i am introverted. is it?
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I rarely socialise. i am comfortable with that. Sometimes i feel sad when i see facebook friends who had many friends already and often meet up.
during those times, i can get lousy about myself.
in general , i am not bothered about it. but i do realize the need to reach out more and socialise more with people for practical and natural reasons.
I feel that i can be very interesting person, and confident of myself but usually in social setting, i am not able to fufil my potential. I just at most answer one liners... or i feel that i cannot or dun want to click with the person in the social setting.
kinda complciated, is not it?
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january,
you seem to have a lot of issues.
you think too much. dont pyscho-analyse everything.
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u dun seem comfortable in your own skin. I dun have many regular hang outs with frens, no cool hang out place. Just my own family, a couple of coffeeshop chats with friends here and there and I'm very happy.
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i am comfortable with myself. but because i know that i should find a few good friends still so that is why i know that being alone alot of time is not right. so have to change myself such that i have a few good friends.
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no you are an extrovert who just have not found a good way to go full;-extrovert yet.
youant to be out there, yet due to your inability (yet) to reach out you now envy the pro-extroverts who can so crazily hang out.
full-true-introverts will not ponder on their status and wish to turn extrovert.
in fact introverts won;t bother or post stuff like that exnvying an extrovert and wishig to be one.
so to TS, whoa re you actualy, what you want to be inor ex?
PS: All thanks to meeting Miss Saturday and reading her blog entries everyday he managed to enlighten an old man like me 50yrs odld about the terms introvert and extrovert and its perfectly normal to be either one or in-between.
HUAT ARH!
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I think i am worse woh...i hardly hang out with friends....prefering a hermit lifestyle...frankly i have never see anything wrong with that woh...when come to socializing...i have no problem at all, able to mingle around with stangers if needed....but end of the day i still prefer to be left alone especially during weekend....good thing is i come from a extremely well to do family...so i can do whatever i want with my life....and best of all i stay by myself, life has never been better for a hermit like me...FLEX...one thing i learn from life lesson is that no matter what lifestyle you lead end of the day important is you are happy.....><"
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Oh ya...did i mention i only have 8 friends on facebook....lololol
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Originally posted by january:
I rarely socialise. i am comfortable with that. Sometimes i feel sad when i see facebook friends who had many friends already and often meet up.
during those times, i can get lousy about myself.
in general , i am not bothered about it. but i do realize the need to reach out more and socialise more with people for practical and natural reasons.
I feel that i can be very interesting person, and confident of myself but usually in social setting, i am not able to fufil my potential. I just at most answer one liners... or i feel that i cannot or dun want to click with the person in the social setting.
kinda complciated, is not it?
You better than us lor...at least you got Feb, march, april, may, june, july, august, sept, oct, nov and dec as your buddies, we got nothing.anyway, since the IT age, socialisation is a pass
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y overstress urself over this? frens come n go...wat u need is a wife not a fren. go find a wife nNOW
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TS,
To compare oneself to another is an insult to oneself and one would never feel ok and hence the misery.
It is also disrespectful of oneself. How to relate, how to live - one would never feel fufilled.
One who is always comparing oneself is most likely to compare another. It is so very undignifying and the insidious effect of such a stance woud certainly affect the ... in so many ways.
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great analysis fugazzi. I've noticed ur advice is always likely to hit the nail on the head.
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some people will classify you as diao geh (hokkien - proud)...
moreover, only for practical reasons that u open mouth....or jus reply 1 liner or dun even answer at all if u feel that person is not your type ....could send wrong signal that u r real one kind....not introverted one kind...but rather proud peacock kind...
anyway, its ok....if u r sincere about it...whether or not....its your true self...u choose what u want to be...
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atypical of sg gals.....but of course if u r real chio bu....perhaps thats the reason..
lol
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Originally posted by january:
I rarely socialise. i am comfortable with that. Sometimes i feel sad when i see facebook friends who had many friends already and often meet up.
during those times, i can get lousy about myself.
in general , i am not bothered about it. but i do realize the need to reach out more and socialise more with people for practical and natural reasons.
I feel that i can be very interesting person, and confident of myself but usually in social setting, i am not able to fufil my potential. I just at most answer one liners... or i feel that i cannot or dun want to click with the person in the social setting.
kinda complciated, is not it?
Not complicated at all. You deserves to be alone if you only can answer one liners and you seems happy about it when you mentioned "I just at most answer one liners..."You realised you need to socialise to survive in the world, but you don't wish to take the first step.
Actually you already know what to do and you just need to change to do it.
Nobody can help you if you don't want to help yourself first.
We can only help you AFTER you have told us what you have done to help yourself.
Otherwise, keep on waiting and I don't care to feed your attention-seeking topic.
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they are they and you are what you are. this helps your mind at bliss, when you feel troubled.
if you want to be like them, yet you can't be like them ... you acknowledge it.. ppl are of different personality and capability ... (1) cheerful mentality , crack a joke (2) talk from simple things and talk nonsense ...hahahaha.. (3) share yourself and curious about others.. (4) share your topic of interest.. facts + bullshit lolololol. In the end, who you define as friends. what is your objective. what do you hold dear emotionally.. and blah blah..
and then if you go one step further .... ahhhh my gosh ..... goal, meaning & emotion are all made up... all things are made-up... made-up by yourself.. how you feel and how you think... then it is doom day or the day after tommorrow....hahahaha.
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Hey January , if you don't mind you can go to the singles club and look out for future outing. You can join us ! (:
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Originally posted by maxsee:
I think i am worse woh...i hardly hang out with friends....prefering a hermit lifestyle...frankly i have never see anything wrong with that woh...when come to socializing...i have no problem at all, able to mingle around with stangers if needed....but end of the day i still prefer to be left alone especially during weekend....good thing is i come from a extremely well to do family...so i can do whatever i want with my life....and best of all i stay by myself, life has never been better for a hermit like me...FLEX...one thing i learn from life lesson is that no matter what lifestyle you lead end of the day important is you are happy.....><"
You are guy or girl? How old?
Working or not working?
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try to make more friends, friends are great things in life :)
try to find a clique to hang out with, dont always stay at home!
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Originally posted by Leirbag-gb:
try to make more friends, friends are great things in life :)
try to find a clique to hang out with, dont always stay at home!
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Originally posted by dechang:
You are guy or girl? How old?
Working or not working?
pls use pm
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Friends are no use believe me. I am also like you dont like to talk to people. Remember, in this world, the ONLY person you could trust is yourself. You cant believe in others, remember the world is EVIL. Okay intro or extovert is all okay. You are just who you are no need to envy others lead a good life. Okay recommend you a good song. Note that it's a chinese song :http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G4_hhPM-6RU
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Me guy..late 20s....cheez does "Max" even sounds like a girl name....o btw i am working....management position in the corporate world....i dun like to socialize coz like i say i prefer a loner lifestyle but when it comes to socializing i have no problem at all...end of the day i am happy with it.....and with what i have today....anytime i want a gf it is definitely not a problem for me...just tat i still prefer to keep to myself....Free like a bird.
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you may be an isolated animal in your past live, lives and eat in solitude, like the tiger and cheeta.
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Originally posted by evolutiondiva:
Hey January , if you don’t mind you can go to the singles club and look out for future outing. You can join us ! (:
thanks for ur constructive comments.