mind is just to have fun, get to see the world, experience more of life, earn more and the overseas experience will definitely beef up my career portfolio.
At 23 years old, u r still young. Focus on your career, find out what you like to do, earn more and if possible, try to hit the management level in 4-5 years. With a good career, still young in the late-20s, and tons of cash (due to overseas expat package), you will have no problem finding a gf once u r back in Singapore.
For guys, career is more important than family at your age. Once you hit the 30s or when you have given promise to a girl, then family will take the top priority. I have also gone through this route and got to know a very nice girl this year. At this stage, I have no worries about career, financial matters and is able to give my love one the best in life.
So think about it.