is it me?? or them/her?

• *[aMorE]*

  7 Apr 03, 15:26

  i had this 4 friends..we were very close..we were all best friends..we were in the same class last year..but this year..we were in different class..actually it is just me.the 4 of them are still in the same class..and i am not.but i always try to make time for them.i always go to their class and tok to them etc. i am in a cca tt has lotsa practices..but they dunch.so they will kind of always go out, but i missed some practices to go out for them, i go off early and i really try to make time for them. i want to keep this friendship close and the way it is as usual like last year. but, just now..one of them said something like..i do not need them,i do not try to make time for them and etc.lots of hurting stuff. i am terribly sad and hurt as she is my closeset friends among the 4 of them. but those words came out from her.i am very confused.i dunnoe how to solve all these. they have their new friends and when they need me.i am most often there..when i need them..they are not there. but it does not matter to me.but i dunnoe why she said all those stuff. can i hae some advice on wat to do next.i really dunnoe.they are very impt to me and i told her that just now, but she nv say anything. i really do treasure this friendship alot. ..i dunnoe if i changed or is it them/her.
• Devil1976

  8 Apr 03, 11:21

  Originally posted by *[aMorE]*:

  i had this 4 friends..we were very close..we were all best friends..we were in the same class last year..but this year..we were in different class..actually it is just me.the 4 of them are still in the same class..and i am not.but i always try to make time for them.i always go to their class and tok to them etc. i am in a cca tt has lotsa practices..but they dunch.so they will kind of always go out, but i missed some practices to go out for them, i go off early and i really try to make time for them. i want to keep this friendship close and the way it is as usual like last year. but, just now..one of them said something like..i do not need them,i do not try to make time for them and etc.lots of hurting stuff. i am terribly sad and hurt as she is my closeset friends among the 4 of them. but those words came out from her.i am very confused.i dunnoe how to solve all these. they have their new friends and when they need me.i am most often there..when i need them..they are not there. but it does not matter to me.but i dunnoe why she said all those stuff. can i hae some advice on wat to do next.i really dunnoe.they are very impt to me and i told her that just now, but she nv say anything. i really do treasure this friendship alot. ..i dunnoe if i changed or is it them/her.

  May it be them or might it be you... People DO change... Just part of Life....
  
  Advice for you... Try to expand your social circle while seeing what you can do to keep these close friends of yours... You mentioned that there're FOUR of them...? Can't really be that ALL 4 of them try to keep a distance away from you yup...? Try to build up some rapport there...?
• Xiao Long Nu

  8 Apr 03, 11:29

  i expereince the same problem as u when i was young...tat time aso join alot of cca then i not free to join my 3 other v v gd best frens (frm pri sch)for outing....then in the end...all of us gt our own frens...aso lost contact liao.....nw if see each other on streets aso pretend nv see....haiz...guess tis is life ba..
• *[aMorE]*

  8 Apr 03, 14:55

  i have others friends..and now i often go out with them..coz we are in the same cca. then that time this friend in the 4 of them told me that now that i have my cca friends..i do not need them liaox.but it is not true. some of my cca friends are in my class and because my cca got lotsa practices..so we naturally would go out after the pratices. but i still treasure my friendship with the 4 of them alot.
• Devil1976

  8 Apr 03, 16:55

  Originally posted by *[aMorE]*:

  i have others friends..and now i often go out with them..coz we are in the same cca. then that time this friend in the 4 of them told me that now that i have my cca friends..i do not need them liaox.but it is not true. some of my cca friends are in my class and because my cca got lotsa practices..so we naturally would go out after the pratices. but i still treasure my friendship with the 4 of them alot.

  You mentioned one out of 4....? See what ya can do about it....? Some things cannot be forced... What are friends for....? As for the person who said that to you...? Hope he/ she will grow up soon...?
• *[aMorE]*

  8 Apr 03, 21:31

  i dunnoe wat i can do bout it..tt one out of the 4 is my closest fren lohx.i really dunnoe wat to do.haix.
• Devil1976

  9 Apr 03, 12:20

  Originally posted by *[aMorE]*:

  i dunnoe wat i can do bout it..tt one out of the 4 is my closest fren lohx.i really dunnoe wat to do.haix.

  If you think that it's REALLY WORTH it, FIGHT for it.... If not...? Things can always CHANGE....?
• PuRe-EviL

  9 Apr 03, 17:27

  Friends come and go ... it's sad but that is what happens ...
  We all need to move on at certain stages in life .. and sometimes we do bring friends along the way but there are times when you just have to leave them behind?
• Valor

  9 Apr 03, 19:52

  Originally posted by PuRe-EviL:

  Friends come and go ... it's sad but that is what happens ...
  We all need to move on at certain stages in life .. and sometimes we do bring friends along the way but there are times when you just have to leave them behind?

  yeah... it's pretty true that friends come and go
  it's just part and parcel in life... in this fast pace world nothing waits for you... you have to earn things for yourself
• evererin

  9 Apr 03, 19:55

  frens do lose interest on each others as days goes by..so no worries...they will come back to u...
• john hunter

  9 Apr 03, 22:24

  Originally posted by *[aMorE]*:

  i had this 4 friends..we were very close..we were all best friends..we were in the same class last year..but this year..we were in different class..actually it is just me.the 4 of them are still in the same class..and i am not.but i always try to make time for them.i always go to their class and tok to them etc. i am in a cca tt has lotsa practices..but they dunch.so they will kind of always go out, but i missed some practices to go out for them, i go off early and i really try to make time for them. i want to keep this friendship close and the way it is as usual like last year. but, just now..one of them said something like..i do not need them,i do not try to make time for them and etc.lots of hurting stuff. i am terribly sad and hurt as she is my closeset friends among the 4 of them. but those words came out from her.i am very confused.i dunnoe how to solve all these. they have their new friends and when they need me.i am most often there..when i need them..they are not there. but it does not matter to me.but i dunnoe why she said all those stuff. can i hae some advice on wat to do next.i really dunnoe.they are very impt to me and i told her that just now, but she nv say anything. i really do treasure this friendship alot. ..i dunnoe if i changed or is it them/her.

  Change is constant in life. Mind should accord with changes.
  Do not use yersterday's mind to perceive today's happenings.
  
  Zhuang Zi