ever felt like you dare not love when love slowly creeps in?
ever felt a little disappointed when he isnt what you hoped he was?
ever felt lost about whether you should move ahead and try or stop yourself from falling for him?
No
No
No
No
No
No
Nobody can live on love and fresh air alone.
No money, no honey.
Times are bad. ![]()
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Yes
No

so many no-s.
i am a real scaredy cat.
grow up..wake up...In this SG, most love stories exist only in films
Originally posted by shugasweet:so many no-s.
i am a real scaredy cat.
Yes.
now you have a 'yes'.
thanks gunner, if yes was truely ur answer.
hmm, i dont think it has anything to do with being singaporean or not.
to be blunt about it, its just im starting to develop feelings for a guy i think does not meet my standards. its not about the physical appearance or superficial wealth. its... there are certain qualities i look for in a guy that he does not have.
and im afraid of another failed relationship.
Originally posted by shugasweet:thanks gunner, if yes was truely ur answer.
hmm, i dont think it has anything to do with being singaporean or not.
to be blunt about it, its just im starting to develop feelings for a guy i think does not meet my standards. its not about the physical appearance or superficial wealth. its... there are certain qualities i look for in a guy that he does not have.
and im afraid of another failed relationship.
Hi, seems like you have this problem all along. I will say let things run natural first and see if you really like this guy, and also observe how he treats you. Dont be afraid, bad things dont good, good things wont come
ur hormones has problems , seek professional help
Originally posted by shugasweet:thanks gunner, if yes was truely ur answer.
hmm, i dont think it has anything to do with being singaporean or not.
to be blunt about it, its just im starting to develop feelings for a guy i think does not meet my standards. its not about the physical appearance or superficial wealth. its... there are certain qualities i look for in a guy that he does not have.
and im afraid of another failed relationship.
If you are afraid of a failed relationship, there won't be any chance of a successful one...
i knew him since july from school and we never had anything for each other.
it was over the past week that i started feeling different about us, and i can feel that its the same for him.
too sudden, too unexpected.
i dont know how to react.
the ego ("me") in TS is still strong
ego?
im not sure how its linked.
the thing is feelings cannot b explained thru whether he is 'ur standard' or not...u cant just judge whether u r going to like a person thru whether he fits ur 'list of standards'...
btw if i may ask, what exactly didnt he meet?
Originally posted by shugasweet:ego?
im not sure how its linked.
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it's psychology
he is more of a happy go lucky person, with not much aim in life. i know that it is probably what makes him such a cheerful guy but then again, i think it is important for me to see his directions.
im not judging him from my lists of standards, i do not have such a list. im just afraid, i dont know of what.
cant differentiate b/w love and crush. nv been in love sadly. dunno what kinda standards you've set.. it's weird. . like you dont like his style yet you like him.
seems like you're insecure. .
apple, sober alr?xD
hmmm well have u asked him abt things?sometimes ppl do not always show their directions but some may actually have something in mind alr...sometimes some ppl take some time to actually think of what they want...identity crisis lol, have u ever discussed with him abt it?
If you don't know what you're afraid of, then it's simply your previous experiences (as you mentioned) holding you back. This would be even more obvious if your previous failed relationship was recent. Without knowing anything else about the situation, I'd say go for it. Nobody gets anywhere by being afraid of risk.
Also, Freud has nothing to do with this.
yea i think im feeling insecure.
i have asked him about it, he doesnt know. at least that was the way he put the message across.
my previous relationship isnt the main cause, in fact that guy had alot of direction with life, erm, but not with our relationship.
okay that is prolly why im so bent on this.
hmm...then mayb u r doing abit of comparing?