How to survive as a loner in school
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dude, just start hanging out with girls....any girls. The girls would not have the heart to recject anyone.
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Yea. That is right. I was kinda forced to dropout due to my illness...
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Its ok to be a loner in school.
However are you being true to yourself? Do you really avoid social interaction with people or are you just incapable of interacting with people and using this loner term as an excuse.
To survive as a loner you need to be true to yourself. Understand that being a loner is not socially accepted in mordern day society. You will DEFINATELY be scrutinise by people who practise or what they call the modern day social etiquette of society.
Alot of people have misconception of being what a loner is. Often it is mistaken as arrogance or retardation or even incompetance(since teamwork is critical criteria in the working aspect). They get the impression that loners are people who don't speak out at all, have poor communciation and such. All which maybe untrue. Because there are loners who seperate their professional lives with social lives. When its time to work, they bring their A game and perform and after work they go back to becoming the loner selves. You will have alot to prove and even then people aren't that willing to accept someone that is different. Some will even try to convince you that you're mentally sick and you need help but in actualy fact, they're the retards for not understanding that each and every one of us are unique individuals and it is through circumstances and experience that lead and guide us to become who we are.
Since you're alone, you don't really have anyone who you can explain to. Only to yourself. So you really really really need to understand where you're coming from because by being true to yourself you will avoid of unnecessary conflict with yourself. Sounds ironic isnt it but it true. Because as a loner, people will gossip about you and even stir rumours up all which you're defenceless since you have no one to step up for you but yourself. There are loners who fail to accept themselves and get greatly affected by these gossip mongers and then they start hating themselves for being loners.
You need alot of confidence, to stand up for youself to accept who you are. You need to convince people that being a loner is what YOU what. It is something of choice and not circumstances. It is your choice to be a loner and not because society has outcast you and hence u become the loner that you are.
Basically you need to toughen your mentality. Don't be shy or afraid to step up for your rights. if you feel you're being treated unfairly then voice out. Also be accepting of others if you want people to accept you. Have an independant mind set. Don't be a push over. Learn your rights, you rights in society and the right to be the unique individual that you are.
Just some difficulties you might face as a loner in school
- No one picks you for group project and you're left hanging by yourself and then embarassingly the teacher has to assign you to a group.
- No one inform you of the latest updates in class schedule/project/deadlines.worksheets
- Idiots who try to convince you that you're sick and depressed when actually you're not
- Emotionaly bullying, mental bulling, probably from idiots who have a wide circle of 'friends"
- Embarassement when nobody sits beside you in class and you find the surrounding seats along your row to be empty.
- Peopl who fail to acknowledge your existance even thou you're there.
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wa,
so long winded, TS better remain as loner -
Originally posted by Ice kosong:
its OK to be a loner, just focus on yr study, u dun need ppl to push u about
learn to say "NO"
Dun follow tis riftrat advice. If u wanna end up unemployed loser wif diabetics n weight problem like Ice Kosong, u must be outward n socialise.Dun be a loser like Ice kosong.
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Treat this as a learning life experience.
When you are out working, settle down with family, you will not be a loner.
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ya, as a learning curve, once bitten, twice shy, but if you are to fall into it again,,that will be stupidity
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I will try my best! It is do or die.
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Originally posted by Benedict_89:
I will try my best! It is do or die.
Good Luck! -
Originally posted by Benedict_89:
I will try my best! It is do or die.
Good luck, Jia you. -
Originally posted by Benedict_89:
I will try my best! It is do or die.
it is do or re do, never say die one. PDCR, Plan, Do, Check, Redo -
Originally posted by Fcukpap:
AIYO......JIANI.........TIME TO ASK PEOPLE ON SPELLING U DUN ASK...GO POLY U KEEP QUIET AND SPELL WRONGLY
dun bully me :(((((( -
meow~~
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Originally posted by Benedict_89:
Hey all. As the title suggests, how do I survive as a loner in school?
I was a loner and an outcast in JC. As you could imagine, I was totally ostracised by my schoolmates/classmates and was greatly affected. My grades went down hill and was finally down with depression. I was then kicked out of school because of my illness.
I do not like to talk much, but I always try my best in conversation and making new friends.
I finished serving NS and am waiting for school (Poly) to start. I am afraid the same thing would happen again. Please help.
To be successful in life, you need EQ and IQ.
It is no use to have high IQ when your EQ is low.
You need to learn how to deal wif people n how to make alliances.
Make friends is very important part of life. Don't be afraid, go out there and try.
Next time in working place, you will need to demonstrate your ability to succeed not only by working hard and efficient but also knowing how to influence and lead people.
I have a Malaysian uncle who only have primary school education but is a successful construction magnate, housing developer and oil palm estate owner. Why? Not because he was good at his studies but it was because he knows how to make friends and business contacts. He worked his way up from a poor guy to a rich guy.
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Originally posted by Bo|2eDtoDeath:
Its ok to be a loner in school.
However are you being true to yourself? Do you really avoid social interaction with people or are you just incapable of interacting with people and using this loner term as an excuse.
To survive as a loner you need to be true to yourself. Understand that being a loner is not socially accepted in mordern day society. You will DEFINATELY be scrutinise by people who practise or what they call the modern day social etiquette of society.
Alot of people have misconception of being what a loner is. Often it is mistaken as arrogance or retardation or even incompetance(since teamwork is critical criteria in the working aspect). They get the impression that loners are people who don't speak out at all, have poor communciation and such. All which maybe untrue. Because there are loners who seperate their professional lives with social lives. When its time to work, they bring their A game and perform and after work they go back to becoming the loner selves. You will have alot to prove and even then people aren't that willing to accept someone that is different. Some will even try to convince you that you're mentally sick and you need help but in actualy fact, they're the retards for not understanding that each and every one of us are unique individuals and it is through circumstances and experience that lead and guide us to become who we are.
Since you're alone, you don't really have anyone who you can explain to. Only to yourself. So you really really really need to understand where you're coming from because by being true to yourself you will avoid of unnecessary conflict with yourself. Sounds ironic isnt it but it true. Because as a loner, people will gossip about you and even stir rumours up all which you're defenceless since you have no one to step up for you but yourself. There are loners who fail to accept themselves and get greatly affected by these gossip mongers and then they start hating themselves for being loners.
You need alot of confidence, to stand up for youself to accept who you are. You need to convince people that being a loner is what YOU what. It is something of choice and not circumstances. It is your choice to be a loner and not because society has outcast you and hence u become the loner that you are.
Basically you need to toughen your mentality. Don't be shy or afraid to step up for your rights. if you feel you're being treated unfairly then voice out. Also be accepting of others if you want people to accept you. Have an independant mind set. Don't be a push over. Learn your rights, you rights in society and the right to be the unique individual that you are.
Just some difficulties you might face as a loner in school
- No one picks you for group project and you're left hanging by yourself and then embarassingly the teacher has to assign you to a group.
- No one inform you of the latest updates in class schedule/project/deadlines.worksheets
- Idiots who try to convince you that you're sick and depressed when actually you're not
- Emotionaly bullying, mental bulling, probably from idiots who have a wide circle of 'friends"
- Embarassement when nobody sits beside you in class and you find the surrounding seats along your row to be empty.
- Peopl who fail to acknowledge your existance even thou you're there.
Tip:
If nobody sits next to you. You have to voice up and say "Why nobody sitting next to me?"
That will bring attention to everybody and perhaps a kind soul would consider you.
Next, dress well, comb your hair and make sure you are neat and tidy. This would exuberate confidence and make you feel better about yourself.
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it's realistic in singapore, there is always a motive to making more friends in schools, make more friends in case u need their help in schoolwork in society, befriend and bootlick the wealthy and influential people so that they can share with you their secrets to success and wealth in workplace, make more friends so that they will rate you highly in peer appraisal to boost your chance of promotion why do we need to make more friends? the reason : we want to be successful in life
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Not really, some, in fact most frens wants to see you die, so making enemy is better than making frens, cos frens can be your worst enemy.
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Originally posted by Benedict_89:
Thanks for all the advices!! I'm feeling a bit stress now. Haha. Anyway, I don't really want to disclose too much information about NS and which Poly I'm going to. I don't want to be tracked down!! Lol.
I know some of the mistakes I made in JC for me to end up like this.1) I was a god damn nerd, with nerdy hair, pimple face (have changed my hair style, pimple problem is at least 80% gone). 2) I do follow my classmates for lunch, but I never ate anything... 3)There was a period of time when I kind of isolate myself to concentrate on my studies (Bad move). 4) I joined other CCA that was not school based.
1 thing I did right, I was and still is, quite fit too. In fact, I'm one of the fittest in the class!! As for looks, I don't know, average I think? I'm not muscular, but I'm fit, no tummy and got packs! lol.
perhaps you are unsure of the real problem why you were a loner.
having pimples and nerdy hair is no reason for ppl to shun you, and even if you're not fit but you have a great personality ppl would want to befriend you. there's a guy in my class who is overweight and has some pimple scars on his face but the whole class is friends with him, simply because he's fun to be with.
as for lunch, may i ask you why you're not eating?
anyhow, i think personality is the most important thing. this is not to say that you've had a bad personality in the past, but rather, i think that you were afraid to let your true self shine through.
also, self-confidence is important. when in a situation that you're unsure of, keep your head high and dont show any sign of you losing confidence. of course, you shouldn't be arrogant but you should always be confident of yourself.
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Originally posted by No_10_Tomas:
it’s realistic in singapore, there is always a motive to making more friends
in schools, make more friends in case u need their help in schoolwork
in society, befriend and bootlick the wealthy and influential people so that they can share with you their secrets to success and wealth
in workplace, make more friends so that they will rate you highly in peer appraisal to boost your chance of promotion
why do we need to make more friends?
the reason : we want to be successful in lifethere is some truth in your view, but only to a certain extent, in my opinion.
the world is not as pessimistic as that, ' true friends ' really do exist, and they are the few friends that would belp you when you need it, without expecting anything in return. and not everyone makes friends with ulterior motives.