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hello i am 18/m
juz break up with my gf but cannot get over her can someone give me advice to forget her? -
What can i say, hmmm...... it take some times b4 u can forget her, no matter what we say now don't think can help you much. But of cos, we r here to lend a listening ear. Maybe spilling it out will make u feel better.
Or, try to make yrself concentrade on other things like work or studies. Or do something u really wanna do for a long time but haven't have the chance to, such as go for a tour or do some sports u long wanted to do but never have chance to.
Like i say, only time will heal yr wounds. At the meantime, learn, and it will make u a stronger man eventually.
Regards
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i have take abt 3 month liao leh.....Originally posted by Atti:What can i say, hmmm...... it take some times b4 u can forget her, no matter what we say now don't think can help you much. But of cos, we r here to lend a listening ear. Maybe spilling it out will make u feel better.
Or, try to make yrself concentrade on other things like work or studies. Or do something u really wanna do for a long time but haven't have the chance to, such as go for a tour or do some sports u long wanted to do but never have chance to.
Like i say, only time will heal yr wounds. At the meantime, learn, and it will make u a stronger man eventually.
Regards
i try to do many things
my temper become very bad sia
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u noe, u could try taking a deep breath when u actually feel ur temper rising. =) if not, u could also try drawing a big smiley face on some place that u'd actually see everyday, n remind urself that whenever u c tt smiley face, u'd actually smile at it.
so, everyday rite, b4 ur day starts, smile at it, n at the end of the day, give it a little smile. =) ok, tt was crap. but do try it lo. =) -
i think some pple just take longer than others to get over certain sad events in their lives, be it the death of a loved one, or a break up.
but remember not to let it weigh you down - living in the past may be easier, but do look and realise that so many things lie ahead of you, especially at 18.
good luck
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Try listen to Robbie Williams "Better Man". Hope it will make you feel better...
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"A relationship is like a rose,
How long it lasts, no one knows;
Love can erase an awful past,
Love can be yours, you'll see at last;
To feel that love, it makes you sigh,
To have it leave, you'd rather die;
You hope you've found that special rose,
'Cause you love and care for the one you chose." -
care to tell us wat happen?? coz u dun just forget this/that person that easily.. esp he/she crossed ur life and been wif u so closely... Understand that it's hard to forget, but slowly it will go.. Just think back a couple of mths ago, isn't the feeling worse than wat u r having now?? I dun think it's the same... Yes, i agree that maybe u still have her on ur mind, that I cannot deny, but I believe the degree has drop slightly... Yes u still recall the places that u have been together... but I believe that the memories are fading... U feel hurt, u feel sad it's normal.. but I'm certain that u are getting better. I can't possibly ask u to forget, and *click* the next thing u r in able to accept another person again.. this is not life. It wun be called emotions... Who dun wish the downhill side of our lives to end earlier?? but the thing is the slope is it's just a momentary thingy.. maybe yours is longer than the other, but it will surely come to an end.
I believe that maybe this is ur first r/s or maybe it's ur first proper r/s in ur life... that's y u get so affected by it... but cheer up.. take it as a lesson learnt.. learn wat hap to it.. change if u really think that it's a liablilty... LEarn to accept the unforeseen character of a girl..
Meanwhile take care.. and get to know other pple.. Not asking u to get another girl, but just mixing ard.. maybe convert the feeling to ur work and play.. Do some volunteering work to change ur temper...
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how bad you are affected is determined by how much you love that person. and how much both of you had been thru. how much effort both of you had put in. how much time you try to squeeze in so as to see each other for a longer while. how many ideas that only the both of you share, solely belonging to the both of you.
i never knew i would feel so weak this time, despite having warned myself that this is probably not going to last.
i have become bad tempered too. i stare at little clay figurines of a wedding couple and i feel like saying 'f*** you' again and again.
i feel terrible. i dun even feel like living!!!
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i don expect she will propose the break up and it is too sudden.....Originally posted by Bear:care to tell us wat happen?? coz u dun just forget this/that person that easily.. esp he/she crossed ur life and been wif u so closely... Understand that it's hard to forget, but slowly it will go.. Just think back a couple of mths ago, isn't the feeling worse than wat u r having now?? I dun think it's the same... Yes, i agree that maybe u still have her on ur mind, that I cannot deny, but I believe the degree has drop slightly... Yes u still recall the places that u have been together... but I believe that the memories are fading... U feel hurt, u feel sad it's normal.. but I'm certain that u are getting better. I can't possibly ask u to forget, and *click* the next thing u r in able to accept another person again.. this is not life. It wun be called emotions... Who dun wish the downhill side of our lives to end earlier?? but the thing is the slope is it's just a momentary thingy.. maybe yours is longer than the other, but it will surely come to an end.
I believe that maybe this is ur first r/s or maybe it's ur first proper r/s in ur life... that's y u get so affected by it... but cheer up.. take it as a lesson learnt.. learn wat hap to it.. change if u really think that it's a liablilty... LEarn to accept the unforeseen character of a girl..
Meanwhile take care.. and get to know other pple.. Not asking u to get another girl, but just mixing ard.. maybe convert the feeling to ur work and play.. Do some volunteering work to change ur temper...
she say it is pressure and there is a feeling tat she is keeping something from me to u think it is fair for me??
i think it is very unfair for me cos i give her all the attention i can give her during the time we r together and break up juz because of pressure from donno wat...... -
Well, ever try to ask her nicely or in a more tactful way... maybez like way u said ur bad temper had made her not to tell u.. Probably she's kind of uneasy to tell u coz it will blow ur top... For instance *touchwood* she has feelings for another guy, do u think u can take it?? r u able to calm urself down??
I'm not saying that u r in the wrong, I understand that u may be desperate to get a reason from her... I'm sure the sudden break up does hurt u a lot that's y u r feeling this bad.
Maybe try to speak to her nicely.. and do update us on how u r getting on...
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Why get so upset over breakups?? Don't forget as a homo sapien, we have the duty to live our life to the fullest. Going through a failed relationship doesn't spell the end of everything.
My advice:
It's your choice whether u want to let go or not. If u cling onto the relationship, of course u would get angry when u start to think more about the whole thing. Let go, and don't let such matters bog u down.
It's never easy going through a breakup, but u are the person who is controlling the mood of the breakup. Think about it.
PS: Sorry if I sounded cold-blooded, but it is how I got myself out of the breakup atmosphere a few times round.
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i had already cool down and toke to her liao but the reason is still the same lor ....Originally posted by Bear:Well, ever try to ask her nicely or in a more tactful way... maybez like way u said ur bad temper had made her not to tell u.. Probably she's kind of uneasy to tell u coz it will blow ur top... For instance *touchwood* she has feelings for another guy, do u think u can take it?? r u able to calm urself down??
I'm not saying that u r in the wrong, I understand that u may be desperate to get a reason from her... I'm sure the sudden break up does hurt u a lot that's y u r feeling this bad.
Maybe try to speak to her nicely.. and do update us on how u r getting on...
now the problem is tat have i really forget her?? (i and her is in the same course so bum to each other is quite often) or am i juz cant get over it because of unfairness???
can someone tell me the real meaning of true love??? -
erm... u r quite rite this is want i m doing now tryong to control my mood lor so i m more happy tat wayOriginally posted by Larry:Why get so upset over breakups?? Don't forget as a homo sapien, we have the duty to live our life to the fullest. Going through a failed relationship doesn't spell the end of everything.
My advice:
It's your choice whether u want to let go or not. If u cling onto the relationship, of course u would get angry when u start to think more about the whole thing. Let go, and don't let such matters bog u down.
It's never easy going through a breakup, but u are the person who is controlling the mood of the breakup. Think about it.
PS: Sorry if I sounded cold-blooded, but it is how I got myself out of the breakup atmosphere a few times round. -
Originally posted by heavyarm:
Good for u. Go drink more water, play more sports, and u should feel better.
erm... u r quite rite this is want i m doing now tryong to control my mood lor so i m more happy tat way
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and not to forget to go out wif us more often... hee hee~ =) =)Originally posted by Larry:Good for u. Go drink more water, play more sports, and u should feel better.
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haha btw can u all intro urself?
me 17++ going to 18/m
from ngee ann poly -
Welcome to AA!!!
*Bear hUgg|Es*
I'm Bear 21/m. Pple call me unclez Bear, thanx to 'somebody'... but anyway got used to it liaoz.. and to think i added a title to all the pple here.. hee hee~ =) Currently serving my NS.. But gonna ORD soon... so happy another 3 more mths!!!!
Have fun here enjoy ur stay... Feel free to post ur feelings or opinions... but Please do keep the peace of this forum by not flaming....
Once againz enjoy ur stay wif us...
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[This message has been edited by Bear (edited 28 February 2001).] -
Hi. I'm Larry, more commonly known as Uncle Larry here. I'm 24 as from now and obviously a male. I'm in the local workforce.
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welcum to AA~~~~~~
i'm babyacid, or more commonly known as " waitrezz babyacid " all thanx to uncle bear.. no, i'm not a waitrezz ( as yet ) but tat's my "ambition" lohz... mi charboh (duhz) & i'm 19 this year... working now, waiting for mi a's level results... hopefully goin uni this year~~ as for my real name... erm... heez... dun disclose for now~ -
erhh-hmm!! may i have ur attention please!!
this is a very IMPORTANT announcement:
"This is 'aunty' t|rEd speaking. (<-- someone gave me this title tooz!!) h|aKs~" so AA.....i mean attention attracting. hee~
well well, ust wanna welcome u to AA s in aunt agony, eh, feel free to post ur views n opinions and ur problems. =) pple here will try to help as best as they can. =)
newae, we all bery nice one lo. so no need scared of us. =))) hee~ once again, welcome here. hope ya enjoy ur stya here, and do make urself feel at home. =))) -
t|rEd:
Aiyoz.. already called aunty still want to attract attention.... hee hee~
later all the newbies all run away.... haa haa~
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