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I always have a thought that my bf still love his ex more than me. Because his ex was his most love before he met me. He could'nt get over the relationship until one year later when he knows me. I can't help it but thinks that i am not as gd as her. Whenever he hears sad songs about bgr, i will think that hes thinking of her..
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Well, try not to think so much. The more you think the more confuse you will get. Like you said it's only what you thought it might not be true. How you know that you are not as good as her. Everyone has their strong point. She may be better than you in some way but you will have strong point too. If he really still can't forget about his ex-gf, the more you have to treasure him because this show that he is a very good guy. Different people take varies time to forget their previous relationship. If what you say is true, give him some time. If that's his first gf you have to forgive him. Because i think everyone's FIRST LOVE is the sweetestOriginally posted by Sunshine08:I always have a thought that my bf still love his ex more than me. Because his ex was his most love before he met me. He could'nt get over the relationship until one year later when he knows me. I can't help it but thinks that i am not as gd as her. Whenever he hears sad songs about bgr, i will think that hes thinking of her..
can someone tell me what to do?
Even for me if happen that i can still get back together with my first gf(provided not attach), i will treasure her. After saying so much, my conclusion is to treasure your bf because he is a good guy from the way you describe and don't think so much because your thinking might not be true. Jumping to wrong conclusion and thoughts might lead to some unessary quarrel. Last but not least, treasure what you have. You have found yourself a gem. 
rgds
vksg -
mi think u think too much liao....Originally posted by Sunshine08:I always have a thought that my bf still love his ex more than me. Because his ex was his most love before he met me. He could'nt get over the relationship until one year later when he knows me. I can't help it but thinks that i am not as gd as her. Whenever he hears sad songs about bgr, i will think that hes thinking of her..
can someone tell me what to do?
girl, luv is something veri profound... wish u all the best
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Originally posted by vksg:
I agree here...
Well, try not to think so much. The more you think the more confuse you will get. Like you said it's only what you thought it might not be true. How you know that you are not as good as her. Everyone has their strong point. She may be better than you in some way but you will have strong point too. If he really still can't forget about his ex-gf, the more you have to treasure him because this show that he is a very good guy. Different people take varies time to forget their previous relationship. If what you say is true, give him some time. If that's his first gf you have to forgive him. Because i think everyone's FIRST LOVE is the sweetest Even for me if happen that i can still get back together with my first gf(provided not attach), i will treasure her. After saying so much, my conclusion is to treasure your bf because he is a good guy from the way you describe and don't think so much because your thinking might not be true. Jumping to wrong conclusion and thoughts might lead to some unessary quarrel. Last but not least, treasure what you have. You have found yourself a gem.
rgds
[b]vksg[/b]
I oso wanna add more points b4 some "ppl" sees da q & give their essay of advices... ^_^'''
His ex is his ex, U r U. Dat simple... never COMPARE wif others... it will only make U feel more inferior... be yrself, focus more on yr "abilities" & cherish him... Coz no 1 is exactly da same... -
There is only one thing to do and you should do: FInd some good time and communicate with him.Originally posted by Sunshine08:I always have a thought that my bf still love his ex more than me. Because his ex was his most love before he met me. He could'nt get over the relationship until one year later when he knows me. I can't help it but thinks that i am not as gd as her. Whenever he hears sad songs about bgr, i will think that hes thinking of her..
can someone tell me what to do?
You have to make him realise one thing: Everyone is unique, you can't and WON'T be like her ex. If he can't accept the fact that you have your own positive and negative characteristic - then two words 'Forget it'
Think that you are not good as her? Then ask him to go after her lar - then why stick with you right? Why? cannot get her and still needed someone? Selfish nature of men?
Everyone's memories and experiences is different and it must definitely be kept and not thrown away. However, when it has reached to a point where he is holding himself back to the past - a past where he knows there is no future though. Furthermore he has a girlfriend - which is a decision he must start considering about her welfare and feelings, instead of someone who is distant away.
Advice?
Talk to him in a calm and firm tone. Remember, its not asking her to forget, rather its asking him to move on. Well, if the talk wasn't effective at all - I suggest giving him some period of time. Tell him, when he has the courage to make a decision and to move on, then tell you. If not, don't bother contacting you at all, because he hasn't sort himself well yet.
P.S: Just for fun: He is a Taurus, Leo, Scorpio or Aquarius? *Accuracy not guaranteed*
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Hi Sunshine08,Originally posted by Sunshine08:I always have a thought that my bf still love his ex more than me. Because his ex was his most love before he met me. He could'nt get over the relationship until one year later when he knows me. I can't help it but thinks that i am not as gd as her. Whenever he hears sad songs about bgr, i will think that hes thinking of her..
can someone tell me what to do?
I think you too over-sensitive about such things.. If you are really worried and this matter keeps on circling around and haunting you always.. Talk to him... This is only what you think..
What makes you so sure that his ex was his most love?? He told you or is jus a wild guess from yourself?? He got over that previous relationship for 1 year.. be cos he needed time to readjust his own life and move on with it.. and of cos let himself rest for sometime before getting on to another relationship.. And then he found you.. Dont doubt his feelings for you.. You need to trust him.. and have confidence in him..
You think that he listens to sad songs means he's thinking of his ex.. But do you really know?? You think you can read his mind?? Maybe he waas thinking about you all the while.. the happiest moments you guys spend together or the times where you all quarrel real hard..
Don't compare yourself with her ex.. NOone can be exactly or be like another person.. Even twins are different!! Everyone is unique in a way.. You can't make yourself like his ex.. be like his ex.. and try to act like one.. Be yourself.. he likes you for who you are... Not someone who can be like his ex or watever... He loves you, cares for you... You are definitely worthy for him.. This is jus a minor thing in every relation.. You can talk it out with him if you really feels so uncomfortable..
Maybe for his assurance you will feel much better.. And even if he really think of his ex.. it was all past.. Its only the memories that is kept in his head.. and he sometimes jus think it back.. This happens to everyone... These are good memories to be kept.. "Huai Nian" Got nothing to do whether his ex is good or better than you... IF she's really that good.. then why arent they still together now?? Noone is perfect!! God is always fair to us..
You need to communicate with him.. Tell him about this.. and ask those that has haunting you throughout.. Listen to what he has to say.. Try to more considerate.. Dun hold him too tight till he cant breathe.. Take time slowly.. This isnt any big problem.. Soon when you have all those unsolved questions that have been answered.. move on and lead your life..
Try not to think of such things again.. Well i know sometimes you cant help it.. but try not to worry on silly stuffs.. It will make the relation worse if you always have those kind of feelings in yourself.. ANd your confidenct level will drop slowly.. Keep your mind clear.. Keep yourself occupied so that you would think of it anymore..
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i always feel that it is perfectly alright for a gal to sometimes feel insecure and want some re-assurance from the guy. nicely confide in him lor. i'm sure he would appreciate you sharing your feelings with him. if he become impatient,
hwahliewz... i really don't know what to say, man. -
hehe alright...thanks ppl...
i will try to not think so much -
faith, hope, love and trust.
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what is love?WHAT IS LOVE?
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Love is... when you have lost the whole world or during difficult times, you bear no grudges for you both know you are already contented with only having each other and need nothing more. Only then, you know you have experienced love. It's this kind of undescribable feeling. Only you and him can sense this mutual feeling... It's like a sense of bonding.
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First Love is something that everybody wouldn't 4get.Originally posted by Sunshine08:I always have a thought that my bf still love his ex more than me. Because his ex was his most love before he met me. He could'nt get over the relationship until one year later when he knows me. I can't help it but thinks that i am not as gd as her. Whenever he hears sad songs about bgr, i will think that hes thinking of her..
can someone tell me what to do?
Cause it's so pure and true. Let it be man, it's another facts about life. -
you think too much. He may not be thinking about her anymore. And he may not be comparing you with her. So, don't think that, unless he admits it himself (which means you have to talk to him about your uncomfortable feelings about this). He needs to know what is on your mind too.Originally posted by Sunshine08:I always have a thought that my bf still love his ex more than me. Because his ex was his most love before he met me. He could'nt get over the relationship until one year later when he knows me. I can't help it but thinks that i am not as gd as her. Whenever he hears sad songs about bgr, i will think that hes thinking of her..
can someone tell me what to do?