Originally posted by Fugazzi:Make it known to her about your feelings about how stultifying it is for you. However, remember that it is your feelings and you own them. She is merely an excuse and what u are is surfacing: it is reaction from within you. Blaming her is unfair. However, letting her know that she has to assume responsiblity for her insecurities (emotions/feelings) is of paramount importance. She is unwittingly imposing them on you. Hence the misery!
Changing another person never works but changing onself works. Change your behaviour and she would sooner or later get the message(s).
PS ; To stay in a marriage/relationship when one is unhappy onself is making it worse. To deny oneself to be , to express what one is and comporomise spells the death knell of any ....
Look around, many are beggarly within themselves but pretend to give what they themsleves dont have. How can two ... whp are beggarly in love give. It it at its best a mutual benefit scheme (scheming!) and at its worse exploitation of another to fulfil oneself in terms of needs/expectations.
One always assumes that falling in love is with another - the reality is that of one projecting one''s image withing oneself and that of love; of another around that person. It is illusory. Imagine both in the same predicament. Is there a need to go on and elaborate, elucidate?
Aye..so true....
Iwannabehappy and his wife.. they are in a competition.
Whoever can make the other prove their love more, be the winner.
"You will do this for me, because you love me."
" You will comply, because you love me."
Demanding to be "loved".
This is sad. How can there be bliss ?
ya sista, someone said, "Love can be a mental illness disease" dun fall for it.