I'd been backstab by my bf's sister!!
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Haiz...when i first knew my bf's sister, We got along well. Slowly, we became best frenz who can confide everything. To cut short, from the beginning, she had already backstab me to her relatives. She told them I very lazy, eat already dunno how to wash dishes, always use my bf's money, a materialistic girl, flirt around with other guys... which EVERYTHING she say is not true!!! How i know this?? Cos my bf's another sister told me. EVen my bf dunno about it. I treated her very nice..buy her things, give her money when she dun have, listen to her when she was sad, but all these are not being appreciated. I dun even know why she backstab me. Everyone who treat her nice, she will say their bad things behind their back. She say everyone except her own bf. Even she say bad things about her auntie and own sister. I can't stand this type of person!!! Now everyone dislike me except her another sister cos she know she is that kind of person. But their relatives all dislike me.I can't do anything cos I'm afraid that it might affect my relationship with my bf. But how can i protect myself when I can't stop her from backstabbing me?? I really dunno what to do. Pls help!!!
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Go n tell ur BF bout it ..Atleast he knows wat's happening before hand then he knows everything at last mintues n also if he support his sister more,then u die liao !!!!!!!!
So u better go n tell 1st la,at least he knows ur innocent !!!!! -
Yes, inform your bf as soon as possible before he's totally swayed by his sister.
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better to tell yr bf fast and best if u can let him hear it personally.
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i bet your bf sis is quite young and must be jealous of u for some reasons. when girls get jealous of each other, wa lao......usually is so damn GONE CASE 1.......u need to change your image in front of your bf sis, or u can make your bf sis realize what she thought of u as wrong lor depending on her maturity level. but overall, it is easier said than done. prove her that she is wrong, action speaks louder than words
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wah.. so evil...
yah lor.. tell ur bf lor.. at least he knoes wats happening n will defend u when needed... if he is sensible, he'll not let his sis affect ur r/s... good luck! -
Originally posted by marshmallow:
It could just some people's natural character or her level of maturity...? Of course there could also be more complicated reasons but we're not going into the issues here as they're not really related for now....
[b]Haiz...when i first knew my bf's sister, We got along well. Slowly, we became best frenz who can confide everything. To cut short, from the beginning, she had already backstab me to her relatives. She told them I very lazy, eat already dunno how to wash dishes, always use my bf's money, a materialistic girl, flirt around with other guys... which EVERYTHING she say is not true!!! How i know this?? Cos my bf's another sister told me. EVen my bf dunno about it. I treated her very nice..buy her things, give her money when she dun have, listen to her when she was sad, but all these are not being appreciated. I dun even know why she backstab me. Everyone who treat her nice, she will say their bad things behind their back. She say everyone except her own bf. Even she say bad things about her auntie and own sister. I can't stand this type of person!!! Now everyone dislike me except her another sister cos she know she is that kind of person. But their relatives all dislike me.I can't do anything cos I'm afraid that it might affect my relationship with my bf. But how can i protect myself when I can't stop her from backstabbing me?? I really dunno what to do. Pls help!!![/b]
1. What you know about her? How do you find out that she's who ya described her to be? Are your sources reliable?
2. Since she likes to BACKSTAB EVERYBODY, it should make her gossips relatively unreliable to the ears of others. You should not worry too much for now as you've mentioned that whatever she've said about you is UNTRUE. Action speaks louder than words and light shall prevail one day. HOWEVER, sometimes there're just some 'stupid factor' in humans. ie. some of them believe in gossips easily. So....
3. Your bf should know what is going on. Don't require him to take action or confront against his sister, but just knowing that such a case exist would put things slightly to your advantage. As for his relatives, just be who you are... You can't please everybody... If you can please them GOOD FOR YOU... If ya don't, they probably might not even buy it from you no matter how good you are.....?
~good luck!
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Originally posted by marshmallow:
Dear marshmallow,
[b]Haiz...when i first knew my bf's sister, We got along well. Slowly, we became best frenz who can confide everything. To cut short, from the beginning, she had already backstab me to her relatives. She told them I very lazy, eat already dunno how to wash dishes, always use my bf's money, a materialistic girl, flirt around with other guys... which EVERYTHING she say is not true!!! How i know this?? Cos my bf's another sister told me. EVen my bf dunno about it. I treated her very nice..buy her things, give her money when she dun have, listen to her when she was sad, but all these are not being appreciated. I dun even know why she backstab me. Everyone who treat her nice, she will say their bad things behind their back. She say everyone except her own bf. Even she say bad things about her auntie and own sister. I can't stand this type of person!!! Now everyone dislike me except her another sister cos she know she is that kind of person. But their relatives all dislike me.I can't do anything cos I'm afraid that it might affect my relationship with my bf. But how can i protect myself when I can't stop her from backstabbing me?? I really dunno what to do. Pls help!!![/b]
I know that rumors hurt but rumors are malicious pieces of false information and you have to ignore them.
In your heart, you know that what's going around is a bunch of lies. As long as you know, that is the most important part. As for your bf's sister, as much as it hurts to acknowledge the fact, if she was really working well to gel with you, she would be working to support you not aiding in the spread of lies. I think that you should confront her and tell them how hurt you feel that she would go against you.
I know that having a bf with a close-knit family is hard since everyone knows everyone, and I know this is easier said than done, but you have to have pride in yourself, and keep your head high. Eventually, rumors fade away and things get back into the normal groove
Its good to know that at least you have your boyfriend supporting you and that you are not completely lonely.The best way to solve this is to ask your bf's sister to meet you somewhere and ask your boyfriend to tell her that all those rumors that she is believing in are not true and that she is jealous of your bf's attention since she is his sister and is trying to spread all this kind of rumors. I am sure that once your boyfriend talks to her, she will definitely believe him and that way you will have all your trust back. You can also try to talk to her about this problem and if she is unwilling,ask your boyfriend to talk to her because many times, people tend to believe others and they dont actually believe the one who is close to them.
It takes some time, but usually things turn out for the best. In the meantime, take comfort in your bf and your family and take care of yourself. Keep your head high, and ignore the thoughts of others. take care and hang in there.
Cheers
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Originally posted by marshmallow:
Dun worry... IF she is REALLY dat "kuan" har... & never change... I can tell U: She won't be happy in da future. Rest assured... she WILL be da 1 suffering in da end...
[b]Haiz...when i first knew my bf's sister, We got along well. Slowly, we became best frenz who can confide everything. To cut short, from the beginning, she had already backstab me to her relatives. She told them I very lazy, eat already dunno how to wash dishes, always use my bf's money, a materialistic girl, flirt around with other guys... which EVERYTHING she say is not true!!! How i know this?? Cos my bf's another sister told me. EVen my bf dunno about it. I treated her very nice..buy her things, give her money when she dun have, listen to her when she was sad, but all these are not being appreciated. I dun even know why she backstab me. Everyone who treat her nice, she will say their bad things behind their back. She say everyone except her own bf. Even she say bad things about her auntie and own sister. I can't stand this type of person!!! Now everyone dislike me except her another sister cos she know she is that kind of person. But their relatives all dislike me.I can't do anything cos I'm afraid that it might affect my relationship with my bf. But how can i protect myself when I can't stop her from backstabbing me?? I really dunno what to do. Pls help!!![/b] -
hate girls like these. damn b!tches.
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come on... be more civilised.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:hate girls like these. damn b!tches.
post her hp number here or better still post it to Sammy Boy's Forum... guarantee she will haf no time to come disturb u.
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pinch her breasts
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If your boyfriend is good and sincere to you, tell him directly. There is nothing to be afraid. If you boyfriend gets angry, then that simply shows that he have no concern of you.
Originally posted by marshmallow:
[b]Haiz...when i first knew my bf's sister, We got along well. Slowly, we became best frenz who can confide everything. To cut short, from the beginning, she had already backstab me to her relatives. She told them I very lazy, eat already dunno how to wash dishes, always use my bf's money, a materialistic girl, flirt around with other guys... which EVERYTHING she say is not true!!! How i know this?? Cos my bf's another sister told me. EVen my bf dunno about it. I treated her very nice..buy her things, give her money when she dun have, listen to her when she was sad, but all these are not being appreciated. I dun even know why she backstab me. Everyone who treat her nice, she will say their bad things behind their back. She say everyone except her own bf. Even she say bad things about her auntie and own sister. I can't stand this type of person!!! Now everyone dislike me except her another sister cos she know she is that kind of person. But their relatives all dislike me.I can't do anything cos I'm afraid that it might affect my relationship with my bf. But how can i protect myself when I can't stop her from backstabbing me?? I really dunno what to do. Pls help!!![/b] -
This is my 1st part of the story... 2nd story coming up
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I thought you've already typed a 2nd part to it...?Originally posted by marshmallow:This is my 1st part of the story... 2nd story coming up -
Where is the second story?Originally posted by marshmallow:This is my 1st part of the story... 2nd story coming up