Originally posted by Angelicia:
Recently i just got together with a guy whom i had known for quite long then...one day my sister n i went to orchard n i bumped into him...he was holding another ger hand..n he acted as if he don't know me n jus walked down the escalator.I am just in a dilemma n.. i rushed in to the toilet n burst into tears...luckily my sister was with me if not i wouldn'd know wat to do.I called him a few mins later n asked who was the ger with him n he replied mi saying "I know u saw me this was jus a close fren of mine."N this day is actually deepavali.. Any guys out there would hold another ger hand when u got a gf already n would u date another ger instead of your gf on holiday??Would u care to explain to your gf wat exactly happened? I am feeling feeling very down now.I am having my O's next week n yet this kind of shit actually happenned to me.Ps give mi some advice.Should i leave him?
I do empathise wif u... having to see the person u love to be betraying u... It's really a terrible thing to happen especially when ur examz are round the corner... Can't understand how u feel.. How confuse u are at this moment...
Going straight to the point... I haf to admit that ur bf is actually double dating.. Coz no guy will ever hold the hands of another ger when walking, no matter how close they are... In fact in my point of view, whether a guy has gf or not he shld not be holding a fren's hands. Moreover, if u put urself in the ger's position, I dun think u will let a fren to hold ur hands too rite?? Hence it's natural that if u r holding hands that means both of u will haf some r/s. Even when a guy ask a girl out on a one-to-one basis, the 2 will not hold hands... The answer is pretty obvious.
Well abt the going out wif ur gf on a holiday part.. I think in ur bf's view, he is going out wif his gf on a holiday. Sadly his real gf is not u...
However, in another situation where both pple are true to each other, it does not mean holiday, u will be spending time with each other... Of coz sometimes it means that either one could be spending time with one's frens, be it male or female, even alone on a one-to-one basis.. coz I believe both shld haf their own personal time, for themselves or wif their frens.
If I'm caught in such a situation, I will explain to my gf with the other girl by my side immediately. It's the very least that I shld be doing in that kind of position. I mean it's a natural thing to do, in order not to haf my gf misunderstood me.
Sorry I will be very direct here, coz I think u need something to kick him out of ur mind. In ur case, I think it better for u to leave him. totally cut off from him, coz he is just making use of u.. either u as the spare or betraying ur feelings... Furthermore, from the fact that he did not even call u to explain or even turn round to give his statement shows how much he cares for u...
This kind of guy.. can throw him away... Com'on u deserve someone better... Someoen who treats u well... someone who respects u... Not him. I dun see any of such qualities in him... Show him that u can stand on ur feet without him. he's just another passing cloud in ur life... hua bei fen wei li liang, divert all ur attention now on ur studies... that's mroe important... show it to him that even when such a thing happen, it will not hinder ur studies. Prove it to him, he is nothing to u... That should be that way..
Well, if need someone to console, can always get me at '
[email protected]' or icq me at '19569168'. be willing to lend u from ear to shoulder.
All the best for ur 'O'... concentrate on it. And forget abt him. this sort of pple best if his other gf also leave him... teach him a lesson to be a nice gentleman...
Sorry if my words are too harsh.. but I just want to u froget abt him and the matetr.. coz hecan't get u anywhere to be a successful person in life...
take care...
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