No friends
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Serving my national service and now currently on course means I get to go home once a week (same as bmt)
Usually I would like to go out on the weekends but I have no friends to go out with
Am I really that detestable? -
Just want some suggestions how to make new friends
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check out for outings posted in sgforums... not only aunt agony, but others as well.Originally posted by The Den:Just want some suggestions how to make new friends -
hi, u're not the only one whois suffering, i've got lots of camp mates who are suffering the same fate. Seems like they have either lost contact with their friends or they are too busy working etc.... maybe u can try meeting up ur course mates for dinner or movies?Originally posted by The Den:Serving my national service and now currently on course means I get to go home once a week (same as bmt)
Usually I would like to go out on the weekends but I have no friends to go out with
Am I really that detestable? -
That time happen to me also. Everybody so tired how to go out? haha.. Relax amico.
Unless you tell me you really don't have friends.
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it's lidat one, my circle of friends also shrunk liao after I step into the society. Think army also the same lor. Dun worry, the fact that you know how to ask whether you are detestable or not already make you not detestable
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Dear the den,Originally posted by The Den:Serving my national service and now currently on course means I get to go home once a week (same as bmt)
Usually I would like to go out on the weekends but I have no friends to go out with
Am I really that detestable?
Having lots of friends can either be a boon or bane to you. First of all, ask yourself why do you think everyone hates you or devoid of any friends? Perhaps you are just being too selfconcious and you need to work on your self esteem. And I know what you're thinking *easier said than done
! But I understand! I went through it all through secondary school. I would be afraid people were laughing at me, staring at me, etc. I finally said that this is ridiculous and if people can't accept me for WHO I am, then they're not worth it and they're either jealous, or have low self esteem themselves and are feeding on other people just like themselves
Having lots of friends can be something good because you can share any sad or happy feelings you have with them. You can lim kopi together
and watch movies together. Your charisma can considerably increase as time goes by. Not to brag, but i enjoy my popularity in and outside school tremendously not because i possess looks that many people die for but because i dare to make friends Thats what you should have. The dare to befriend strangers.
One bad thing of having friends is the ability of malicious rumours and incidences of backstabbing spreading among your circle of friends. This may cause a strife among u and your friends and may even cause cold shoulder treatment amongst u and them.
Tell yourself that you're pretty, funny, caring, talented, think about a special skill you got that makes you smile, think about a fun time you had when you were little, anything that will let you smile and tell yourself that you ARE a liked person! And if you have friends that are constantly treating you bad, I know it's hurtful but you need to either stick up to them, or distance yourself from them and hang out with other people. One of the hardest lessons in life is that friends come and go in our life and sometimes we just have to let go and move on.
Cheers -
How abt dis, da next time I got outing wif frens here. I invite U... wan? May not be much, but at least U can make new frens...Originally posted by The Den:Serving my national service and now currently on course means I get to go home once a week (same as bmt)
Usually I would like to go out on the weekends but I have no friends to go out with
Am I really that detestable? -
Invite me also leh...Originally posted by loneryu00:How abt dis, da next time I got outing wif frens here. I invite U... wan? May not be much, but at least U can make new frens... -
Sure! But mine not as often as "The Sians"...Originally posted by sunny6110:Invite me also leh...
U go the forum "The Sians" got outings weekly... -
I am also starting to be the same as you.
For my case, I can go back everyday after NS work at 5 something. but work also on satuday till 1pm.
so very difficult to keep in touch with friends. -
Thanks alot! I'll really appreciate thatOriginally posted by loneryu00:How abt dis, da next time I got outing wif frens here. I invite U... wan? May not be much, but at least U can make new frens... 
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Ok I have about 3 male friends to hang out with.... 2 of them very busy... one is nsf.... same as me...Originally posted by Parka: That time happen to me also. Everybody so tired how to go out? haha.. Relax amico.
Unless you tell me you really don't have friends.
True lar Saturdays are tiring but that's the case.... no one to go out with...
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Consider yourself luckyOriginally posted by sgboy:I am also starting to be the same as you.
For my case, I can go back everyday after NS work at 5 something. but work also on satuday till 1pm.
so very difficult to keep in touch with friends.
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Its not got no friends I believe - its the time located to social life is very much greatly reduced. Well, as you grow older, the time you can spend lurking around at kopitiam, etc gets less. Your friends have their own life, have their own job, have their own partners to settle - this leave very little space for social gathering.Originally posted by The Den:Serving my national service and now currently on course means I get to go home once a week (same as bmt)
Usually I would like to go out on the weekends but I have no friends to go out with
Am I really that detestable?
For a start, maybe if you wish to go out during da weekends, plan ahead and contact possible potentials.
But if you are speaking as if you don't have anyone to call - then I suggest picking up a hobby or interest. As you pick up an interest or hobby - you will tend to meet people. Start from there. Some people goes religions basis - attend churches, gatherings, etc, some people learn Jazz, etc etc.
When you want to get to know people - you have to take the effort to start somewhere. If you don't take the first step - how are you going to walk a mile?
Cheers -
y not use wkend as the time to rest??..after a tiring wk of training..
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can get any1 from here to orgainse a outing then u join in lor....
sure can make alot of frens wan.... summoore ppl here are freindly and funny.... -
Originally posted by weeeeeee.....:check out for outings posted in sgforums... not only aunt agony, but others as well. " Hey, what happened to your old nick?
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Go on irc #sgforums. You will see the same group of us being actively talking in the channel. Take part in the conversations and get to know people. At the same time, join the forum outingsOriginally posted by The Den:Serving my national service and now currently on course means I get to go home once a week (same as bmt)
Usually I would like to go out on the weekends but I have no friends to go out with
Am I really that detestable?