WHyyyyyyy???
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why when i tried to help solving my friend's problem, not only the problem not solved, it inflict some pain to me.. i help them and they inflict pain into me.. whyyyyyy? is it so hard to be a good guy? should i change myself to be worse? cunning? evil? whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy :(
depressed.
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read up on the The Paradoxical Commandments.... don't let a little setback knock u down, u can be better than this!!
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Originally posted by MrCloneMaster:
why when i tried to help solving my friend's problem, not only the problem not solved, it inflict some pain to me.. i help them and they inflict pain into me.. whyyyyyy? is it so hard to be a good guy? should i change myself to be worse? cunning? evil? whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy :(
depressed.
Though it's human nature to react to a situation or person, but sometimes, it's not the most effective thing to do. Being neutral to a problem or situation will allow a person to see and think more clearly about the root cause of the problem, and not be sucked into the drama, which may backfire and result in what you felt after your well-intended efforts.Often, difficult situations are needed for the person involved to learn from and grow as a person, and not for external parties to get involved and disrupt the learning opportunity meant only for the person involved. In such situations, a sincere and caring listening ear is all that is needed, not more non-neutral opinions.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
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Last time, I was the nice guy too, got nothing in return, so now, I'm just a soldier.
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who ask you to be the good guy? Be the bad guy like me.
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No head no tail
COOL STORY BRO
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just treat them the way they treat you. simple as that.
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Originally posted by TTFU:
No head no tail
COOL STORY BRO
lol!
@TS: It means they are not your friends ma. So whatever they say should not matter.
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TS ur right...its hard to be good person...
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Den dun help la?
Learn ur lesson lor
Now u noe who to avoid liaoz
Good wat?
KB so much for wat?
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Be more self centred. It is survival of the fittest.
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no body is worth the time to help.
when u help -good result, they never thank u
when u help-bad result, they blame and curse u
when u no help-nothing bad happen to u.
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TO TS : mind ur own problems , no one will be thankful to you or pay u a single penny for being helpful. Thats the iron rule
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Some times, they do not need you to solve their problem. They just NEED you to lent a listening ear, nothing else. :)
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whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy :( --- because the sky is so high, hahha
refer your friend to others to help solving the prob lol
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"why when i tried to help solving my friend's problem, not only the problem not solved, it inflict some pain to me.. i help them and they inflict pain into me.. whyyyyyy? is it so hard to be a good guy?"
since I do not know your friend problem and you did not state your friend problem, I have to assume the problem.
1) Why was it not solve? did your friend refuse to listern to your advice or you are hoping that he did.
2) pain... strange usually advicing or helping people will not cause pain.
3) what is this pain you are talking about?
4) Are you helping them correctly?
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when u r not needed for the problem....stay away...or u will be seen as aggravating though u meant well.....thats a very common situation....
stay away and dun feel apologetic or guilty or even depressed...so long as your conscience is clear....
u dun have to get even.....just channel your energy to where u will be deserved....
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thanks for all the advices and concerns, i guess being the self-centered me will make me happier. i used to be happy. I used to be helpful, i used to listen to people's sorrow, i used to be .. i used to be... i used to be... now no more :'(
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Still no head no tail.
COOL STORY BRO