I only earn $1.5k a month. Will any girls marry me?
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don't let a few bad apples spoil your outlook. it will simply make u bitter
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ts
u must understand your objective of getting hitched
is it for
1 championship
2 follow the trend - people married, i must also follw suit
3 becos of having the next generation
4 family, relatives, peer pressure - why u never married - got health problem is it
be it local or foreign gals - they are protect by Women Charter Act
ts u must tried to figure out how to increase your earning capacity, spent and invest wisely
god will bless you
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I think in today's society, your situation does make it abit harder to find a gf. However, instead of stressing about it, try to improve your situation.
At the same time, try and make your personal qualities stand out and use them to attract someone u like. It's not so common these days, but i think there are still people who like another for who (rather than what) they are.
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2 things:
If you have time on your side, give yourself time to work towards a better spot - it's hard, but entirely possible to do that.
Also, have you honestly critiqued yourself on the standards you expect from a girl?
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Originally posted by Loor:
I think in today's society, your situation does make it abit harder to find a gf. However, instead of stressing about it, try to improve your situation.
At the same time, try and make your personal qualities stand out and use them to attract someone u like. It's not so common these days, but i think there are still people who like another for who (rather than what) they are.
hear hear!
a lasting relatinship is where not only is one physically and mentally attracted to but also like and respect each other.
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i think we shld be realistic. ultimately, marriage means living together and it means living in singapore.Be it where the bride comes from, they live in sg and they adhere to the living standards here. However simple a living they might agree to, having a substantial/sufficient income to maintain living is still impt.
Bringing in a bride from another country may or may not be the solution too also. We cannot be sure that they will not use income as a judging guide and we cannot ensure that they wont be influence be us, fellow singaporeans. So best thing to TS is to try and increase your income. Living in sg is totally not easy, more so for starting a family.
Also, lets stop flaming xiaogougou for we all know how restricted his mindset is when it comes to accepting other ppl's opinion as compared to his whereby only his is right while others are all wrong even in a no right or wrong scenario.
This question TS posted in here is in the first place a question/problem subjected to different ppl's opinion. Lets remain a open mind on its discussion.
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Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:
i think we shld be realistic. ultimately, marriage means living together and it means living in singapore.Be it where the bride comes from, they live in sg and they adhere to the living standards here. However simple a living they might agree to, having a substantial/sufficient income to maintain living is still impt.
Bringing in a bride from another country may or may not be the solution too also. We cannot be sure that they will not use income as a judging guide and we cannot ensure that they wont be influence be us, fellow singaporeans. So best thing to TS is to try and increase your income. Living in sg is totally not easy, more so for starting a family.
Also, lets stop flaming xiaogougou for we all know how restricted his mindset is when it comes to accepting other ppl's opinion as compared to his whereby only his is right while others are all wrong even in a no right or wrong scenario.
This question TS posted in here is in the first place a question/problem subjected to different ppl's opinion. Lets remain a open mind on its discussion.
his mindset is restricted. -
i'm from o'seas so maybe i don't understand you local pressures. it sounds like $ or very impt. or is it the singaporean focus? i have stated my views and will add.
1. marriage and living together sounds so terminal! maybe try living together and then maybe if compatable get married if kids are intended?
2. if one takes a bride form out of singapore, there are 3 options. move to singapore or move to where the bride is from or move to neutral grounds.
think outside the square.. money helps (i won't deny) but it is not an end in itself.
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heavy stuff for a forum! let lighten up. why marry?
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Originally posted by Rrrsnider:
i'm from o'seas so maybe i don't understand you local pressures. it sounds like $ or very impt. or is it the singaporean focus? i have stated my views and will add.
1. marriage and living together sounds so terminal! maybe try living together and then maybe if compatable get married if kids are intended?
2. if one takes a bride form out of singapore, there are 3 options. move to singapore or move to where the bride is from or move to neutral grounds.
think outside the square.. money helps (i won't deny) but it is not an end in itself.
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oops! i should have kept my mouth shut. please don't tell me to get lost, as i'm fm australia and i'm white female.
b4 you may tell me, i will clarify. i'm not trying to change your local values or interfere, but i do like mingling with locals when i go to singapore. not get much chance to mix with those my age. just those that i meet and converse with. singaporeans are friendly bunch. please keep it that way.
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Originally posted by Disman:
ts
u must understand your objective of getting hitched
is it for
1 championship
2 follow the trend - people married, i must also follw suit
3 becos of having the next generation
4 family, relatives, peer pressure - why u never married - got health problem is it
be it local or foreign gals - they are protect by Women Charter Act
ts u must tried to figure out how to increase your earning capacity, spent and invest wisely
god will bless you
OMG where is the LOVE???
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i agree
i'm romantic too. there needs to be love.
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Originally posted by IamVirgin:
OMG where is the LOVE???
Sings:
" Where is the Love ~~~~~~~~~~~ The Love .... The Love ... The Love The Love The Love ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "
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Originally posted by Disman:
ts
u must understand your objective of getting hitched
is it for
1 championship
2 follow the trend - people married, i must also follw suit
3 becos of having the next generation
4 family, relatives, peer pressure - why u never married - got health problem is it
be it local or foreign gals - they are protect by Women Charter Act
ts u must tried to figure out how to increase your earning capacity, spent and invest wisely
god will bless you
uh btw wat the hell do u mean by 'championship'?
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I'd wager he meant to say companionship, but maybe he really is looking for a trophy wife :p
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Originally posted by IamVirgin:
uh btw wat the hell do u mean by 'championship'?
its probably like "ole ole ole ole~~~ ole ole~~ i FINALLY got a gf/wife and removes white headband and stamps on it"
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but tell me, when the love goes or fades does that mean break up or live a lie?
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Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:
i think we shld be realistic. ultimately, marriage means living together and it means living in singapore.Be it where the bride comes from, they live in sg and they adhere to the living standards here. However simple a living they might agree to, having a substantial/sufficient income to maintain living is still impt.
Bringing in a bride from another country may or may not be the solution too also. We cannot be sure that they will not use income as a judging guide and we cannot ensure that they wont be influence be us, fellow singaporeans. So best thing to TS is to try and increase your income. Living in sg is totally not easy, more so for starting a family.
Also, lets stop flaming xiaogougou for we all know how restricted his mindset is when it comes to accepting other ppl's opinion as compared to his whereby only his is right while others are all wrong even in a no right or wrong scenario.
This question TS posted in here is in the first place a question/problem subjected to different ppl's opinion. Lets remain a open mind on its discussion.
What flame? Duhhh !!! When did I ever claim I am always right? Just because I retorted some of your posts does not bring everybody else into the picture ok? You are the whos restricted, not accepting what ppl say to you. Quit putting words into my mouth !!
Now, I am offering genuine advice to TS' predicament here.
Just a sidenote, I am not an advocate in marrying foreign girls. I only recommended TS try wooing Malaysian girls. I personally do not consider Malaysian girls as foreign cos Malaysians have been living among us for as long as i can recall. You dont consider your neighbour as foreign do you?
It is a fact that with TS' income cap, it'll be very hard to get a local gf, needless say marriage.
Some of you go against the idea that TS go find a wife overseas, then how you tell me? What other advice can be offered in TS current state?
Unless TS can magically double or triple his earning capacity overnight, or some nice lady is gracious enough to accept him, the chances of him scoring a local gal is beyond minute.
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Originally posted by IamVirgin:
uh btw wat the hell do u mean by 'championship'?
i guess he meant companionship.
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hey xiaogougou nothing wrong with us white girls
if we are good enough to go out with, party, mingle and to enjoy each other- then if it's right marrying is right too. if ther's love!
and TS will find his girl from singapore or foreign. everyone will find someone compatable. just keep looking and trying out.
no don;t act like my X's parents'
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due to high std of living in s'pore
men need high salary to sustain family expense
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nothing wrong with local gals high expectation from men
marriage is just like a transaction
becos we cannot survive on tap water ONLY
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that's the real problem.
you want the girl / guy but don't want to give anything up. why can't your compromise your standards and settle with the one you love? is it because you love yourself more?
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Originally posted by Rrrsnider:
hey xiaogougou nothing wrong with us white girls
if we are good enough to go out with, party, mingle and to enjoy each other- then if it's right marrying is right too. if ther's love!
and TS will find his girl from singapore or foreign. everyone will find someone compatable. just keep looking and trying out.
no don;t act like my X's parents'
What? WHITE girls? Simi white gals ?!Which part white? Backside white or neh neh white ?
What talking you man?
Ya, good that theres love but what about the bread? Got love, no bread you still starve to death you know?
You must be very young to think that way.
You need to realize you are not living in a fairyland you know, where u live happily ever after. Where are your marriage expenses going to come from? Where are you gonna live? What about after marriage when you have kids? What do have to give to raise a child and give them education? It is a killer to bring up children in Singapore in case you are not aware..
Do you know that the most common reason that married couples divorce is because of monetary issues? So please refrain from making naive remarks ok?
Your ideology doesnt really work in Singapore's context.