In love wif older guy
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I have a crush on a 30 yr old guy. I only met him on fri and he seem to leave a deep impression in my mind.we r working at an exhibition, but different booth. the exhibition last till sun, but we still contact each other even after tat. I am going 22 tis yr. Do u think it is impossible? my mind still thinking a lot abt him...
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oso..just to add..how to appraoch him? how to date him or wooo him?
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Babygal,
I can't say that it's not possible for anything to happen in this world. coz couples of age differences more than ten yrs are happily married together. But I hope that u wun let this sudden interest for the new guy be one that will blind u... coz not to say anything, but as a guy myself, I would say u have to be more careful.
I dun quite encourage the ask-him-out, but a drop-hints techique. Coz it will mean u r an easy catch and the guy wun appreciate u as much. Since u r saying that u are still in contact wif him, maybe just sort of sound u r interested in him... and see for urself his reaction... and if he has the similiar kind of interest to know u better.. then he will ask u out.. But the key point is dun over express urself...
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( 'o' ) Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
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(.)_(.) A Beary *Huggiez* for you...
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u more interested u seem, the less appealing you are. Know him as a friend first. Who knows maybe he is engaged!
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**I want u to be with me.....
be with me in the morning...be with me in the nite...with me when its dark out...with me when its light...
I want u to be with me...no matter what we do...just keep this reminder...of how much I love u...** -
Good point....Originally posted by Bear:Babygal,
I can't say that it's not possible for anything to happen in this world. coz couples of age differences more than ten yrs are happily married together. But I hope that u wun let this sudden interest for the new guy be one that will blind u... coz not to say anything, but as a guy myself, I would say u have to be more careful.
I dun quite encourage the ask-him-out, but a drop-hints techique. Coz it will mean u r an easy catch and the guy wun appreciate u as much. Since u r saying that u are still in contact wif him, maybe just sort of sound u r interested in him... and see for urself his reaction... and if he has the similiar kind of interest to know u better.. then he will ask u out.. But the key point is dun over express urself...
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I have no 'friends' or 'family'.
I hold no past and believe no future...
These are just illusions....
I am only lonely, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II -
PERSONALLY, I would say that life is full of 'adventures'... It's nice to try out things that you like in life once in a while.... But better know what you're doing......Originally posted by babygal:oso..just to add..how to appraoch him? how to date him or wooo him?
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I have no 'friends' or 'family'.
I hold no past and believe no future...
These are just illusions....
I am only lonely, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II -
yup guess what u ppl say make sense...
he did sms me when he home after work n i din sms him other than late at nite cos i know he is working and will be kind of bz. hope tat not consider obvious,.... -
That's playing well by the book.. but I think sometimes a little surprise sms will brighten up his day also.. like asking him how is he at work or some kind of things similiar.. then I think it will spice him up and boost his interest.. but still dun over do it...
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( 'o' ) Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
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(.)_(.) A Beary *Huggiez*...
~.~.~. For you, I care and love. -
i have to agree that u better check it out if he's engaged! or else i am afraid that u might end up having the same fate as my fren.. well, maybe drop hints to him.. i think 8 yrs of age is rather alrite as u both are adults already..so it's different from a 12 yr old girl wif a 20 yr old man...
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sigh jus realise tat he is attached, but relationship is on the rock. Feeling so sad abt it!
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Worse. wait he treat u as sparetyre.Originally posted by babygal:sigh jus realise tat he is attached, but relationship is on the rock. Feeling so sad abt it!
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**I want u to be with me.....
be with me in the morning...be with me in the nite...with me when its dark out...with me when its light...
I want u to be with me...no matter what we do...just keep this reminder...of how much I love u...** -
At least things are kinda OBVIOUS for now...?Originally posted by babygal:sigh jus realise tat he is attached, but relationship is on the rock. Feeling so sad abt it!
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II -
Don't think too much loh, there's still plentiful of gd guys out there...Originally posted by babygal:sigh jus realise tat he is attached, but relationship is on the rock. Feeling so sad abt it!
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
well we sms again yesterday. He and his gf has settled their things. He did not know tat i have a crush on him. However he ask me abt it and he admit tat he do have some special feelings for me as well. However since we both admit the little special feelings for each other, we decide not to let things get out of hand as it can be very painful.... anyway we stay as "siblings" and close fren. wat u guys think?
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I'm ALWAYS AVAILABLE...Originally posted by babygal:well we sms again yesterday. He and his gf has settled their things. He did not know tat i have a crush on him. However he ask me abt it and he admit tat he do have some special feelings for me as well. However since we both admit the little special feelings for each other, we decide not to let things get out of hand as it can be very painful.... anyway we stay as "siblings" and close fren. wat u guys think?
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II -
Methinks its a good choice. Just to share something...Originally posted by babygal:However since we both admit the little special feelings for each other, we decide not to let things get out of hand as it can be very painful.... anyway we stay as "siblings" and close fren. wat u guys think?
when i was younger and full of nonsense. I chased a younger girl who have been attached for 6 years, then we were like going together for a while but behind my back she was still seeing her ex. Later, we broke off but the thing that stuck to my mind till today was what she said...
Me: I don't see what i lose out to him other than my height.
She: Oh there's something u lose him. "Tah bi jiao ting hua" translated means he's more obedient.
The morale of the story is "Don't be a third party, otherwise its gonna make a mess out of everybody's lives." Hmmm... i think i still can be friends with her now but haven't seen her like for 7 years oredi. -
hmm.. I would also think that it's a good idea... at least get to know each other better first before any thing serious happens.. and have to be sure that somethings are settled and nothing is in ur way then it will be good for any 2 pple to start a r/s. I would say, at this moment, I believe it's wat I always say, interested-to-know stage... so get to know him well first lahz... even as a fren... or like wat u said he's now ur sibling...Originally posted by babygal:well we sms again yesterday. He and his gf has settled their things. He did not know tat i have a crush on him. However he ask me abt it and he admit tat he do have some special feelings for me as well. However since we both admit the little special feelings for each other, we decide not to let things get out of hand as it can be very painful.... anyway we stay as "siblings" and close fren. wat u guys think?
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( 'o' ) Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
(,) (,) =======================
(.)_(.) Beary Bear *Huggiez*...
~.~.~. For you, I care and love. -
I'm ALWAYS AVAILABLE...Originally posted by Devil1976:[QUOTE]Originally posted by babygal:
[b]well we sms again yesterday. He and his gf has settled their things. He did not know tat i have a crush on him. However he ask me abt it and he admit tat he do have some special feelings for me as well. However since we both admit the little special feelings for each other, we decide not to let things get out of hand as it can be very painful.... anyway we stay as "siblings" and close fren. wat u guys think?
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err...wat u mean by tat? u mean he is saying that i might have a chance? i doubt so. he already say dun let things get out of hand if not can be painful. -
i think wat u ppl say make sense. But seriously, if u r in a r/s, do u really take yr own sweet time getting to know tat person until u really very sure tat u r ready? if u really like tat person u really let time tell? i duno. many of my fren don't cos he/she may jus be another person's gf/bf. Anyway despite him ahving gf, he still sms me every nite when he not wif gf. he did tell me not to sms him fr fri to sat nite cos he wif gf. Anyway like wat u ppl and wat i say earlier, treat him as my bro first.
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not advisable.. endless miseries ahead..
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I'M ALWAYS AVAILABLEOriginally posted by babygal:err...wat u mean by tat? u mean he is saying that i might have a chance? i doubt so. he already say dun let things get out of hand if not can be painful. <- I'm talking about myself!!!!
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II -
~Sigh..~ People... COMPLICATIONs..... Hey! Sounds like an interesting game to me...?! :pOriginally posted by babygal:i think wat u ppl say make sense. But seriously, if u r in a r/s, do u really take yr own sweet time getting to know tat person until u really very sure tat u r ready? if u really like tat person u really let time tell? i duno. many of my fren don't cos he/she may jus be another person's gf/bf. Anyway despite him ahving gf, he still sms me every nite when he not wif gf. he did tell me not to sms him fr fri to sat nite cos he wif gf. Anyway like wat u ppl and wat i say earlier, treat him as my bro first.
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II -
Little mind... ~Great thinking..~ Hope it's NOT a pessimestic point of view that hits in just by coincidence...??Originally posted by keyi:not advisable.. endless miseries ahead..
:p :p :p
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II -
Ok to keep u guys update, we talk on fone yesterday. well..the conclusion is, we will not be able to sms each other everyday nor on the fone. It is jus not rite. Well he do not wan his gf to misunderstood and if his gf came to noe abt us, he will find it difficult to explain. Thus, we'll tok on fone once a while and meanwhile communicate via email. he says tat if we were to continue smsing, something is bound to happen, thus prevention is better than cure. Anyway i think he make sense. although i very much wan to be wif him, i do not wan him to treat me as sparetyre or to be a third party. Anyway i jus have to give him up and seriously, i do adore him for being so faithful to his gf...
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I believe u can still maintain a platonic friendship. However, this measure has to be taken with great caution. I myself wouldn't like to lose a friend just because of such misunderstandings. You will need to draw the line between friendship and love distinctly. Think about it and maybe you will see the light.