Why is it when you are interested in someone, she is attach
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Last time in school like I this girl. I thought is she was available because I never see her with any guy. So I approach her. To my embarassment, two days later her secret boyfriend confronted me when I was eating in the canteen. Turn out she was secretly seeing her boyfriend quiet quiet.
Then now at college. I also do project with college mates. Then I saw this girl i like. I ask her out. Then afterward, a friend took me to the corner and told me that she already taken. Aiyoyo, why nowadays girls attach but they don't announce one ah?
How to find out if they are still single? I don't want to become third party and always I am not good enough to beat their current boyfriend. Sometimes, the girl go out or seeing another guy, nobody knows. So how to beat this embarassment. Next time should I ask and check her background before I make my move?
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U thought, i think, who confirm ?
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You so big shot need announce to you one ah. Or u want them to wear a sign that says "Attached! BACK OFF!"
Its just right place.. wrong time man.
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You're just suay la. It would be nice if you asked first whether they are attached, then carry on from there.
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attached means cannot take? got such rule?
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all the boyfirends of the girls you like, you think they also only got that girl as tthe only gf? go for it lah. as long as she is single you stand a chance. but take it steadily, give yourself some time to feel about her also. if after years and feelings still stays. she is the one for you.
take me for example. last time i like ang mohs. now i prefer jiponese and taiwanese and selective chinese. not that i don;t like am anymore abbout am selective.
other types last time i never like, now don;ts. a sign that future i will never also.
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Originally posted by troublemaker2005:
all the boyfirends of the girls you like, you think they also only got that girl as tthe only gf? go for it lah. as long as she is single you stand a chance. but take it steadily, give yourself some time to feel about her also. if after years and feelings still stays. she is the one for you.
take me for example. last time i like ang mohs. now i prefer jiponese and taiwanese and selective chinese. not that i don;t like am anymore abbout am selective.
other types last time i never like, now don;ts. a sign that future i will never also.
I wish so easy lor. But I don't want people to say bad thing about me. I dont want to be third party. Some more leh, I will sure lose out want because current bf always got more homeground advantage than me.But now-a-day, dating is always a dirty game never clean. What to do?
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Woah, same situation as me. And its the third time!
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It's like candy placed in the middle of the room filled with kids.
There is absolutely no reason why it should still be there once some kid has spotted it.
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Fight for it, dude
Cheat, Lie, Steal, you name it.....
Do remember to drink some Milo to regain lost health
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then too bad, you and her no yuan fen.
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Just tell her how you feel about her. But don't go between them! Allow her to have the freedom to choose. If she does have feelings for you, she will know how to auto dump the bf and go for you.
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So all the gals have to wear placards to declare their r/s status har?
Everything also must cater to you har?
No guts den still wan wat gf?
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
So all the gals have to wear placards to declare their r/s status har?
Everything also must cater to you har?
No guts den still wan wat gf?
You are a lady, you don't know how hard it is to ask somebody out you like. You don't understand how hard it is to profess your liking to a girl. First you face rejection, not so bad. what if you knock on the wrong door? I go for classes and have friends in lecture but I don't want to risk losing my friends over a wrong move. I also need cooperation when we do class assginment and project.We men, constantly in danger of getting grilled. If we go after a girl we like but we fail to see that she is attach and she is loyal to her bf, surely we will be subject of bad gossip.
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You women hv it lucky, all you have to do is to dress nice and wait for the guy to come. Whereas the guy only have 50/50 chance of success. If he fail, means people lose respect for him, his classmates and his peers. Some girls don't know how much toil and suffering a guy takes to risk his neck out to ask the girl he like, out.
If we guys don't call or ask the girl we like out, withuot thinking or accessing the consequences, we are called Cowards. If I get rejected, I am very ok with that but it is the backlash that comes with it that I am not ok with that. Last time, I go after this girl and then I didn't know she was seeing another guy. Her boyfriend decided to play politics at me, bad mouth me and made all the school mates tease and made fun of me. In class people didn't want to mix with me and I felt as if I was boycotted. You do not know the psychological stress a guy face when everybody start to back lash at him for going after the wrong girl.
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Originally posted by trolol:
attached means cannot take? got such rule?
No. =D
Depends how u think and justify urself. hehe
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Originally posted by Meerkat Manor:
You women hv it lucky, all you have to do is to dress nice and wait for the guy to come. Whereas the guy only have 50/50 chance of success. If he fail, means people lose respect for him, his classmates and his peers. Some girls don't know how much toil and suffering a guy takes to risk his neck out to ask the girl he like, out.
If we guys don't call or ask the girl we like out, withuot thinking or accessing the consequences, we are called Cowards. If I get rejected, I am very ok with that but it is the backlash that comes with it that I am not ok with that. Last time, I go after this girl and then I didn't know she was seeing another guy. Her boyfriend decided to play politics at me, bad mouth me and made all the school mates tease and made fun of me. In class people didn't want to mix with me and I felt as if I was boycotted. You do not know the psychological stress a guy face when everybody start to back lash at him for going after the wrong girl.
I feel u there man.. i FEEEEEL YOU!
But unfortunately.. cant hate the playa man.. hate the game.
I know what u mean man. Its like.. wondering why the girl didnt reject u straight out, cause she says its too harsh. Then stringing along is not? lol!
But dont dwell on it too much. Sure there WILL be peoplelaughing at you, giving u wierd looks, but seriously who gives a shit man! Its not like they never get rejected before. More like they never ever been attached before staying in thier little safe zone. Always bitching why they cant get the girl while laughing at other's attempt.
Trust me, u dont have to do ANYTHING to them or hide into ur shell due to these incidents. You just go after the girl u like. U gotta risk it. And when the risk pays off... heh.. now that is the time to rub it in thier face!
Thats right .. u guys keep looking... keep salivating... But man.. i'll be tapping that when we get home.
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Originally posted by Meerkat Manor:
You are a lady, you don't know how hard it is to ask somebody out you like. You don't understand how hard it is to profess your liking to a girl. First you face rejection, not so bad. what if you knock on the wrong door? I go for classes and have friends in lecture but I don't want to risk losing my friends over a wrong move. I also need cooperation when we do class assginment and project.We men, constantly in danger of getting grilled. If we go after a girl we like but we fail to see that she is attach and she is loyal to her bf, surely we will be subject of bad gossip.
damn right