what am i feeling????
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hi...
i juz got 2 know this gal recently, i do not deny the fact that i am attracted to her- but it is the negligible kind really...the kind one gets when you know someone new and the 2 of you hit it off really well.
recently she told me about there was this guy whom they were going out 'unofficially',apparently what everything that this guy is doing and showing of late is giving her every possible reason to leave him...even her frens and mum tell her so. but she refuses to let logic overrule her feelings.
i feel very troubled upon hearing it...i want to be there to protect and care for her...what exactly am i feeling?what exactly do i feel towards her?i know it isn't pity definitely....i am very bothered by it and i have been trying very hard to distance myself from her...cos i know that the moment that i confirm that i have fallen in love with her,it will be a dead-end...i will only make myself more miserable cos nothing good will come out of it!!what exactly am i felling????what is my state of mind now????arghhh -
crapshik,
It is, in fact, very natural of you to behave and feel in the way you r feeling rite now, when you fall for some1, be it just a crush or deeply in love.
Allow me to quote a few examples of the things you will want to do for her, without you realising it.....
1) If she's sick, u will wish that u r there to take care of her or bring her to a doctor.
2) When she's unhappy or sad, u will lend her a listening ear more than willing. U will wish to know whats on her mind actually.
3) When she's disappointed, you hope u will be there to give her a word of comfort.
4) When she cry, u dun mind lending her a shoulder to cry on........
5) When shes in fear, you will be there to protect her and make sure nothing will happen to her.
6) When she fell, you would hope that you will be there to at least give her a pat on her back, making sure she will pick herself up again......
The bottomline is, u r feeling this way cos u start, or already like the ger, deeper and deeper. Its natural....... as a guy (okie no offence to gers but somehow most of the time we still treat gers as the more vulnerable gender), we really hope that the ger we love can be happy, hope that nobody will bully her etc..... so yr worries and feeling are natural.
Okie, a little off topic but i can understand why u r keeping a distance from her. Cos, u r not confident of yrself, u know that she wun like u yet. Many guys, including me, did these b4.....worst still, some guys might just say a couple of things to hurt the ger, so that she will hate him and eventually the distance will be greater. Foolish act, but guess thats what love can really do to a man.
My advise is, yes i know its not easy at this stage of yr point to completely forget her and ignore her, cos u still like her. Maybe u can really shower yr care and concern as a friend, and hope that eventually she will realise that theres some1 really good to her just beside her. Keep on 'protect'her, its yr duty
. If she appreciate it, maybe eventually, good. If not, still, u wun live in regret. I know its really really hard on u (actually i know how u feel now cos i went through this b4 also :p ) , but u should just keep hanging on. U can do it. Good Luck!
Regards
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this was the situation i was refering to lorz......pple rem my post the "dun understand *shakes head*" one? yep yep....exact case.Originally posted by crapshik:hi...
i juz got 2 know this gal recently, i do not deny the fact that i am attracted to her- but it is the negligible kind really...the kind one gets when you know someone new and the 2 of you hit it off really well.
recently she told me about there was this guy whom they were going out 'unofficially',apparently what everything that this guy is doing and showing of late is giving her every possible reason to leave him...even her frens and mum tell her so. but she refuses to let logic overrule her feelings.
i feel very troubled upon hearing it...i want to be there to protect and care for her...what exactly am i feeling?what exactly do i feel towards her?i know it isn't pity definitely....i am very bothered by it and i have been trying very hard to distance myself from her...cos i know that the moment that i confirm that i have fallen in love with her,it will be a dead-end...i will only make myself more miserable cos nothing good will come out of it!!what exactly am i felling????what is my state of mind now????arghhh
haizz...sollee, was crapping. duno how to help.......solleez......currently brain dead........*switches to away mode* -
really appreciate ur views Atti....glad u r willing to lend a listening ear...
but really i m keepin a distance also bcos i dun wan her to be a gal on the rebound ting n accept me...something she herself had said b4 tat it is extremely unfair to the guy n also cruel to hurt an innocent party...sigh...i really am pretty confused...i want to stop this shit but it juz wldnt leave my mind...haizzzzzzz -
all forgive me....juz need a medium to express my emotions....haizzz...i know i m lame n crap...but....
'love is not juz some MCQ test,
it doesn't even offer you a choice...
you can't even choose to take the test or
not,
it is beyond your control and logic...
you don't prepare you still can pass,
you prepare you still can fail...
it is life's greatest power and mystery!'
i know it doesnt rhyme it has no pattern no rhythm n all....but itz juz watz goin thro my mind... -
Hey, who says u r lame and crapping.. If this is genuinely how u feel abt this girl and wat u posted is from the bottom of ur heart, it wun be lame, and u r definitely not crapping, coz we do empathize wif u. This is the main purpose of this forum here... to listen and to help..Originally posted by crapshik:all forgive me....juz need a medium to express my emotions....haizzz...i know i m lame n crap...but....
'love is not juz some MCQ test,
it doesn't even offer you a choice...
you can't even choose to take the test or
not,
it is beyond your control and logic...
you don't prepare you still can pass,
you prepare you still can fail...
it is life's greatest power and mystery!'
i know it doesnt rhyme it has no pattern no rhythm n all....but itz juz watz goin thro my mind...
We want to tell u that u r not the only one in this world. there are pple out there who cares for how u feel when u think that the whole world seems to shut down on you. It's not that urs is a small prob and we put it aside, coz there is no prob too small not to mentioned and no prob that is too big to be solved. so dun ever belittle urself again. Coz the moment u post something here in the forum, we regard u as one of our family members liaoz. and we respect the way u r.
Sorry this is a side track from the topic, but the thing is that we just want u to feel safe to share ur feelings wif us, and u r impt to us as anyone else...
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I just want to say... i believe sincerity will prove everything in life... Think she knows that u will always be there for her, she will ultimately come to you... becoz by then ur sincerity would have touched her. u may say that she can't see or can't feel ur presence and ur sincerity... but u just never know wat's gonna happen next. Be there for her as i said. Yes, they may see u an idiot waiting there for them. Yes maybe they will tell u not to wait, but Im' sure that ur heart will not be satisfied until u r by her side rite?? That's how i mean by u be there till being there... and touch her heart... till then i believe u can finally tell that u really love her and also proudly say that she's ur gf and u will cherish her much much more...Originally posted by crapshik:really appreciate ur views Atti....glad u r willing to lend a listening ear...
but really i m keepin a distance also bcos i dun wan her to be a gal on the rebound ting n accept me...something she herself had said b4 tat it is extremely unfair to the guy n also cruel to hurt an innocent party...sigh...i really am pretty confused...i want to stop this shit but it juz wldnt leave my mind...haizzzzzzz
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