why don't parents understand their children?
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dun understand why parents are so stubborn..they only choose to see things from wat they believe in..and tiems haf changed why can't they juz open up and try to communicate better wif their children ?
i think for me..its the age difference... my parents are got married in their 30s....and i was born in their late 30s...haiz...
when i wanted something so badly that i beg them for months to buy...why can't they juz get it for me? instead of asking me to prove myself by getting gd academic results...now that i proved myself...i was rude to them once..then they say there's no way they are gonna buy for me anything which i want. why can't they juz farking buy the thing and at least i got the thing i want and will be contented and i will not keep thinking of ways to get it..then i can concentrate on my studies? i dun understand them..they dun understand me... when i tried to tok to them..we will end up quarreling.. what shd i do? -
Well.that happens in my house hold too.Well,they are the ones who brought us up and i think we should not argue back if they sound right,but if they are unreasonable,talk to them instead of shouting
Try to smooth talk them and maybe who knows you could get what you want.Or worse come to worse Save for the things you want to buy.=)
This is a phase in teenage life.We just have to confront it. =)Don't be so hush to them i think they also have their difficulties.
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ChIcKeN FeEt Soup
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I understand how u feel. It's similiar in most households. But first thing first before I go directly into ur problem. Maybe u haf not seen it, but to get a good education is for urself and not for them. U have to live ur future on ur education standards, but ot them. They haf already lived for themselves. Maybe in a way they wanted u to learn that doing well in ur academic results must not have a reward for it. Ur own future is ur reward. Good education likely = to good job. At least u will not have to slave urself away in some labourous work.
Another thing is that when u mention that they dun understand ur feelings or y can't they open up rite?? Y can't u think their words to u?? they do live in a different kind of time period, but it means that likely they will possess their own thinking. Even then, each is an individual?? we haf our ways of thinking as well.. when we say we can't understand other pple, likely is that we are also stubborn with our own ways too. If not, y would we regard other pple as stubborn.
As to buying things that u like or u wanted veyr much, Haf u ever tot of saving it up rather then asking ur parents to get them for u?? It will be more treasured by u too. Be it be just a walkman, which is already pretty out-dated, but to u it will mean a lot to u, becoz u haf save it up thru' mths of endurance. Furthermore they will not be able to deny u from buying, becoz it's ur own money that u haf suffered the mths.
I'm sorry if u are really pissed off after reading my reply, but I think it's worth the while to consider pple's feelings and reasons too... Becoz normally we are blinded by our own emotions and thinking. Even now, I believe u muz be thinking that I'm also blinded by my emotions when I'm replying. But hey, it's a big NO, becoz I'm also face with such problem when I was younger too. These are ways which I can equally tackle problems, not being just looking at one straight line.
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
Jasmine ar...Relac a bit lor *Huggies*
I cannot give you much advice as I also facing lots of problemz....
*Sobz*
Let's Go play Cs Or Quake together leh...yesterday you and lordy left E-games so fast....
No wait for meeeeeee....
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hehzOriginally posted by Ferret:Jasmine ar...Relac a bit lor *Huggies*
I cannot give you much advice as I also facing lots of problemz....
*Sobz*
Let's Go play Cs Or Quake together leh...yesterday you and lordy left E-games so fast....
No wait for meeeeeee....
*HmRf*
thanks!
that day also no pple..sian mah...then i hafta go somewhere else..so we left early lor
aiyar..this topic i can never win lar..cos they are the one who brought me up..wat can i do? never mind..i lose i lose... -
same case here, but well, wat can we do? give in lo....
they nag, keep quiet lo.......
just keep quiet bout everything. may not be the best way out, but it worked for me lo.
as in, everything just keep quiet. only answer when really need be. den they cannot scold u for nothing me, den won't argue oso...
ask for something, ask as politely as possible lo, and oso make sure the past few days, u've been on ur best conduct. den can talk terms ma.....hee~
ah, nono, dun learn my ways. i'm most prolly teaching u to go bad. =)) -
Sorry.. maybe my words were a little harsh... Hey maybe if u wanna say the incident here to ease the load off ur mind... pls do so... think we will be happy for u to share ur experience with us. At least I will be....Originally posted by b4by3Lit3:hehz
thanks!
that day also no pple..sian mah...then i hafta go somewhere else..so we left early lor
aiyar..this topic i can never win lar..cos they are the one who brought me up..wat can i do? never mind..i lose i lose...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
You're definately not alone in all this, my parents have been nagging at me for so long, and i used to ask them for a walkman or receiver etc. Eventually after a few years i got it, But my daddy, after a couple of years, took it to his own advantage and borrowed it from me until it no longer became mine. That terribly sucked didn't it ?
They often nag that i spend too much time on the computer... i find that right, but there's just nothing to do sometimes. They just don't understand that i can't just take a book and study.
But *sighs* they're our parents after all and we just have to understand that studying is our first priority. Maybe after when we grow up, they'll give us the space we need. grow up = above 21 -
yeah......i agree wif the topic sometimes....or rather most of the times.... but let's face it, we r still under the 'control' of them...that is if u r still below 21....... so, i guess let's juz tahan lor..... this is to prevent any outcomes that might be worse.... personally, i juz keep quiet when they nag or complain.... unless i m in a damn bloody bad mood... but i juz cannot stand it when they keep nagging u to study, not have too much fun etc... any suggestions to keep their nagging at bay??
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thanks bearOriginally posted by Bear:Sorry.. maybe my words were a little harsh... Hey maybe if u wanna say the incident here to ease the load off ur mind... pls do so... think we will be happy for u to share ur experience with us. At least I will be.... -
do we really hafta wait until 21 before we really get our freedom?
well...i think for my case..i hafta wait until a later age...haiz..
cos i'm the only child...they still treat me as little girl...haiz...
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r u really that eager to get your freedom? Don't think u will continue to think that way when u goes out to work. By gaining your freedom, u had far lot of other things to worry abt? Although u can get the things u wanted by working and earning money yourself, u won't had such leisure life as a student now. Don't b rude to your parents, think of how they raised u up and although they may treat u badly, they r stil the ones who brought u up, if u really feels troubled, talk to your friends, u must have some bosom friends(zhi ji) whom u can confide your troubles to. Whatever the case, study hard now and who knows what is holding for uin the future, agreed?
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
Originally posted by mikegk_76:r u really that eager to get your freedom? Don't think u will continue to think that way when u goes out to work. By gaining your freedom, u had far lot of other things to worry abt? Although u can get the things u wanted by working and earning money yourself, u won't had such leisure life as a student now. Don't b rude to your parents, think of how they raised u up and although they may treat u badly, they r stil the ones who brought u up, if u really feels troubled, talk to your friends, u must have some bosom friends(zhi ji) whom u can confide your troubles to. Whatever the case, study hard now and who knows what is holding for uin the future, agreed?
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Anyway, now is exam period already, concentrate on your studies first and worry later, all the best to your exams...
Anytime u wanna chat can ICQ me at 62617763
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
sheesh...thanks thanksOriginally posted by mikegk_76:Anyway, now is exam period already, concentrate on your studies first and worry later, all the best to your exams...
Anytime u wanna chat can ICQ me at 62617763 -
so materialistic go sell your chee bye lor, earn your own money then can buy anything u want already, no need ot bed no need to pass exams, good hor?