what does this means...
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What does it mean when ur gf is more closer to her sis de bf (lets name him A) rather than u? And when u try to mention the topic up to her asking why is she so close with A she will keep denying and gets very angry eventually. There was once I asked her to assure me that she will keep a distance away from A, she said ok but whenever we all go out she will still talk and laugh tgt with A. And whatever A do for his gf , she would want me to do it for her too. Everytime hearing my gf mention about A, saying how much she envy her sis all that.
Another issue is everytime when i am talking to her, i realise she is not really listening to wat i am saying.
wat does it mean? wat can i do? how do i solve this problem in a proper manner?
Thanks sgforumers
Y.X Ong
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it means she does not appreciate you
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Yea, but settle for you for the time being.
You now know what kind of person your gf likes.
Either you be that, or when she finds someone else like that, she'll move on.
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Is TS sure the girl is his GF? Seems like that so-called GF is only treating him like a friend only. Seems like a one-way street here or at best, TS' GF's merely treating him like a "shelter".......
It's clear that TS' GF is more fond of A.
Deal with it la TS. The sooner you wake up to reality , the better it'll be for you.......
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this means she is waiting for him to take her as gf....
as for u...as a spare....well...thats the cold reality...u r her punching bag in times of need and sheer convenience...if she has a kind heart...she will tell u not to find another...
perhaps one day she will wake up from her cinderella effect if he does not consider her after all those waiting...and if u r just beside her during her down times....u may stand a good chance to tie the knot....but 4ever as a SECOND BEST
if u r interested in studying the economics of love, u can drop me a note...
no offence but a straightforward answer as to how gals are....
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She probably prefers A over you.
Might as well change GF liaoz....eh but you better ask her straight first before you decide to do anything.
Scarli we're all wrong den u die liaoz
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Originally posted by yixiang:
What does it mean when ur gf is more closer to her sis de bf (lets name him A) rather than u? And when u try to mention the topic up to her asking why is she so close with A she will keep denying and gets very angry eventually. There was once I asked her to assure me that she will keep a distance away from A, she said ok but whenever we all go out she will still talk and laugh tgt with A. And whatever A do for his gf , she would want me to do it for her too. Everytime hearing my gf mention about A, saying how much she envy her sis all that.
Another issue is everytime when i am talking to her, i realise she is not really listening to wat i am saying.
wat does it mean? wat can i do? how do i solve this problem in a proper manner?
Thanks sgforumers
Y.X Ong
If your girlfriend is doing something like this to you, and you find it rude or terribly affected by it, then you should ignore it for your own good.
Although she may be your girlfriend, but bear in mind that both of you are still basically just friends because you have no legal rights over her and she's not legally binded to you like a wife.
On the other hand, do you want her NOT to get along well with her sister's boyfriend on your behalf and creates tension between she and her sister? Either way, you request reveals you as an immature and self-centered and possessive and insecure person.
Last but not least, why do you think you have the rights and power over her choice of friends that she can choose to befriend? Do you need to realise what an idiot you have been only after when she have decided to leave you to exercise her rights for GREATER FREEDOM?
I really despise guys like you, and you should ask yourself what kind of value have you brought into this relationship as her boyfriend?
If you do not have a unique value to contribute to this relationship, then it's only a matter of time before you loses her.
If you only have the same common values (care for her, love her...and the usual lies), then it is inevitable that you WILL lose her when she finds someone else who can offer her a much better deal in a relationship.
Guys and Girls alike, we always keep our eyes on a lookout for better guys out there, regardless of whether we are in a relationship or not.
Nobody want to get stucked for life together with a mental failure, society failure, financial failure and relationship failure.
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Originally posted by parn:
If your girlfriend is doing something like this to you, and you find it rude or terribly affected by it, then you should ignore it for your own good.
Although she may be your girlfriend, but bear in mind that both of you are still basically just friends because you have no legal rights over her and she's not legally binded to you like a wife.
On the other hand, do you want her NOT to get along well with her sister's boyfriend on your behalf and creates tension between she and her sister? Either way, you request reveals you as an immature and self-centered and possessive and insecure person.
Last but not least, why do you think you have the rights and power over her choice of friends that she can choose to befriend? Do you need to realise what an idiot you have been only after when she have decided to leave you to exercise her rights for GREATER FREEDOM?
I really despise guys like you, and you should ask yourself what kind of value have you brought into this relationship as her boyfriend?
If you do not have a unique value to contribute to this relationship, then it's only a matter of time before you loses her.
If you only have the same common values (care for her, love her...and the usual lies), then it is inevitable that you WILL lose her when she finds someone else who can offer her a much better deal in a relationship.
Guys and Girls alike, we always keep our eyes on a lookout for better guys out there, regardless of whether we are in a relationship or not.
Nobody want to get stucked for life together with a mental failure, society failure, financial failure and relationship failure.
I'm sorry Parn. But you are wrong to so Guys and Girls alike, we always keep our eyes on a lookout for better guys out there, regardless of whether we are in a relationship or not.
This only happens to people whom are already not very interested in the other party, and would only use him/ her as a dependent factor, so that they can have a backup plan. Unfortunately, many of the people I know including myself do not treat my partner this way.
We always treat each other with respect, and in no circumstances, would we use any actions in an attempt to sow discord, like what TS gf have done. She should have known better that by getting so close to an opposite sex, she is asking for trouble. Same for TS, if TS is busy flirting with his brother's gf, I believe many female would have already pounced on him and accused him of being a womanizer when he thought he is just being friendly.
TS, it would be good if you inform your gf of your problem. Each and everyone has an expectations in a relationship. That is why they are called our partner. Inform your gf about your insecurities and reassure her that you are not at all trying to tie her to you, or curbing her freedom. All you want to do is feel secure.
If everyone is always on a lookout for a better relationship, then trust would have ceased to exist, and partners would always be anxious and insecure on whether their love would call off the r/s.
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I need some info from TS to help him,
1) How old are both of you
2) How long are you both together?
3) Is this your first relationship?
4) Is this your gf first relationship?
5) Why are you going out with her sis and A?
6) Give us samples of things A did for her sis and your gf wanted you to do.
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Originally posted by Phantomnite:
I'm sorry Parn. But you are wrong to so Guys and Girls alike, we always keep our eyes on a lookout for better guys out there, regardless of whether we are in a relationship or not.
This only happens to people whom are already not very interested in the other party, and would only use him/ her as a dependent factor, so that they can have a backup plan. Unfortunately, many of the people I know including myself do not treat my partner this way.
We always treat each other with respect, and in no circumstances, would we use any actions in an attempt to sow discord, like what TS gf have done. She should have known better that by getting so close to an opposite sex, she is asking for trouble. Same for TS, if TS is busy flirting with his brother's gf, I believe many female would have already pounced on him and accused him of being a womanizer when he thought he is just being friendly.
TS, it would be good if you inform your gf of your problem. Each and everyone has an expectations in a relationship. That is why they are called our partner. Inform your gf about your insecurities and reassure her that you are not at all trying to tie her to you, or curbing her freedom. All you want to do is feel secure.
If everyone is always on a lookout for a better relationship, then trust would have ceased to exist, and partners would always be anxious and insecure on whether their love would call off the r/s.
Do you mean you've never admired another girl when you're attached to your girlfriend?Check against your own conscience then come and tell me you've lied.
There's no difference with not displaying physical interest, withholding your interest towards another girl, than with expressing interest for another girl while you're attached to your girlfriend.
Both are still considered infidelity in moral terms.
Of course you can insist and deny what I have mentioned and retain your high and noble status.
Ask yourself, who are you really trying to lie and convince in here?
I admit that I am wrong only when people do not have the courage to own up to their own sins. Because I can only tell you the truth, I cannot help you to face the truth if you do not have the right amount of morals and righteousness in you.
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Originally posted by DRC:
I need some info from TS to help him,
1) How old are both of you
2) How long are you both together?
3) Is this your first relationship?
4) Is this your gf first relationship?
5) Why are you going out with her sis and A?
6) Give us samples of things A did for her sis and your gf wanted you to do.
1) 20+
2) 3years
3) nope
4) nope
5) sometimes the girls will shop tgt , or probably have dinner tgt
6) eg. A buy a expensive bag/clothes/shoes for his gf, den she wants it too.
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The result shows that she is just jealous of your sis bf lar who got more more to spend on her sis.
"Everytime hearing my gf mention about A, saying how much she envy her sis all that."
"eg. A buy a expensive bag/clothes/shoes for his gf, den she wants it too."
Suggestion:
You cannot stop your gf from talking to A but you talk to A more often and understand him better. Your gf may or may not be interested in A but as long as A is not interested in your gf, you are safe.
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Originally posted by parn:
Do you mean you've never admired another girl when you're attached to your girlfriend?Check against your own conscience then come and tell me you've lied.
There's no difference with not displaying physical interest, withholding your interest towards another girl, than with expressing interest for another girl while you're attached to your girlfriend.
Both are still considered infidelity in moral terms.
Of course you can insist and deny what I have mentioned and retain your high and noble status.
Ask yourself, who are you really trying to lie and convince in here?
I admit that I am wrong only when people do not have the courage to own up to their own sins. Because I can only tell you the truth, I cannot help you to face the truth if you do not have the right amount of morals and righteousness in you.
I don't have any high noble status to speak off. I only know love do indeed exist. I'm not going to go into personal attacks though im pretty inclined to do so. If you consider a capable girl such as her ability to talk, to play the piano and some other skills, yes I did admire before. But not overboard till I will coo over her and attempt to get her attention. Simply because it is just pure admiration for her skills and not any romantic love.
Maturity and priority needs to be exercised in this scenario. I have not withold any interest for any other girl, but I know quite a number of people do due to loyalty to their partner. Its my personality that it gets very hard for me to show interest for others, or to be able to get my attention.
What I'm trying to say is, there are people out there who are extremely loyal to their partner, not everyone is thinking of somebody else hoping to be with him while hugging their current partner.
So my advice for TS is to let his gf know what his thoughts are. And seek for a mutual understanding. It could be like an idol-kind-of-like which is harmless. But the gf must know where her priorities lies. Always seek a balance, or else TS would suffer in the r/s of being very insecure. Don't you think this is very unfair to him?
Another thing is that TS girl might be the very friendly sort whom is able to warm up to everyone. If that is the case, then TS you got to accept your girl as who is she. And place your trust in her that she won't do you wrong. There is a very fine line between personality and being playful on purpose.
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The kind of things she wants and expects from a guy, A can give to her, but perhaps you cant....
You need to work harder, to understand her wants, her likes, and what she is thinking.
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Originally posted by Phantomnite:
I don't have any high noble status to speak off. I only know love do indeed exist. I'm not going to go into personal attacks though im pretty inclined to do so. If you consider a capable girl such as her ability to talk, to play the piano and some other skills, yes I did admire before. But not overboard till I will coo over her and attempt to get her attention. Simply because it is just pure admiration for her skills and not any romantic love.
Maturity and priority needs to be exercised in this scenario. I have not withold any interest for any other girl, but I know quite a number of people do due to loyalty to their partner. Its my personality that it gets very hard for me to show interest for others, or to be able to get my attention.
What I'm trying to say is, there are people out there who are extremely loyal to their partner, not everyone is thinking of somebody else hoping to be with him while hugging their current partner.
So my advice for TS is to let his gf know what his thoughts are. And seek for a mutual understanding. It could be like an idol-kind-of-like which is harmless. But the gf must know where her priorities lies. Always seek a balance, or else TS would suffer in the r/s of being very insecure. Don't you think this is very unfair to him?
Another thing is that TS girl might be the very friendly sort whom is able to warm up to everyone. If that is the case, then TS you got to accept your girl as who is she. And place your trust in her that she won't do you wrong. There is a very fine line between personality and being playful on purpose.
I will ONLY give you the benefits of the doubt, and only you will know your own lust and conscience.Still, you do not represent all guys and also because it's a fact that majority of the guys are UNABLE to hold back their lust for other girls while they were still attached to their girlfriends.
In the end, you were only save yourself but not your buddies. And I'm still right to say "Guys and Girls alike, we always keep our eyes on a lookout for better guys out there, regardless of whether we are in a relationship or not."
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This kind of gf, just dump, find a better one. One day you cannot provide what she want, she will just leave you.