Should i give him a chance in this state?
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Recently i just got together with a guy whom i had known for quite long then...one day my sister n i went to orchard n i bumped into him...he was holding another ger hand..n he acted as if he don't know me n jus walked down the escalator.I am just in a dilemma n.. i rushed in to the toilet n burst into tears...luckily my sister was with me if not i wouldn'd know wat to do.I called him a few mins later n asked who was the ger with him n he replied mi saying "I know u saw me this was jus a close fren of mine."N this day is actually deepavali.. Any guys out there would hold another ger hand when u got a gf already n would u date another ger instead of your gf on holiday??Would u care to explain to your gf wat exactly happened? I am feeling feeling very down now.I am having my O's next week n yet this kind of shit actually happenned to me.Ps give mi some advice.Should i leave him?
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Well just my personal view,
FIRST of all, Him ignoring you when you saw him indicates that he desired the other girl more than he for you (that is why he pretended not to know you at all)
SECOND, him giving an excuse on the other girl as a good friend.. *LAME*
Concentrate on your papers and forget about this chap, may be easy to say but involve yourself in the preparation of papers..
*You just started with him anyway* -
I do empathise wif u... having to see the person u love to be betraying u... It's really a terrible thing to happen especially when ur examz are round the corner... Can't understand how u feel.. How confuse u are at this moment...Originally posted by Angelicia:Recently i just got together with a guy whom i had known for quite long then...one day my sister n i went to orchard n i bumped into him...he was holding another ger hand..n he acted as if he don't know me n jus walked down the escalator.I am just in a dilemma n.. i rushed in to the toilet n burst into tears...luckily my sister was with me if not i wouldn'd know wat to do.I called him a few mins later n asked who was the ger with him n he replied mi saying "I know u saw me this was jus a close fren of mine."N this day is actually deepavali.. Any guys out there would hold another ger hand when u got a gf already n would u date another ger instead of your gf on holiday??Would u care to explain to your gf wat exactly happened? I am feeling feeling very down now.I am having my O's next week n yet this kind of shit actually happenned to me.Ps give mi some advice.Should i leave him?
Going straight to the point... I haf to admit that ur bf is actually double dating.. Coz no guy will ever hold the hands of another ger when walking, no matter how close they are... In fact in my point of view, whether a guy has gf or not he shld not be holding a fren's hands. Moreover, if u put urself in the ger's position, I dun think u will let a fren to hold ur hands too rite?? Hence it's natural that if u r holding hands that means both of u will haf some r/s. Even when a guy ask a girl out on a one-to-one basis, the 2 will not hold hands... The answer is pretty obvious.
Well abt the going out wif ur gf on a holiday part.. I think in ur bf's view, he is going out wif his gf on a holiday. Sadly his real gf is not u...
However, in another situation where both pple are true to each other, it does not mean holiday, u will be spending time with each other... Of coz sometimes it means that either one could be spending time with one's frens, be it male or female, even alone on a one-to-one basis.. coz I believe both shld haf their own personal time, for themselves or wif their frens.
If I'm caught in such a situation, I will explain to my gf with the other girl by my side immediately. It's the very least that I shld be doing in that kind of position. I mean it's a natural thing to do, in order not to haf my gf misunderstood me.
Sorry I will be very direct here, coz I think u need something to kick him out of ur mind. In ur case, I think it better for u to leave him. totally cut off from him, coz he is just making use of u.. either u as the spare or betraying ur feelings... Furthermore, from the fact that he did not even call u to explain or even turn round to give his statement shows how much he cares for u...
This kind of guy.. can throw him away... Com'on u deserve someone better... Someoen who treats u well... someone who respects u... Not him. I dun see any of such qualities in him... Show him that u can stand on ur feet without him. he's just another passing cloud in ur life... hua bei fen wei li liang, divert all ur attention now on ur studies... that's mroe important... show it to him that even when such a thing happen, it will not hinder ur studies. Prove it to him, he is nothing to u... That should be that way..
Well, if need someone to console, can always get me at '[email protected]' or icq me at '19569168'. be willing to lend u from ear to shoulder.
All the best for ur 'O'... concentrate on it. And forget abt him. this sort of pple best if his other gf also leave him... teach him a lesson to be a nice gentleman...
Sorry if my words are too harsh.. but I just want to u froget abt him and the matetr.. coz hecan't get u anywhere to be a successful person in life...
take care...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
Thanks for teaching mi so much things.I really would want to get him off my mind...I am just too timid...I wanted someone that i luv to luv me...as i had him i dun dare to give him up...til tat day i saw with my own eyes that he's actually using mi as spare tyre...when he's bored he would just asked mi to accompany..i would go n care for him no matter wat time even if it's late at night.I would just rush down when i am half asleep.I guess now...i probably have to think abt my exams.Thanks again
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good ger, at least u still got some sense in u..thanks god!!!!...
now u better dun think of anything, just study hard for ur O level..all matters just put to rest at the moment...
good luck for ur O level......
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Now that's my good girl... Glad to hear that u are recovering rather quickly.. Maybe it's the harsh truth, that made u surface to reality again... But it's good to hear from u that u are on the track again.
I understand that we are always in search for someone to love us and to care for us, be it girls or guys. However, sometimes Things just always straight for us. We just have to encounter some experience to grow up in life... Take it as a lesson learnt.. But dun take it too seriously, to the extent of not having faith in guys anymore, though I understand too, that it will take quite sometime for u to recouperate. But look on the bright side, not all guys are like such.. Still got plenty of guys out there, who deserve of ur love and care... and will love u back as much or even more.
Let it past and forget it. Tomorrow is another fresh new day.. The sun rises with a big smile in ur direction.
Ming Tian Hui Gen Hao
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
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hm...i think b4 u know him is he a flirt???
ai yahz.....i think he and tat girl really got one 'leg' lorz....why must hold hands??????i advice is to give him another chance if u really luv him....tat's is nothing u can do if u are really in luv with him....
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well all i can say is that he's a real jerk.
and i truly hope that u'll dump him and tell everyone that he's such an asshole and embarass him totally among his friends.
studies are more important than this stupid idiot. just think .... your O results will affect your job future !! please work hard !!
and i'm sure u wont be lonely for the rest of your life.
after exams, its time to go out, have fun, meet new people, get to know others better.
sure got chance one !!
anyway i also never got asked out romantically until i was 18, but hey.... love is a thing worth waiting for.
no point jumping into a relationship just because u just want someone there for u. -
Yes ruthie i am the angel tat u know...well now when i have replied u..U are already in Australia with banana n ling...Hai~ leaving me alone here
hm...well neber mind i still got alot of nonsense to do keke....i had dumped him already lor...i felt nottin towards him...maybe i had really threw my heart into the dustbin liao...well u guys njoy n if u guys happen to c my msg in australia ...call me leh!!!I miss u guys leh especially my lovely sister ling kekeke..well njoy n...dun forget my present i wan big big one lor buaiz -
yup meowmeow....me now concentrating on my O n i had met...alot of new frens.....i still feel abit of inferior towards guys but...i try to be strong ekeke :0 Thanks for replying everyone I had regain my confidence hm..maybe we shall come out for a kopi? Kekeke how abt tat? erm....if possible email me at [email protected] to tell mi whether u guys keen to meet up anot lor..
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No platonic friendship would go to the extent of holding hands and walking on the street, unless
1) The female friend is blind.
2) She is only 8 yrs old.
Other than the above 2 reasons, I couldn't really think of any others.
My advice: DUMP THE DODO!! U deserve someone better.
U know Ling18 and Ruth|E too?? I think they mentioned about u before at Mr Bean last month. Don't worry. Take care and all the best to your 'O's!!
PS: Simi si 'O' Level ah?? :p -
Angelicia:
Well... Good to hear some positive attitude from u... I can understand that it must haf been a tough time in ur life.. to juggle so many things at a time.. but heyz... now u can tell ur frens how strong and tough u were.. No guys can bring u down...
Oh yah.. u feeling inferior to guys arhz?? then u r feeling inferior to me lorz.. then better not meet u for kopi liaoz.. heehe.. if not u wun be sitting in front of me but hiding under the table or something... he ehee...
Good luck for ur 'O's.. All the best!!!
Larry: Ur theory abt holding hands is very interesting, but very true too...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
Hi,
I think you should just forget about this guy. To think that he just told u that it is a close friend of his. Holding hands is not so simple as close friends. To think he even ignore you. Concentrate on your 'O's because that is more important. The boy is just toying your feelings. Listen to my advice and there are tons of good, faithful guys outside a million times better than him. Don't ever think of giving him a chance even he comes back begging u to forgive him.
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Well, I am speaking from experience.Originally posted by Bear:Angelicia:
Well... Good to hear some positive attitude from u... I can understand that it must haf been a tough time in ur life.. to juggle so many things at a time.. but heyz... now u can tell ur frens how strong and tough u were.. No guys can bring u down...
Oh yah.. u feeling inferior to guys arhz?? then u r feeling inferior to me lorz.. then better not meet u for kopi liaoz.. heehe.. if not u wun be sitting in front of me but hiding under the table or something... he ehee...
Good luck for ur 'O's.. All the best!!!
Larry: Ur theory abt holding hands is very interesting, but very true too... -
Heehee Larry i have seen u so far 2 times..I think u might have forgotten..Er...i always with lingling tat time at takashimaya u saw me too one..
keke Well thanks for giving mi your experience lor...I have learnt my lessons hehe find better guys er...but not at the moment SO SIANz hehe if got bf i wouldn't be able to go gai gai with lingling liaoz kiakS....Well take care then
As For Windcloud...Thanks for advicing me I know tat i am not gonna take him back even if he wans to return to me...Me abit tired of all these nonsense liaoz lor..kekeke....