He Likes me?? He likes me not?!
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I've met a guy recently, he is a colleage(going no to be anymore), well, there's a lot of things that he has said has made me so...confuse.
We were actually jus strangers, until abt 2 months back, becoz he jus join the company not so long along. We get to know each other better because of my attachment student, he was telling me that he thinks that my student is very sweet, very cute, so when ever he saw me, he jus ask me abt her. And our friendship started from there.....
He was the only colleage that I have in the company who met me up in the middle of the nite jus for a drink or a talk, kinda of funny ..i dunno why. There was once when we were having a drink, I ask him if he is really interestedin my attachment student, and he giva me a straight NO, coz she is too naive for him (she is 20 and he is 28, and I'm 22) So I ask him what kind of ger appeals to him, and he told me that she must be a chinese(i forgot to mention that he is an Indian Muslim), must look sweet to him, but not neccessary to be pretty, must have long hair, and most preferably a cantonese....now, this makes me suspicious, because, I fit in all the bill, except I dunno whether I look sweet to him or not... And whenever we talk, we always seems to be flirting. I'm very confused, because when we were in the company, we would pretend that we dunno each other very well, coz we, or rather me was afraid that the tongue would get wagging if we get too close.
And now, I start to get irritated whenever he ask me abt the student, which is very often, because I do't really like the student very much too, but he jus doesn't seems to get the clue, even when i answer him "What bisness issit of mine?? Dunnno how to go and ask her urself ar, dun ask me abt her okay?!"....geeze....I'm so fierce!
Last nite, we have actually arrange to go for a midnite show, and in the last min, he call off becoz of some reasons which i'm not going to say here. When he call me, I was with my other friends, and one of them, a he, was trying to repair his bike, so he made a lot of noise in the background. Then he ask me, where was I, what was i doing, and when I say :"My friend, he is repairing his bike", he's voice immediately changed! "Oh, a guy har..." it was like, did i hear a note of jealousy?? I know not. so I clarify with him that there were other ppl around too...and immediately he relax. Then..in a voice I have never heard from him, very gentle, he told me that he was sorry that he could not make it and ask for the appointment to be shifted to wed, and he tell me to save that show for him, dun watch with other people...
Arrgghh....Can u guys tell me, jus what is going on in his mind?? Guys, u guys know what GUYS think rite?? Tell me....
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LOVE? Its kind of complicated, but let me tell you this......the second you are willing to make yourself miserable to make someone else happy, that's LOVE right
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Sam Sam -
wah......this is too complicated...hard for the 17+++ yr old me to understand~ anyway~ wish ya all da best~ gd luck~ lots of luck!
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I may not be rite but to me, it seems like the guy is trying to 'woo' the attachment girl. But if he failed, well, u will naturally become his next target.
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Hmm.....dun think so, cause whenever i create chance for them(that was in the beginning when I still okay with my IO student) He always say, no need. If he wants to woo her, he will go for it, he don't need my help, and i dunno, I think I trust him on that base on my understanding of him
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LOVE? Its kind of complicated, but let me tell you this......the second you are willing to make yourself miserable to make someone else happy, that's LOVE right
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Sam Sam -
ask him~?! Then make the move from then on. Dun be shy, cause if you dun ask.. you will never know. He might be waiting for you to make the first move... ALthough this will put alot of things at stake... you will at least know the answers to your questions..
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Love? Well, for me... It starts with a smile, Develops into a kiss and ends with a tear...
In your service,
Dragonlance -
Ask him...nah, its so embarassing! What if he say, NO, how?? If he don't work in my company, I may ask, but he is my colleague leh!
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LOVE? Its kind of complicated, but let me tell you this......the second you are willing to make yourself miserable to make someone else happy, that's LOVE right
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Sam Sam -
then... ask a friend to ask for you. Someone on the neutral side who does not take his or your side. For... if you carry on like this...i fear that you might go insane, not knowing the truth. Or maybe worse, the feeling of like for you (if he has any...) might change. EMBARAESSED you might say...but i told you before that this asking will involve a huge risk. Whatever path you take... think carefully...and good LUck~!
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Crazy for her~!
she rolls the window down and she talks over the sound of the cars that pass us by and I don't know why but she's changed my mind she was the one to hold me
the night the sky fell down and what was I thinkin when the world didn't end why didn't I know what I know now.would you look at her as she looks at me
she's got me thinkin about her constantly but she don't know how I feel
and as she carries on without a doubt I wonder if she's figured out.
Dragonlance -
waaa..cheemology...sorry ah, me too young to understand n give crap advice oso. =) hee~
anyway, seems to me like it's more of green light, den red light green light den red light......=) no la, just joking. but really, he does seem kinda interested in u. u noe, some guys can do certain dumb things just to get gals attn. so most prolly, by asking u bout ur attachment student, he can get to talk to u ma. albeit just asking bout the student, at least u're having a conversation with him, and it gives u people an extra topic to talk about other than work. =)))
hope i'm not leading u to read the wrong signals. =) well, guess all i can say is, GD LUCK!!! hee~ go ahead n ask him la. ur face/ego worth how much? wat if he turns out to be ur future husband leh? for ur happiness, gan gan wen!!! =) -
Well if u ask me, the guy may be juz waiting for your next move. Some guys juz dun have the courage to make the first move and tries a great deal to get close to the girl and while with them, won't let them have the impression that he love her. Instead he divert her attention to another one as u mentioned before.Originally posted by UgLy BuT AdOrabLe:Ask him...nah, its so embarassing! What if he say, NO, how?? If he don't work in my company, I may ask, but he is my colleague leh!
Go for it loh, if u ask me, take the first move, if he really reject u juz take it as a lesson learnt...:> :} :p
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
Well if u ask me, the guy may be juz waiting for your next move. Some guys juz dun have the courage to make the first move and tries a great deal to get close to the girl and while with them, won't let them have the impression that he love her. Instead he divert her attention to another one as u mentioned before.Originally posted by mikegk_76:[QUOTE]Originally posted by UgLy BuT AdOrabLe:
[b]Ask him...nah, its so embarassing! What if he say, NO, how?? If he don't work in my company, I may ask, but he is my colleague leh!
Go for it loh, if u ask me, take the first move, if he really reject u juz take it as a lesson learnt...:> :} :p
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Maybe after he left my company....sigh...i jus ask him today if he had ask her out, and he says, yes, a lot of time, but she seems like wan to go, dun wan to go like that....like play hard to get....hai...i got a feeling that my attachment student might have fall for him already... *panics*
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LOVE? Its kind of complicated, but let me tell you this......the second you are willing to make yourself miserable to make someone else happy, that's LOVE right
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Sam Sam -
Don't assume, confirm it, ask the attachment student, girls' talk ok one lah, she will tell u definitely, even if yes, u shouldn't b discourage 'cos they still not "stead" yet, rite? But it all depends on whether u wanna make the first move loh. Anyway, there's not only one guy out there mah...Originally posted by UgLy BuT AdOrabLe:Maybe after he left my company....sigh...i jus ask him today if he had ask her out, and he says, yes, a lot of time, but she seems like wan to go, dun wan to go like that....like play hard to get....hai...i got a feeling that my attachment student might have fall for him already... *panics*
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
I had the worst nitemare of my life last nite....my god..i couldn't believe it!! Ge actually flirt with another girl, right INFRONT of ME!!! And then...i wasn't so happy, not becoz of what what what lah, but....seems like, he as got no respect for me!! We went out alone, to a pub, and then he jus flirt with that waitress..gosh....I feel so awkward!!! So..I wasn't happy, naturally, I show a straight face..he say why I look so grumpy!! So I just say I want to go back , go home, then without waiting for him, I jus walk away...very bad rite? But I cannot tahan already...arrrgghhh!! Then on the way to bus-stop, he keep asking me, y am i so grumpy all of a sudden, I just say no, nothing, i'm not grumpy, but he just wouldn't let me go until I give him the answer, but I jus ran across the road so that I dun need to answer his qs, but he jus won't give up, until I tell him, I'm tired, I wan to go home, then he is satisfied...sigh... not a very good sign...guess I'll jus back off, I cannot stand him flirting around right infront of me, I'll go bonkers...its jus too much...so mad ...
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LOVE? Its kind of complicated, but let me tell you this......the second you are willing to make yourself miserable to make someone else happy, that's LOVE right
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Sam Sam -
Can understand how u feel... Think I will be feeling that way also if I were u... But still feel that u shld tell him how u feel and y u felt it that way.. then he will understand u and the situation.. Next time he will be more attentive to the environment.Originally posted by UgLy BuT AdOrabLe:I had the worst nitemare of my life last nite....my god..i couldn't believe it!! Ge actually flirt with another girl, right INFRONT of ME!!! And then...i wasn't so happy, not becoz of what what what lah, but....seems like, he as got no respect for me!! We went out alone, to a pub, and then he jus flirt with that waitress..gosh....I feel so awkward!!! So..I wasn't happy, naturally, I show a straight face..he say why I look so grumpy!! So I just say I want to go back , go home, then without waiting for him, I jus walk away...very bad rite? But I cannot tahan already...arrrgghhh!! Then on the way to bus-stop, he keep asking me, y am i so grumpy all of a sudden, I just say no, nothing, i'm not grumpy, but he just wouldn't let me go until I give him the answer, but I jus ran across the road so that I dun need to answer his qs, but he jus won't give up, until I tell him, I'm tired, I wan to go home, then he is satisfied...sigh... not a very good sign...guess I'll jus back off, I cannot stand him flirting around right infront of me, I'll go bonkers...its jus too much...so mad ...
I'm not saying that u r wrong, but neither is he. Coz to a guy, it's natural to do it. But the misunderstanding lies in, he forgot that u were beside him at that pt of time. Just slip of the mind. And u know that guys always like to flirt ard wif pretty girls.. On the other hand, for a girl, I'm sure u expect to be the centre of attention from any guy that ask u out rite?? This is natural too.. In this case, both of u juz dun see eye to eye at that moment of time. Everything is due to the nature of the 2 different gender. Can't really blame him.. Neither can he be angry wif u for walking out on him...
think try explaining to him... and he will understand ur reaction that day.. and he will forget abt the matter.. And u on ur part shld forget the matter too, coz if things are preceived becoz of human nature, I dun think the person himself is at fault...
dunno if u agree wif me??
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
Gosh...I think I'm going to die.....HE IS A MARRIED MAN!!!!! Oh my god....had I not found out...I wouldn't have known how much I will continue to fall...lucky!! My gosh...I really pity his wife, there she is, working so hard for the family, and there he is, trying to break up the family...how cld he denied the fact that he is married and when around chasing other girls!!!! My gosh.I'm going to faint....Y AM I SO UNLUCKY!!!!!!!!
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LOVE? Its kind of complicated, but let me tell you this......the second you are willing to make yourself miserable to make someone else happy, that's LOVE right
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Sam Sam -
Sometimes guy do stupid thing when they are attracted to a girl.Trust me.I guess i'm not the first one to say it but the best solution to ur problem is to speak to him personally.Dragging this issue any longer will not do either of u any good.
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So I say that I'm lucky now that I have nothing more to do with him?? But the most angry thing that he has done is that he has not bother to explain to his wife that I'm just a colleague of his who has lend him some $$ and was out to get it back from him, rather then some chits who is trying to seduce her husband!! Imagine, when I called him on his hp to have his wife answer the phone?? My degree of shockness level?!? Thanks god then I'm clear minded enough to stay calm and state my position...lucky I have got my $$ back...and he is a real whim..throughout the whole issue of his wife trying the transfer the money back to my account, he dare not come to the phone and speak to me even when I insist to talk to me....nvm then I'll be glad not to even hear his voice again....mind him not to ever call me again, if not, i'll scold him UPSIDE DOWN!!
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LOVE? Its kind of complicated, but let me tell you this......the second you are willing to make yourself miserable to make someone else happy, that's LOVE right
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Sam Sam -
ooopps so sorry... I mistook that guy for ur brother.. coz in the post which u are angry wif him coz he's flirting ard a waitress, u mentioned the word 'ge' think u meant 'he' instead... That's y, if the earlier post I took it as it was ur brother who is wif u. coz 'ge' in Chinese means brother..
Having understand wat's going on... I agree wif u that u shld not haf anything to do wif him... He bad bad nosy no good guy... Disgrace us guys only... Somemore of family liaoz... Feel so that that I'm actually seeing a guy doing such a thing now...
apologises againz...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
Oh, really, thing's r really unexpected. I am also shocked that this guy's actually married. But didn't it ever come across your mind that he's married or all the colleagues there dun even know that, huh? Anyway, juz treat this as a lesson learnt, take care, UGLY BUT ADORABLE...Originally posted by UgLy BuT AdOrabLe:So I say that I'm lucky now that I have nothing more to do with him?? But the most angry thing that he has done is that he has not bother to explain to his wife that I'm just a colleague of his who has lend him some $$ and was out to get it back from him, rather then some chits who is trying to seduce her husband!! Imagine, when I called him on his hp to have his wife answer the phone?? My degree of shockness level?!? Thanks god then I'm clear minded enough to stay calm and state my position...lucky I have got my $$ back...and he is a real whim..throughout the whole issue of his wife trying the transfer the money back to my account, he dare not come to the phone and speak to me even when I insist to talk to me....nvm then I'll be glad not to even hear his voice again....mind him not to ever call me again, if not, i'll scold him UPSIDE DOWN!!
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
hahahahahaha....gooooooooooooood for you
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I SAW HIM AGAIN!!!!
I dunno y, i got a shock of my life and fled the moment i saw him, i jus got a very bad shock...but after that, i ask myself, y shd i avoid him?? he shd be avoiding me, and not the other way round!! That shameless man is wif another young lady....i really pity that ger
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It's better to lose your pride to the one you love, than to lose the one you love because of pride.
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*Sandeee* -
if u dun mind wat he did to u , and u pity his wife, go tell that damn jerk to start thinking bout his family and stop breaking pple's hearts
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What!? That rat is a two-timing louse and you are avoiding him? Shame on you. Show some self-respect and pride in yourself, woman. If he doesn't leave you alone and still tries to insinuate himself on to you, go to your boss and accuse him of sexual harassment. That should get rid of that piece of turd!!
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He is such a disgrace...my goodness... he reminds me of a guy I haf a crush on now, The worst type to fall in love with. Obviously attached yet still go around with other gers, flirting and making sure he has a spare tyre or another ger to go out with. Such an ass. I think I undertstand how u feel ugly but adorable...this kinda man just make u stronger. What doesn't kill you make you stronger
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Yep, I'm stronger now...and my heart has sort of like travel into an ice stage. I wan to love, but its not easy now, I just don't give a damn anymore.. Know what? I almost , i mean ALMOST fall for another guy who had deceived abt his maritial status, lucky for me that I found out and I have fall into the trap yet...*phew*
Cheers for me..
Rite now, nothing is more impt than my future, guess i have reach another turning point in my life, got tough decision to make now...study or work... got any suggestion?
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The reason U're my
friend is because, If I was Lost, You'd Find Me
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*Sandeee* -
erm .. yeah .. dump the jerk .. good lesson to check on the guy before you actually fall for him next time.
and go study .. take a few years break from work. and pick something you`d like to study.