envy those who find their passion and direction in life. this is where good works flourish and a person is very motivated to work. what happens to those who don't know their passion or direction ? drift along, work for the sake of paying bills, get engaged in petty office politics and bo liao lunch talk.
it's not about a person's ability. ability plays a part too, but other than that, motivation and self knowledge are the x-factors whether a person "makes it great" in life.
does this fall under AA ? well, i'm in agony because i fall under the second group of people less the office politics. i have no doubt about my ability. however no matter how hard i try, i can't find that one thing which is my true lasting passion. i think i found it before, but it was blown to pieces due to a mishap. so now i feel deflated and demotivated most of the days. life is meaningless. work is meaningless.
read the book Martha Beck - Steering your north star...
Good luck.
positive thinking books are a load too many....the rare ones are those that portray what is really real out there....what is than what ought or should...
THE PRINCE - by Nicolo Machiavelli etc....Thick Skin Black Heart is another etc..
strange enough - those who propound positive thinking may after all possess the blackest of hearts...while those who knows the art of blackness may possess good nature and great warmth...
the opposite holds true - thats the paradox of social reality
steering your north star isn't about positive thinking.....basically she is a life coach....
basically she re-written her own life....not easy to read her book but open yourself to question your own life path.
of course i m not referring to the book per se....but on the whole..
aren't all those great talks, charity shows ended up in dramatic court cases, investigations, unknown outcomes, and gross misdemeanour?
anyway....good recommendation.....dun take it too hard....its just part of what IS the social reality...
I think there are 2 aspects that is hard to see or recognizes...
Your actual career comes much later in Life.
My ex boss use to be XXX VP for Sun XXXsystem and had also worked in other Fortune 500 companies....but guess what he quit in his late 40 and became a High School Teacher and still is.
Known a global sales person in Maersk quit her job in the US and when to China and became a English Teacher.....in private school in her late 30.
Our notion of success isn't about getting a good pay job so that we can owned something......But rather finding what we love to do or at least find meaning in doing and get paid for.
In Singapore we adopt alot of false believe. all we do is accumulate and slave for the rest of the life by the material we accumulate.
thanks, i will check out Martha Beck's book. this is the second time the title has been suggested to me
true lasting passion (work) is finding a fit to our natural strengths and talents. unless and until one is reconciled to it, one will always feel dissatisfied and empty running around chasing shadows. i am feeling so bad that i feel i rather die. that's how empty i feel
Originally posted by munchmv:envy those who find their passion and direction in life. this is where good works flourish and a person is very motivated to work. what happens to those who don't know their passion or direction ? drift along, work for the sake of paying bills, get engaged in petty office politics and bo liao lunch talk.
it's not about a person's ability. ability plays a part too, but other than that, motivation and self knowledge are the x-factors whether a person "makes it great" in life.
does this fall under AA ? well, i'm in agony because i fall under the second group of people less the office politics. i have no doubt about my ability. however no matter how hard i try, i can't find that one thing which is my true lasting passion. i think i found it before, but it was blown to pieces due to a mishap. so now i feel deflated and demotivated most of the days. life is meaningless. work is meaningless.
What's that one true passion that you said you found previously, before the mishap? It could be the thing that you're looking for. The mishap could just be a lesson for you, before you can hold on to your passion. Life is not a bed of roses. We need to have determination and courage before we can be happy. Most people choose the path of least resistance and end up being stuck in jobs that they hate.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
in the process of reaching a beautiful life....someone or an agent in between must do the "dirty" or so called "realistic" job....these are the people who are unsung or forgotten in the process when the rest is being delivered towards what's beautiful...
some "dirty" or "realistic" techiniques are required to fulfill the so called vision...
take the agent e.g. a goat for example....it has been used as a passover or sacrifice...someone has to do it or get it done for you to be delivered into the sublime bliss....
this part of realism is always not mentioned
Originally posted by Rainbow Jigsaw:What's that one true passion that you said you found previously, before the mishap? It could be the thing that you're looking for. The mishap could just be a lesson for you, before you can hold on to your passion. Life is not a bed of roses. We need to have determination and courage before we can be happy. Most people choose the path of least resistance and end up being stuck in jobs that they hate.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
i am revisiting my memory for it. the mishap was like a hurricane which not only destroyed what i was building but also threw me into a foreign land. i am in the process of reconciliation emotionally over the loss which is painful.
i am trying to find my way back home. i will pick myself up and work towards it. there is no other way to go but forth.
thanks
Originally posted by munchmv:i am revisiting my memory for it. the mishap was like a hurricane which not only destroyed what i was building but also threw me into a foreign land. i am in the process of reconciliation emotionally over the loss which is painful.
i am trying to find my way back home. i will pick myself up and work towards it. there is no other way to go but forth.
thanks
As you did not say exactly what that experience was, I shall not presume. But just want to say that things happen in life for a reason, as there are no coincidences. If you can understand the meaning and purpose of events and people in your life journey, you'll be able to make better choices that can give you a happier and more fulfulling life.
Life is really about learning life lessons, and growing as a person. For most people, there will always be more than 1 option available to choose from, at any point in your life journey. The easiest option at the point of choosing, may be the option that could eventually cause you more pain and regrets, in future.
Listen to your heart, and not anyone else. No one else in this world will know you better than yourself, assuming you can keep your mind clear from external influences. At the end of the day, your life is your own responsibility. External parties can give all sorts of fanciful advice, but eventually, you're the one who will either be happy or miserable, depending on your choices.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
When one is being neither an optimist nor a pessimist - one transcends conceptualised models of egs, what life ..., what love .... success ... or .... Of course, it presupposes living from the inside out, knowing that one's intuitive heart never lies.
PS - Beliefs are accidental but beliefs that unlimits one is being essential.