what will u do?
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If u love a girl but she dont really like you but she still agree to be your gf?
Will u try to win her heart or will you give up and look for someone that will appreciated your love.
Cos i really had try my best in loving her but don really get much back from her.
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When u love a person...u seek for the wellness of her/him.
Do the things in the best of her interest.... at the end of the day, it is wat u wanna out of this r/s.
One day, she will realise all u hav done for her... and love u for who u are, and not for wat u look like.
Cheers
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Hm... i got a same case as you brudder... so damn sad right..Originally posted by blowfish:If u love a girl but she dont really like you but she still agree to be your gf?
Will u try to win her heart or will you give up and look for someone that will appreciated your love.
Cos i really had try my best in loving her but don really get much back from her.
anyone?
You wanna do many things for her but she doesnt seems to notice it or appreciate. Instead she go find company with others frenz... Everytime go you be e one calling her out otherwise she would not call and date u out... Then u say k lor i will not call her out too..
but she will be with others guys frenz as you know that many try to ask her out..
Then e thought of it makes you damn jealous and you end up calling her again.. lolx...
I understand how u feel brudder...
I guess you gotta ask yourself is she worth you waiting for, cos in the end you are e one who feels hurt. And yet she doesnt knows it...
So i f u decieded to stick ard with her. Then you must have alot of patience with her. Cos its sth that u gotta bear with it when with her...
I knows e feeling is so powerful that it can actually suffocate your heart, but think on e bright side that she would realise how foolish she was and end up loving you very much. I believe this would make all worth it...
But how long does this goes... depend on you to judge...
Anyway daily life must still go on, dun neglect ur studies or work!!!
Great luck to you...
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sometimes when we love someone we want the very best for him/her. And in your case, unfortunately, you put in more than what you get back.
You can continue in this relationship if you think it's worth it. But i guess deep down in your heart you mus be praying that 1 day the girl might just realise how much you have put in and starts appreciating you for your efforts.
If you think that by sacrifacing more, you are suffering .. then i guess there's no point in maintaining this relationship.
Give her up and you might be happier...
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but then again, isn't "LOVE" all about sacrificing? wishing the best for your special partner? even if it means you giving and giving and getting nothing in return, so long she is happy, you are happy? i dunno. but that's what people tell me.Originally posted by jell_o:sometimes when we love someone we want the very best for him/her. And in your case, unfortunately, you put in more than what you get back.
You can continue in this relationship if you think it's worth it. But i guess deep down in your heart you mus be praying that 1 day the girl might just realise how much you have put in and starts appreciating you for your efforts.
If you think that by sacrifacing more, you are suffering .. then i guess there's no point in maintaining this relationship.
Give her up and you might be happier...
anyways, if you go about comparing who puts in how much in a relationship it will never end. the problem i reckon is that you cannot expect anything from her. becoz she did not force you to love her or sacrifice for her. u did it willingly? then face the consequences. -
Wow...Originally posted by sgboy2004:When u love a person...u seek for the wellness of her/him.
Do the things in the best of her interest.... at the end of the day, it is wat u wanna out of this r/s.
One day, she will realise all u hav done for her... and love u for who u are, and not for wat u look like.
Cheers
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i am a gentleman
Did U sae dat, SGbuaya?! I'm IMPRESSED!!!
I sorta agree wif U on dis... since agree to be yr GF, might as well make da best of it... At least U wont live to regret it.
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I see no point in a relation where the other party does even love you a single bit. Being in such relation, is just like studying for the sake of studying, without any thoughts for your own future.Originally posted by blowfish:If u love a girl but she dont really like you but she still agree to be your gf?
Will u try to win her heart or will you give up and look for someone that will appreciated your love.
Cos i really had try my best in loving her but don really get much back from her.
anyone?
Then why in the first place she wanna be your gf? Because she could be with nobody? Or no better potential around and you 'happened' to be there? You want to be a substitute? Or just someone to be there?
Wake yourself up, rather than to wait for the dream to end aruptly cause by then, your feelings would have been sent out deep enough to cause emotional hurts.
P.S: You can't make someone to like you if she doesn't, time can't change that. You *can* only change the impression she could have on you if you did at the correct *early* moments - perhaps that could save you from dire fate. After that 'auspicious' period, its quite a goner.
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I got the same problem like yours, blowfish and I already gave it up. I could not wait until she rethink cos it's not like love,right. Love should come from the feelings of both parties. If she comes back to you probably it's just her compassion for you for what you did for her. I'm loveless now but feel quite happy and free at least better than continue getting sarrow. It's just my own idea. It's up to you to choose what you should do in your case...
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Yes,i agree that love is about sacrifacing but sacrifice happily. It's like sacrificing your beauty sleep and wake up early to buy her breakfast and she gives a smile in return. From her smile you can see that she appreciates you and you feel happy from it.Originally posted by jeramy:but then again, isn't "LOVE" all about sacrificing? wishing the best for your special partner? even if it means you giving and giving and getting nothing in return, so long she is happy, you are happy? i dunno. but that's what people tell me.
anyways, if you go about comparing who puts in how much in a relationship it will never end. the problem i reckon is that you cannot expect anything from her. becoz she did not force you to love her or sacrifice for her. u did it willingly? then face the consequences.
But love is not about sacrifacing everytime, giving ur gf/bf watever you have. There will be one day, whereby you realise that you have nothing left...only an empty shell and a broken heart..
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Hi blowfish,Originally posted by blowfish:If u love a girl but she dont really like you but she still agree to be your gf?
Will u try to win her heart or will you give up and look for someone that will appreciated your love.
Cos i really had try my best in loving her but don really get much back from her.
anyone?
Firstly, I see no point in you having this relationship. She who doesn't like you at all.. and is willing to go with you.. WHy? Cos.. There's no other guys for her.. the one that she likes.. noone in her mind now.. And then you jus happen to be there.. She needed some companion.. And therefore she agrees to be with you.. She feels lonely... wanted someone there to love her.. care for her.. But however she couldn't find that someone.. BUt she found you.. As time goes by, if she really find her MR RIGHT.. She will go for that guy and eventually break up with you.. Would wan to see this situation take place and being hurt deeply???
Secondly, why bother to win her love back.. Since all the while her heart wasn't with you right from the start.. Meanwhile she's searching for her PRINCE and come and pick her up.. I will rather you to find another who will appreciate your love in return! Arent you "Yi Xiang Qing Yuan". In the end if both are not together.. You will be the one being hurt.. she will be happily with the one she loves..
Do some soul-searching and ask youself whether is worth doin all this to someone who cant be bother with you.. Whether you are her bf or not... it doesn't even matter... To her.. you are jus someone who can rely on for the time being... Would you prefer to see her happy always with someone she likes.. or to see her being so unhappy with someone she's doesn't love at all..
You got the physical side of her.. but you never capture her heart and emotions..... Think it through.. All the best to you!!!!
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hmm...
I guess there are 2 sides to it.. had a friend who was kinda dumped. Even though we all told him to forget it, he still persevered and although nothing is certain, the girl is at least still willing to see him...because she is that important to him, he is willing to suffer (in a way) cause he plays 2nd fiddle to her friends. But he is happy in his own way.
I've been down that road before, and its just really painful. Liking a girl so much, yet knowing that you are never as important to her as she is to u. Hence after that I've taken a more relaxed approach to relationships. Have confidence in yourself, know what you are worth. If she doesn't like you for who you are, then what makes you think that she is going to learn to like you? Its a possibility, but its a gamble. If u don't feel really comfortable around her, or are constantly trying to impress her or find something to talk about/say just to keep the conversation going, then maybe she's not for you. If however you guys are fine, its just the matter of you wanting her more than she wants you, then turn inwards.
Its a funny thing, but I've found that girls place more importance to personal traits (in guys) such as confidence, power, personality, and humour. Build up your confidence and your communication skills-go out there and let your hair down, relax and have fun, stop worrying so much about what pple think of you or what kind of image you project. Learn to laugh at yourself more, and let people laugh with you.
Girls can sense these things. As long as there is a reason for her to respect and look up to you, she's going to come back to you..at that time, it will be for you to decide if u still love her the same way. -
thank for the advice pals out there.... but i guess i still like her a lot.
I even tell her that am not getting much from her in the sense of care, love....
It so sad to love someone that doesnt love u back. but i think it part of lives... anyway, i had hardened my heart... i will leave her since i had a strong feeling i will be the one that suffer in the ends...
some say true love is about giving nad not expecting back anything...
i wonder how true it is maybe i have not find a true love yet... but i believe u will be much more happy if both parties love and care for each other. It take 2 hands to clap....
It been many days since we last contacted..... hope i will be strong and don made the same mistakes of calling her again... then i will be soft-hearted again and everything will be back to square one...
bless her... -
Originally posted by blowfish:
some say true love is about giving nad not expecting back anything...
Not always necessarily true....
i wonder how true it is maybe i have not find a true love yet... but i believe u will be much more happy if both parties love and care for each other. It take 2 hands to clap....
It been many days since we last contacted..... hope i will be strong and don made the same mistakes of calling her again... then i will be soft-hearted again and everything will be back to square one...
bless her...
You CHOOSE what you want.... What you GIVE.... How MUCH of you are you willing to 'INVEST'....? -
blowfish, where is hootie?
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roflol..lame...yet still funny!
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who? me? gee thanks...Originally posted by gred:roflol..lame...yet still funny! -
no...hootie!!!
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hootie and the blowfish ah...hahaha...i wonder why he/she choose that nick....so cute...Originally posted by gred:no...hootie!!! -
yup totally agree with u . although sacrifice is part of it but the other party must reciprocate ur feeling and thing that u do for her. she must appreciate what u have done for her or else will be like she treat u like a fool.Originally posted by jell_o:Yes,i agree that love is about sacrifacing but sacrifice happily. It's like sacrificing your beauty sleep and wake up early to buy her breakfast and she gives a smile in return. From her smile you can see that she appreciates you and you feel happy from it.
But love is not about sacrifacing everytime, giving ur gf/bf watever you have. There will be one day, whereby you realise that you have nothing left...only an empty shell and a broken heart.. -
yup that's the way.wish u all the best and good luck.hope that u will find someone who love u the way u areOriginally posted by blowfish:thank for the advice pals out there.... but i guess i still like her a lot.
I even tell her that am not getting much from her in the sense of care, love....
It so sad to love someone that doesnt love u back. but i think it part of lives... anyway, i had hardened my heart... i will leave her since i had a strong feeling i will be the one that suffer in the ends...
some say true love is about giving nad not expecting back anything...
i wonder how true it is maybe i have not find a true love yet... but i believe u will be much more happy if both parties love and care for each other. It take 2 hands to clap....
It been many days since we last contacted..... hope i will be strong and don made the same mistakes of calling her again... then i will be soft-hearted again and everything will be back to square one...
bless her... -
yup that's the way.wish u all the best and good luck.hope that u will find someone who love u the way u areOriginally posted by blowfish:thank for the advice pals out there.... but i guess i still like her a lot.
I even tell her that am not getting much from her in the sense of care, love....
It so sad to love someone that doesnt love u back. but i think it part of lives... anyway, i had hardened my heart... i will leave her since i had a strong feeling i will be the one that suffer in the ends...
some say true love is about giving nad not expecting back anything...
i wonder how true it is maybe i have not find a true love yet... but i believe u will be much more happy if both parties love and care for each other. It take 2 hands to clap....
It been many days since we last contacted..... hope i will be strong and don made the same mistakes of calling her again... then i will be soft-hearted again and everything will be back to square one...
bless her...