GF wants to be alone?
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Wow...haven't been here in awhile...
Well...lots of things have happened during the past yr...crashed my car, lost my job, most painful of all, lost my girl, who claims she doesn't feel the same way she did about me before and that she just doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment and wants to be alone. And she's just giving up what we have built up over the past 6 yrs just like that? Sigh...it's been 3 months now...and I still can't get over it... How can that be? She says that she doesn't have anyone else... I've tried all I can to win her back...but failed miserably...sigh... -
hello lightspeedOriginally posted by Lightspeed:Wow...haven't been here in awhile...
Well...lots of things have happened during the past yr...crashed my car, lost my job, most painful of all, lost my girl, who claims she doesn't feel the same way she did about me before and that she just doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment and wants to be alone. And she's just giving up what we have built up over the past 6 yrs just like that? Sigh...it's been 3 months now...and I still can't get over it... How can that be? She says that she doesn't have anyone else... I've tried all I can to win her back...but failed miserably...sigh...
perhaps you cld read the thread titled "break up" which i started.... it's been 3 mths since i broke with my ex, and well there are always times when i get hit by all these nostalgic feelings, wanting to get back with him and all (even though he was the one who initiated the breakup). but then i asked myself, do i really want him, or do i just miss having a relationship?
and yes, i do understand how it feels when there's no third party and your other half simply doesn't feel for you in that way anymore. i know how much it hurts and possibly how much you can't bear to let go and walk away. but 3 mths is quite some time already, and if she hasn't responded favourably, do yourself a favour and try to move on... 6 years is a long way, and i'm sure you guys had many happy memories together. but just as even couples who have been married for more than 20 years can end up in divorce, love can go quite quickly too. treasure the good memories, but don't dwell too much on the past. -
Your story is quite similar to mine but your relationship with her is 6 years. My ex broke off with me after 2 and a half years of being a loving friends. I myself enjoyed letting her see all my successes and touched by her support through my failures.Originally posted by Lightspeed:Wow...haven't been here in awhile...
Well...lots of things have happened during the past yr...crashed my car, lost my job, most painful of all, lost my girl, who claims she doesn't feel the same way she did about me before and that she just doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment and wants to be alone. And she's just giving up what we have built up over the past 6 yrs just like that? Sigh...it's been 3 months now...and I still can't get over it... How can that be? She says that she doesn't have anyone else... I've tried all I can to win her back...but failed miserably...sigh...
I broke off with her last month and I suffered. The pain in you is 2 times more unbearable than mine as yours was a 6 years relationship. At the moment, I can understand you are encountering problems and seriously need her support to help you go through the difficultities you are facing. There is deep emptyness in our heart and refusing to believe that it is happening. However don't forget there is your friends and family right by your side when you are in trouble. They are the ones who can provide the warmth of love. -
gosh.. it must have been hard on u for the past few months... I do empathise wif u, esp when u tried all ur means to win her back but to no avail.. that's the worst blow I suppose... Even I would have come to the end of my wits if I have been thinking of ways to walk by my ex's side.Originally posted by Lightspeed:Wow...haven't been here in awhile...
Well...lots of things have happened during the past yr...crashed my car, lost my job, most painful of all, lost my girl, who claims she doesn't feel the same way she did about me before and that she just doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment and wants to be alone. And she's just giving up what we have built up over the past 6 yrs just like that? Sigh...it's been 3 months now...and I still can't get over it... How can that be? She says that she doesn't have anyone else... I've tried all I can to win her back...but failed miserably...sigh...
But like wat Jazmyn says life have to move on... u did wat u can for her. u did all u can for the r/s.. u did well.. u even understand her even when she says that she wants to be alone... U give her the time and things that she wanted... that's rally very nice of u.. But have u tot for urself?? Is life going to hang there for u.. the grass will grow, and flowers will bloom, whether u r there to notice it. but I sure hope that the plants will bear fruits in the end.
In my opinion, ur gf is still not that matured in a long term r/s. Becoz in a LT r/s, a r/s will turn blend, it will be close to a marriage. things things will not be as happy and as enthusiastic as before... But show her that u care... show here that all these yrs though much have change, but ur love for her, ur care showered upon her has never dwindled... Maybe a couple of proof to show a LT r/s will happen this way, but show it to her where the destination will be... I think she needs some reassurance.. Coz 6 yrs wif out any progress will be something worrying, esp to a girl. Maybe u can birng in ur parents or haer parents into picture, saying that no matter how long they have bene together, they sill love each other. Moreover I dun think, parents will still say 'I love you' to each other nowadays.. but u can be sure of their feelings and love for each other.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
Hate to admit it also but when a person had a change of heart, be it a guy or a gal, there's very slim chances of going back together.
Can understand you are going thru a rough time, cos i am going thru part of what had happened to you. Terrible yr, the yr 2000, so lets hope that 2001 will be much better. But to be frank also, there's nothing much we can do, esp since you tried in vain for the past 3 mnths to win her heart back. 6 yrs is definitely a looooong time, and i am sure it will take you mnths or a yr or 2 b4 u actually forget abt her.
Give yrself some more time to forget abt her, and at the meantime, keep yrself occupid by getting a new job and work hard. I am sure you will feel better if you are able to recover part of yr losses such as getting yrself a new car etc. It will not help totally but it can cover part of the pain you are going through now.
Regards
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Whats the point of it all?
I've tried in vain for the last few months...
things have changed she claims...maybe she thought that she loved me back then...how could she say such hurtful things....
We were planning to get married...now she's telling me she can never imagine me as her hubby? I call her...I sms her..she says I'm harassing her... I just feel so devasted... sigh -
I also wanted to marry her in a few years times but things did not worked out as planned. Just to tell you are not alone in this world. Relationship can take very big turns due to many reasons like quarrels, difficult situations,tireness...etc.Originally posted by Lightspeed:Whats the point of it all?
I've tried in vain for the last few months...
things have changed she claims...maybe she thought that she loved me back then...how could she say such hurtful things....
We were planning to get married...now she's telling me she can never imagine me as her hubby? I call her...I sms her..she says I'm harassing her... I just feel so devasted... sigh
Well, all I can said is that you should try to calm down and don't talk to her for a couple of days. Maybe right now, she's angry with you over some matters or just don't want to see or talk to you. Once both of you are ready to talk it out and understand the root of the problem you both are facing.
If it is turn out the same, just try to face it like a man. Good Luck to you.
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"A relationship is like a rose,
How long it lasts, no one knows;
Love can erase an awful past,
Love can be yours, you'll see at last;
To feel that love, it makes you sigh,
To have it leave, you'd rather die;
You hope you've found that special rose,
'Cause you love and care for the one you chose." -
I thin u r still in the denial stage... U can't believe all the things that have happen to u. Maybe there's just too much for u to take, and I understand that some pple just find it hard to react to all the things that are happen ard them, esp when it all happened in abt the same time.
however, I think u shld try to calm urself down... Maybe u will say that u haf already cooled off, but inside u, ur emotions are still mixed up. Perhaps u can tr thinking to solve a problem one at a time... Seeing them as a seperate thing. For instance, for mur car wat will u do.. Think of all the things that u can do abt ur cars, and proceed on to another. I know u r asking for assistance to wat has happened to ur gf. however, ur denial to clear off ur mind is the main problem.
Sorryz if I'm wrong or has been harshed, but this is wat I perceived from the way u reply.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
I assume u hve establish a career for urself as well as a path now seeking to enjoy the journey with her? I understand. Do u think you can help me in my path? I'm on a money making urge. No girls for me. HEY GUYS ABOVE 21 AND WHO IS STRIFING TO EARN MONeY UNITE AND DRINK TO OUR HEARTS CONTENT? HW ABT IT?Originally posted by Lightspeed:Wow...haven't been here in awhile...
Well...lots of things have happened during the past yr...crashed my car, lost my job, most painful of all, lost my girl, who claims she doesn't feel the same way she did about me before and that she just doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment and wants to be alone. And she's just giving up what we have built up over the past 6 yrs just like that? Sigh...it's been 3 months now...and I still can't get over it... How can that be? She says that she doesn't have anyone else... I've tried all I can to win her back...but failed miserably...sigh... -
sorry to hear tis but preharps u shld try to kinw more frenxs to get tis painful time over..i nt saying u 4get her coz it nv easy wen u & her been so long together but if reli feelings hv die...it difficult 4 her 2 b wif u...Originally posted by Lightspeed:Wow...haven't been here in awhile...
Well...lots of things have happened during the past yr...crashed my car, lost my job, most painful of all, lost my girl, who claims she doesn't feel the same way she did about me before and that she just doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment and wants to be alone. And she's just giving up what we have built up over the past 6 yrs just like that? Sigh...it's been 3 months now...and I still can't get over it... How can that be? She says that she doesn't have anyone else... I've tried all I can to win her back...but failed miserably...sigh...
but still mayb nw she feel sianz but giv her sum more time mayb she will hv feelings 4 u again...well u shld knw in a long term relationship,dat the so called high wave & low wave... mayb nw she in 1 of the low wave... anyway juz tk gd care & gd luck
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Originally posted by Lightspeed:Sigh...it's been 3 months now...and I still can't get over it... How can that be?
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I've tried all I can to win her back...but failed miserably...sigh... -
How ya doing buddy boy...?Originally posted by Bear:I thin u r still in the denial stage... U can't believe all the things that have happen to u. Maybe there's just too much for u to take, and I understand that some pple just find it hard to react to all the things that are happen ard them, esp when it all happened in abt the same time.
however, I think u shld try to calm urself down... Maybe u will say that u haf already cooled off, but inside u, ur emotions are still mixed up. Perhaps u can tr thinking to solve a problem one at a time... Seeing them as a seperate thing. For instance, for mur car wat will u do.. Think of all the things that u can do abt ur cars, and proceed on to another. I know u r asking for assistance to wat has happened to ur gf. however, ur denial to clear off ur mind is the main problem.
Sorryz if I'm wrong or has been harshed, but this is wat I perceived from the way u reply.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
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